You expect me to say yeah that sucks?

[jackfaire]

I get tired of people who complain about their dads to me. No not like the situations where your dad is genuinely screwing you over, hurting you, etc.

I am talking your a little annoyed with him for something small and yes not that important. I understand you need to complain and for you it's the biggest thing in the world that he accidentally ate the slice of pizza you wanted but not to me please. Especially not this time of year.

Edit: This is about some of my coworkers who just won't stop complaining to me about something their dads would do that is so annoying.

[Lachrymose]

This site should be renamed Jackfaireing.com.

Just messing.

Although I haven't heard people complaining about their dads to me, I can understand how that feels. I lost mine 3 months ago.

[protege]

I get to hear my brothers complain about our dad just about every time I stop by my parents' house.

Pisses me off because, yes, I know that he's not perfect. He does do some stupid things from time to time (who doesn't?). Yes, he is a bit "out of touch" at times. But, what do you expect--he's in his 60s! Still, I can't rip on the guy too much--he'd do anything for me, and means well. That's not to say I don't bust his balls a bit about slowing down

[BlaqueKatt]

I am talking your a little annoyed with him for something small and yes not that important. I understand you need to complain and for you it's the biggest thing in the world that he accidentally ate the slice of pizza you wanted but not to me please. Especially not this time of year.

ya know when people do that to me I just kinda sigh and wistfully say...."I wish my dad was still around to do those things-i'd give anything for just one more day..."(then trail off) usually makes them feel kinda crappy....and sometimes makes them treat their parents better.....

[jackfaire]

ya know when people do that to me I just kinda sigh and wistfully say...."I wish my dad was still around to do those things-i'd give anything for just one more day..."(then trail off) usually makes them feel kinda crappy....and sometimes makes them treat their parents better.....

Pretty much what I do too.

[Boozy]

ya know when people do that to me I just kinda sigh and wistfully say...."I wish my dad was still around to do those things-i'd give anything for just one more day..."(then trail off) usually makes them feel kinda crappy....

If your intent is actually to make people feel bad for some good-natured crabbing, then that's kind of a lousy thing to do.

When I complain about silly little things my dad does to bother me, I'm just blowing off some steam and making conversation. I'm well aware that my life is better off with him than without him. Friendly complaining should be taken in the spirit it is offered; it isn't meant to cause offense. If you're not genuinely hurt by hearing it, I don't think it's necessary to say anything to make that person uncomfortable.

If you are genuinely hurt, as the OP clearly is, then asking to change the subject would be a better approach than dropping hints. How about, "I am uncomfortable hearing about other people's dads, because I still really miss mine. Would it be all right if we talked about something else?"

Also, for jackfaire: Your post in this thread doesn't entirely jibe with what you've written in this thread here. Am I misinterpreting?

[LadyBarbossa]

I used to be one of these people, but lately I've been given the much needed metaphorical slap in the head. My Dad is also in his 60's and really, no matter a person's age, we are never guaranteed another day with them. Never. Sure, he does plenty of annoying things, but it's just easier to let most of them slide than to make a big issue out of it. For example, he has a small mare that foaled two months ago, and he's been wanting to get back on her and ride again. The mare is a little moody and Mom thinks that she'll go nuts and he'll get hurt riding her, since she's a little green. Yesterday, I was outside with Dad and he yet again said how much he wanted to ride Sweet Tart, so I helped him saddle her up and I kept a lead on her while he rode, just to be safe. Sure, Mom was upset when she found out, but I figured he was bound and determined to do it, it's at least better if I'm out there to intervene if anything goes wrong. Let him ride his horse, lol.

[jackfaire]

Also, for jackfaire: Your post in this thread doesn't entirely jibe with what you've written in this thread here. Am I misinterpreting?

I am not saying I am going to be, "oh but put it in perspective my dad's dead so your problem isn't bad" It isn't even something that bothers me when acquaintances or strangers complain about their dads.

It's having to hear people who know me friends who know me and know about my dad and then complain specifically to me that their dad is doing something they don't like. I feel they are entitled to complain and I understand for them that is a big thing but it is hard for me personally to listen to it because I lost my dad.

And I try not to do the "At least you have your dad" As much but I get angry when say my ex will bitch about her dad to me and even points out that she knows it hurts me to hear it.

[BlaqueKatt]

If you are genuinely hurt, as the OP clearly is, then asking to change the subject would be a better approach than dropping hints. How about, "I am uncomfortable hearing about other people's dads, because I still really miss mine. Would it be all right if we talked about something else?"

Sadly I have tried that.....then get told that since both my biological father and my step father died when I was 16(step), and 17(bio)-I should be "over it by now"

[Boozy]

I feel they are entitled to complain and I understand for them that is a big thing but it is hard for me personally to listen to it because I lost my dad.

Like I said, I think you have the right to ask them to talk about something else. A good friend will let you change the subject when something is hard for you to hear.

Unless you hang around with those people BK are referring to. I think it's terrible that someone would be told to "get over it".

[Ree]

Also, for jackfaire: Your post in this thread doesn't entirely jibe with what you've written in this thread here. Am I misinterpreting?

That's what I was thinking.