"You never hang out with me anymore!"

[McDreidel09]

So today, I got a message from an old friend back home on myspace. I had posted a survey bulletin saying "I should be doing homework,but..."

He said to me "You should be hanging out with friends who care about you. Oh wait. You do, so I must be an alien."

Ok. What the hell? Let me get this straight.

I told you way before I left that I was going away for school. I came back home one weekend. You asked me where I have been. I told you again. I go back to school. On my myspace surveys, I talk about being at UWP, at school. You make no attempt to contact me. Then when I say that Tattoo is my best friend, you flip out because I don't hang out with you anymore?

Um. Yeah. No. Sorry. Tattoo is the only non family person from home who talks to me on a consistent basis. He is the only person outside of family to call me up and say "I'm so glad you are home. I missed you. Will you hang out with me?"

When I let everyone else know that I will be home, they never respond back. I never hear from them.

This hasn't been a one time occurrence. People have been getting mad at me because I don't hang out with them anymore. Ok. Again, I am two hours away with no car, at school. I told you where I was going.

I have realized that my town is populated by moronic people and that I did the right thing by getting out of there.

[kiwi]

When I let everyone else know that I will be home, they never respond back. I never hear from them.

I know that feeling, last time I went back to NZ I tried calling people to make plans and they were too busy. I was home for TEN months and barely saw any of my so called friends.

Two weeks before I leave, I'm extremely busy trying to pack, organise paperwork, see my family and the few friends who did hang out with me and all of a sudden everyone wants to be my best friend...then they get angry with ME because I can't make time for them! One of my close friends bailed on me twice during the year on movie plans then can't understand why I can't spend my entire last Saturday with them.

Then after I left I emailed these people every couple of weeks and got either no replies or a two line email. So I stop emailing them because I'm not going to waste my time and the last two months I have been besieged with "WHYDONT YOU EMAIL ME" and "I feel like we are drifting apart".....

No shit sherlock what did you think would happen, I barely hear from you for over a year and you wonder why we aren't best buddies anymore. I've moved on, I have new friends in my life who give a crap about me. The friendship ship has sailed. Your loss, a friendship can't be one sided.

[blas87]

People can be such jerks sometimes.

If I had a nickel for every "friend" who texted me or messaged me wanting to hang out or whatever, only to ditch me or just throw a shit fit or dramatic fit about where we are or what we're doing, I would have almost a week of vacation time at work!

[Stormraven]

Well, at least your friends care enough to throw fits.

Over the last fifteen years, three separate circles of friends, only one keeps in touch with us. We've given up trying - we get in touch with them, they're all happy to talk, but they never make any effort to make the connection themselves.

[Boozy]

Friends come and go, and I've never thought it a big deal.

When I move out of a city, leave school, or quit a job, I realize that I probably won't see much more of the friends I'm leaving behind. Even if we were close at the time. Life will get in the way. I wish them well, but I'm not likely to pick up the phone much.

When people move on with their lives, they lose contact with those they left behind because they don't have anything in common anymore. My co-workers are friends mostly because we share a common work experience. Same with school friends.

Just because friendships don't last forever doesn't mean they weren't meaningful and important during the time they lasted.

[Slytovhand]

I have this issue a fair bit... cos ppl don't bother to expend energy or effort on me, I refuse to give any to them... simple - and fair!

So, I've lost lots of people throughout my years!

I've currently got an invite on FB from someone who didn't do much to talk to me at work..(not that I'm crying over that!)

I lived 5 years in Melbourne. It's only a couple of hours flight away, which is only $300 return. I got visits all of TWICE in all that time...! 1 I can understand - kids. But trust me, you don't want to get on my arse about who I visit when I went to Bris... those half-dozen+ times!!!!

(now I'm in China.. love to see who comes and visits )

[Nyoibo]

I've travelled across countries to visit people, I've driven from Ohio to New York and then New York to Miami and from Adelaide to Queensland to visit people, I've never had anyone come visit me, even when they've been not more than a few hours by car or an hour or so by plane. away

[blas87]

The only reason I brought up the fact about my friends/acquaintances throwing fits is because they do. And I don't think I should be happy that they throw fits, because I'd rather never speak to some of them again than deal with how some of them have acted when we meet up.

[RecoveringKinkoid]

Throwing a fit is a surefire way to make sure you see even less of me.

Really, I hate that. You can confront me if you have a problem, you can even yell at me or chew me out if you have a problem. Throwing fits, however, will have the exact opposite effect from what they want