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I had an interesting conversation with my step-sister the other day. She had put in her facebook status that my dad and her mom had won $2800 over two days, my comment to that was "must be nice", passive aggressive sure, but after them claiming that they're poor all the time, hearing that they've been out gambling two nights in a row doesn't exactly give me the warm fuzzies. I also happen to know that they've been going out pretty much every weekend, my mom doesn't gamble but she does go to the casino for coffee and food with her friends, and she's seen them there pretty much every time she's been there. It's also a small town.
Anyway her response was something along the lines of "yes it is nice, just in time for Christmas", and I said, "well you can be happy for them, I'm not." or something to that effect. And she went on a huge rant about how she'd never ever do what I did to my dad and how I'm a horrible daughter only after his money. Funny, I thought I was just going after him to hold up a legal contract he signed. She was going on about how he's so sick (he had a heart attack last year), and how my boyfriend should be helping. I promptly informed her that my boyfriend has been doing more than his fair share, and he's been sicker than my dad, and also makes way less.
Get this, my dad over the past 3 years has made damn near half a million dollars, and because of tax deductions gets money back on his taxes. His sick pay? He's making $60 000 a year, which is mostly not taxed, and once his pension kicks in at 65 he'll be making more than that. The money issue pissed me off, because they were going on about how broke they are. Right.
But what really pissed me off is the whole fact that she was saying that it was only about the money. It wasn't. I've spent nights crying because it feels essentially like I've lost my father. He's willfully abandoned me because he didn't want to hold up his end of the separation agreement. He made it me against him, he was the one who all but stopped calling me when I moved out. And my step-sister actually tried to tell me that it was my fault that I never got his calls because I was always at work. Yeah, trying to not be homeless is such a terrible excuse for not being home.
They also convieniently forgot to mention that the judge told them that he still has a moral obligation to help me. So while he may have won on a technicality, morally what he's doing is wrong, even the judge said so, and the judge screwed up a lot of things in his verdict. My mom did make sure that I let my dad know that he will be going to court again, this time to redo the entire separation agreement, since it was completely unfair to my mom. So much so that the three separate lawyers that she's talked to have all told her that the judge essentially handed her a gift, and that her chances of winning this time are way up there. Unfortunatly it won't be for a little while as my mom can't afford to do it at the moment.
I just hate that my step-sister is really getting only their side of the story. and when even my dad's sister agrees with my mom and me, when friends my dad has known for 20 years or more agree and think it's disgusting, that says something about our side of things.
Anyway her response was something along the lines of "yes it is nice, just in time for Christmas", and I said, "well you can be happy for them, I'm not." or something to that effect. And she went on a huge rant about how she'd never ever do what I did to my dad and how I'm a horrible daughter only after his money. Funny, I thought I was just going after him to hold up a legal contract he signed. She was going on about how he's so sick (he had a heart attack last year), and how my boyfriend should be helping. I promptly informed her that my boyfriend has been doing more than his fair share, and he's been sicker than my dad, and also makes way less.
Get this, my dad over the past 3 years has made damn near half a million dollars, and because of tax deductions gets money back on his taxes. His sick pay? He's making $60 000 a year, which is mostly not taxed, and once his pension kicks in at 65 he'll be making more than that. The money issue pissed me off, because they were going on about how broke they are. Right.
But what really pissed me off is the whole fact that she was saying that it was only about the money. It wasn't. I've spent nights crying because it feels essentially like I've lost my father. He's willfully abandoned me because he didn't want to hold up his end of the separation agreement. He made it me against him, he was the one who all but stopped calling me when I moved out. And my step-sister actually tried to tell me that it was my fault that I never got his calls because I was always at work. Yeah, trying to not be homeless is such a terrible excuse for not being home.
They also convieniently forgot to mention that the judge told them that he still has a moral obligation to help me. So while he may have won on a technicality, morally what he's doing is wrong, even the judge said so, and the judge screwed up a lot of things in his verdict. My mom did make sure that I let my dad know that he will be going to court again, this time to redo the entire separation agreement, since it was completely unfair to my mom. So much so that the three separate lawyers that she's talked to have all told her that the judge essentially handed her a gift, and that her chances of winning this time are way up there. Unfortunatly it won't be for a little while as my mom can't afford to do it at the moment.
I just hate that my step-sister is really getting only their side of the story. and when even my dad's sister agrees with my mom and me, when friends my dad has known for 20 years or more agree and think it's disgusting, that says something about our side of things.
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