TAs that hurt my kid!

[jackfaire]

Apparently this happened a week ago. I was just told about it by my daughter's guardian yesterday.

My daughter is in a special needs class because she does have emotional problems and gets very frustrated. There is an approved method for moving special ed kids.

I can tell you dragging them by their ankles while moving fast enough to give her a severe rug burn is not it. I understand my daughter can have moments where she can become difficult to work with. I have experienced them myself.

I understand your marriage is on the rocks and you are under a tremendous amount of pressure. I have also been there.

But you know a small thing just so we are clear. YOU DO NOT DRAG MY KID!!

My daughter is the one thing in this world that I care about more than anything else. I would give my soul for my daughter's life if it came to it.

I am really glad I don't know the TA and will likely never be in the same room as her because yelling lots of yelling would be involved. I don't like being angry but grrrr you don't treat kids that way!

[Boozy]

Have you filed a complaint with the school board?

Whoever it is who did this to your daughter does not have the temperament one requires to work with special-needs children. Something needs to be done about that, immediately, before something worse happens.

[jackfaire]

Her guardian (Yay grandma we love her) has been kicking up a shit storm.

In fact when my daughter first told her grandma about it the school tried to tell her it never happened had to have happened elsewhere. Her grandma pushed and went to a hospital and took pictures so that there was multiple documentation of injury.

Finally got the school to look into it enough that it came out another kid witnessed it and now they believe my daughter. Grandma also is pushing that said TA's background be checked again and if anything similar to this action was missed she is going to sue the school for negligence.

I couldn't decide to cry or hit someone when I found out. I know I can't always protect my daughter but dammit I work my butt off so that when she is an adult she can think back on her childhood and remember it fondly full of family that loved and supported her. TA's like this fuck up my plans.

The Santa Claus call has to be extra special this year.

[AdminAssistant]

Ugh, I hate it when TA's pull shit like this, it gives the rest of us a bad name. I assume this is someone working on a special education degree, and this is part of her classwork?

[jackfaire]

Ugh, I hate it when TA's pull shit like this, it gives the rest of us a bad name. I assume this is someone working on a special education degree, and this is part of her classwork?

I don't know what kind of degree she is working on I would presume so all I know about her is what grandma tells me. I don't tend to meet my daughter's teachers.


Edit: And Admin this doesn't color my opinion of either TAs or teachers.

[Fryk]

What's the Santa Claus call?

Also, re: deciding whther to hit someone or cry... why not do both?

[jackfaire]

What's the Santa Claus call?

Also, re: deciding whther to hit someone or cry... why not do both?

I don't like to cry I did enough of that when I couldn't see her at all. As for hitting someone kind of illegal.

When I was younger and still living at home my dad would call a friend's kids every December as Santa Claus. When he passed I kept up the tradition for a couple more years. Then when my own daughter was old enough I started the calls with her. So every December she gets a phone call from the big man himself Santa Claus.

Rule # 1 Never laugh like Santa when in her presence if asked why when other people Ho! Ho! Ho! I do not say I have a Kringle deficiency and am unable to.

Rule #2 Never know what she wants for Christmas if she only told "Santa" and no one else.

Rule # 3 Never ever allowed to give her back stuffed animals that she gave to Santa and she must never see them at my home.

[Fryk]

That. Is. AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm gonna start doing that, too, when I have kids.

[IDrinkaRum]

jackfaire - would you marry me? I have an online-crush on you now! YAY! LOL

I wish my husband had the goomba to do that. He's not that excited about our child like it is.

My daughter's teacher & the 3 TA's that help her out are just completely awesome. For those who don't know, she's autistic, and might be developing a case of OCD (I think). If a TA or Teacher did that to my daughter ... I know exactly how you feel. I'd be like Grandma ... raising a fuss beyond all fussiness.

Oh, yeah ... the reason for this post: Can I borrow you to call *my* daughter as Santa?

[Fryk]

I'd volunteer to do that for anyone. I have a deep Santa-y voice sometimes, even when I'm not trying. :: )

[blas87]

I'm horrified that there are teachers and TAs out there who are still working after doing stuff like that!

I mean, I was in special ed in kindergarten.....and granted I'm pretty young and this wasn't long ago (early 90s), our TA was a woman who was about 10 years overdue for retirement and had no business being around special needs kids.....pardon my ignorance but I thought that stuff like that just didn't happen anymore!

I was fairly confident that within at least the past 5-10 years they had hiked up on background checks and all kinds of other tests to be sure that no teacher or TA would harm children......I guess I was wrong, and there are still TAs out there like mine in kindergarten (although she didn't physically harm us, she verbally abused the kids).

Of course this makes me evil, but when I was in middle school, I'd heard that she'd died, and I laughed and was happy about it.

[jackfaire]

Of course this makes me evil, but when I was in middle school, I'd heard that she'd died, and I laughed and was happy about it.

You didn't kill her this doesn't make you evil.

[jackfaire]

Oh, yeah ... the reason for this post: Can I borrow you to call *my* daughter as Santa?

I don't like doing this for kids other than my daughter and any future kids I have because it is a very emotional thing for me. I know it sounds stupid but anything involving my dad is difficult sometimes to handle and sends me into existential angst.

Plus I am honestly not very good I am shocked I have gotten away with it as long as I have. One year I was actually at her place on Christmas even and had to eat a dozen cookies, drink the egg nog, cocoa, and the carrots I got her to leave for the reindeer. Nothing to do with the Santa Claus call itself but oh god the cookies were horrible.

Last couple years I also created Jinx the elf and yell at him to stop fooling around while she is on the phone with me

I don't know how many years I got left of this. I just want when she is older and heading off to college for this to be one of those things she can reflect on when she gets stressed and let it bring a smile to her face.

[Savannah]

I know I can't always protect my daughter but dammit I work my butt off so that when she is an adult she can think back on her childhood and remember it fondly full of family that loved and supported her. TA's like this fuck up my plans.

Judging by the rest of your post she will. She will remember that her family always believes her and will do everything they can to make it better if someone hurts her.

And add me to the "what the hell is that person doing as a TA for special ed kids?!?" chorus. Sheesh.

[IDrinkaRum]

jackfaire - keep the santa thing for your daughter. I'll have to recruit someone else if I'm really serious about it. XD Maybe my Uncle Andy - Child Rum hasn't met him (he's in Texas) so maybe she'll be convinced Santa has a Texas twang! ROFLMAO

But yes ... between you & her guardian, your daughter is going to know that she is loved.

I sometimes wonder the same thing with my daughter. But I spend so much time with her, just her & I ... and like last night ... I was lying next to her in her bed, singing to her as she fell asleep next to me. I know she knows, deep down that she's loved, even if she can never tell me how she feels.