Thinking my situation is the same as yours

[muses_nightmare]

This seriously aggravates me, especially now. I'm going through a pretty tough time lately, finacially and personally. There was the whole thing with my dad refusing to hold up his end of a contract he signed, and the judge siding with him on a technicality (and the fact we had a biased judge, but that's a whole other issue). When I tell people that my dad refused to pay for my schooling, they just come back with "well I paid for my own way, I had a job while I was in school...etc." Yes, you may have, but that doesn't mean what he did was right. Nor do I like it being presumed that I'm somehow lazy or not willing to work for the things I want, I have been. I also expected my parent to follow through with a promise he made to me, is that really too much to ask?

Yes, this devolved into a rant about my dad, sorry. But any situation that people do this in bothers me. Not everyone deals with things the same way you do, nor should they. Not all situations can be resolved the same way, or can be looked at the same way.

[jackfaire]

*nods* I agree. It is frustrating when rather than emphathizing with you they are busy throwing out things they have done that of course don't work in your situation with different circumstances.

"Of course you can move to New York just start job hunting there"

Uhm hello I have a daughter I can't move anywhere if I want to see her regularly.

[Fryk]

A biased judge? I've been following your story for a bit now (routing for you), but I missed that bit.

Elaborate?

[muses_nightmare]

I never really brought it up here. But, the judge bascially had something against my mom's lawyer (she's well known with a good reputation), she didn't seem confident at all which is unusual for her and a lot of people we've talked to have said that he's known to be quite sexist. He also made quite a few mistakes in his reasons for judegment (even down to spelling a couple people's names wrong). He didn't even mention the fact that my boyfriend (or rather commonlaw husband) is far more ill than my dad, and doesn't have the benefits my dad does, he focused solely on my dad's heart attack. My mom is also menally ill, though it's under control, she can't work because of it. No mention of that at all. He just stayed focused on my dad's heart attack. He basically acted as if my dad earning $60 000 a year meant he was absolutely broke.

We're trying to deal with this now, but it seems our justice system thinks those would be reasons for appeal, rather than actually dealing with the judge. We can't afford an appeal, and my mom wants to go a different route with this now, but that won't be for at least another year.



Looks like it may go to supreme court in the next year, but not for the schooling argument. My mom has been told that she's been handed a gift with this verdict, she can basically redo the agreement, since she got screwed with the first one.

It's a big mess at the moment, but we're hoping things turn out.

Sorry, long post, and I probably haven't explained it well.

[Fryk]

Nah, I got the gist just fine. It does sound like a mess, but at least it's a promising mess. For whatever pittance it's worth, I'm pulling for you, and mostly everyone else probably is, too.

[muses_nightmare]

Thanks I appreciate it. It's nice to have people on my side. It's also nice to know that people that have known him for years, including his own sister are on my side too.