Fear and Choices

[BlaqueKatt]

Oh I know. I am pretty laid back at life. Sometimes I am envious of the people younger than me that seem to trip over eachother on the way out of the closet

"Never blend in"-Harvey Milk

Most cities have a support group of some sort for helping to get to know yourself as a LGBT person-you might want to look into that-they usually have group activites/outings, like picnics, parties, mixers etc. I've been to a few in support of friends, had a great time.

It's difficult for a lot of people to accept who they are because growing up they had no role models to look up to, were afraid of disappointing someone, pressure from society, etc.

Remember humans are tribal creatures, find your tribe-depending on where you live I may already have friends there that can point you in the right direction-pm me if you want

[jackfaire]

Remember humans are tribal creatures, find your tribe-depending on where you live I may already have friends there that can point you in the right direction-pm me if you want

My best friend is cool with me being gay and has stated willingness to join me at a gay bar. That being said a lesbian coworker has invited me to hang out at the one near my house with her friends.

Next week I am gonna go and drag my friend for support gonna be a little disappointed if he gets hit on more than me. I have decided I am going to be open. I wont' go out of my way at work to tell people but I won't hide it.

[crashhelmet]

The best way to get over ANY fear is to face it. You can take it a step at a time, or go balls to the wall.

For example... Most people that are afraid of heights aren't really afraid of the height, they're afraid of falling. Some start climbing things or out of windows or something to get used to the heights that they're at. Others force themselves to fall by going bungee jumping or sky diving.

Go out and face the world. Feel free to keep your guard up at first, but then as you get more comfortable, feel free to let it down.

More importantly, be yourself. It doesn't matter if you're gay, straight, white, black, tall, or short. If you aren't comfortable with you, you won't find many others that will be either.

CH

[Vagabond]

<snip> For example... Most people that are afraid of heights aren't really afraid of the height, they're afraid of falling. CH

For me, I'm afraid of heights because of the sudden and most likely painful stop at the end. I love to fall though - it's the terminal velocity to dead stop that keeps me from jumping.

[jackfaire]

Part of it is I am sure my dad didn't want me to be gay and would have flipped out if he had known. Hard to win an argument when he isn't around.