My dorm hall

[McDreidel09]

I live in an all girls dorm. It wasn't my choice. I don't think I even put this hall down as a choice, yet here I am. I honestly do not get along very well with women my age. I find teenage girls to be obnoxious, screechy, self-centered drama queens. Not all of them are like that, but the good majority of the ones I met are like that. Yes, I bolded that one part for emphasis, so no-one thinks I'm talking about all teenage girls. I haven't had the best experience with girls for friends. Just before coming to school, the girl who was supposed to be my best gal friend totally ditched me and never even called to explain why. I digress.

So, I really hate my dorm hall. The girls here have no respect for what they have. We are one of two dorms that has a full kitchen on every floor and they get it all messy. They leave dirty things in there. They don't know how to wrap up their feminine products before throwing them away.

They also don't know how to keep quiet. There is a difference between conversation noise that is at a reasonable level that you can't help but hear it because of how close together everything and deliberately being loud.

Most of the girls here are fresh out of high school and haven't graduated to being a mature adult yet. They make fun of what people wear. For instance, I have a pair of slippers that look like "grandma slippers". I received them as a Christmas present one year and they were cheaply priced, so that is a present I got. They are comfy and keep my feet warm. I wore them as I was doing laundry one day and some of the girls pointed and snickered. They also make fun of what you wear to bed. Personally, I sleep in a t-shirt and sports bra. No pants. No undies. However, since I have a room-mate, I will not do that, so I at least put on a pair of sweat pants. Apparently, that's not right either.

So when it comes time to sign up for next year's housing, I get to choose what dorm and what room I get to stay in (only on certain days do I get to do this. There has been and upswing in students coming here, so they try to get sophmores out so they can house freshmen.). I am choosing the one next to me, the closest one to campus. A friend of mine lives there and I have been there so many times. The residents keep it clean and they are upper classmen and a heck of a lot more mature.

[Greenday]

Welcome to college! Enjoy your stay.

What you are experiencing is the normal college experience. People are slobs. People are loud. Despite being the age of majority or older, most of them aren't mature enough to be considered adults. My apartment mates are 19, 21, 21, and 21. You'd think by then they'd know how to wash dishes, not puke in the shower, not trash the apartment, but they don't. It's mad embarrassing.

You get used to it though. It has been my experience that women here always say they get along better with guys than other women. I can understand that. The guys here tend to start a lot less drama and generally just don't care about who you are with, what you wear, etc.

[MaggieTheCat]

I never lived in a dorm but I can completely understand not liking other women, especially young women. Teenagers annoyed me when I was a teenager myself and that hasn't changed now that I'm 25. I had very few friends who were in my grade when I was in HS. Most of my friends were mature upper classmen. It sucked when I was a senior 'cuz all of my older friends were gone. I got along better with a lot of the teachers than I did with my fellow classmates. Heck, even when I worked at the call center, I got a LOAD of drama since the vast majority of the agents in our call center were female. Of ALL ages. So unfortunately, female drama does not really get better with age. I've heard it from others who work in offices with a lot of women: there is always a lot of drama, no matter what the age group.

Anyway, I hope things get better for you and some of these girls learn to grow up!

[AdminAssistant]

You know, it was when I started my doctoral program that I finally made some really awesome female friends. They're all other grad students, in all different departments, of various ages - from 24 to almost 40. This is actually probably the first time in my life that I have more female friends than male.

One thing about guy friends....they can't come over to help you get ready for big events, like tonight! Squee!!!

[tabbyblack13]

I have lived in a dorm for 6 years. I agree that girls can be loud, gossip, and cause a lot of drama. I lived in a coed dorm and I dealt with a lot of messy people. There was even the threat to close the kitchen and throw away other people's dishes before it got better. It might take someone being a bitch before other listen.

Of course there was the time the guy above me decided to lift weights during final's week. About 10 girls went to his room and "asked" him to stop.

[blas87]

That's a big reason I didn't apply for the university here, because there's a huge push for frosh to live in the dorms, and off campus housing isn't the most affordable unless you room with several people, and that would end up being just like a dorm, but with a landlord instead of an RA.

When I go to school, I'm going to still be living here, or in whatever apartment or house I end up in, and if there's any conditions about housing with other students, I won't be attending that school.

I hear too many horror stories about the college kids around here who are actually serious about getting good grades and graduating, and they end up living (whether in the dorms or in the student housing nearby) with a bunch of slobs and party animals who make their lives a total Hell.

[McDreidel09]

Blas, you may be able to get out of living in dorms. You would have to get special permission, if I read the forms right.

Here, they are trying to push anyone who is not a freshman out. They are asking that 250 freshman this year get out next fall semester for incoming freshman. However, I am not going to leave because even with people sharing an apartment with me, I would not be able to afford it. Luckily, they have a system set up where for a whole week, you have the option of signing up for a specific room in a specific dorm. Then a few days after that, you only have the option to be assigned to a specific dorm. Then you only have the option to say you want to stay on campus. After that, you get nothing and you can't come back to live on campus.

Guess who is going to wake up as early as possible to sign up for specific room/specific dorm day?

[Greenday]

We call it Room Rampage. There's a few days where you can pick which dorm you want to live in and exactly which floor. It's all online now. It's completely based on credits and GPA to determine which day and hour you can start picking.

[blas87]

I don't have to worry anymore, because I'd be considered a "non traditional" student. If I applied for university right now, they wouldn't be able to make me stay in a dorm.

I hope you have better luck next time!