People In Relationships Are Lame

[Greenday]

I don't get it. Once you start dating someone, you have no social life anymore. If your SO can't do it, well, that means apparently you can't either. "Sorry, I can't go out tonight, my bf isn't 21 yet." So the fuck what? Now that you have a boyfriend who isn't 21, you can no longer drink? Why is it people in relationships have to do EVERYTHING with their SO? EVERYTHING. It's okay, you CAN hang out with your friends even if you bf/gf can't/doesn't want to.

[Crescent Cat]

Arg! I know what you mean! It seems like the second one of my friends gets a boyfriend/girlfriend all of a sudden that person is the meaning of his or her existance.

So because your SO is tired and doesn't want to go out this means you suddenly can't hang out with the people that have been your friends for years? What the hell? Not seeing your boyfriend/girlfriend for one weekend is not going to kill either one of you.

And if that SO does turn out to be a drama llama, doesn't want you hanging out with your friends and threatens to break up if you do - good riddance! No one needs to be dating a parasite like that.

[Vagabond]

Having a SO that can't/won't drink is awesome!!! Designated Driver! I'm a firm believer in the designated driver idea. Some bars/clubs even give the DD free non-alcoholic drinks all night.

[Greenday]

Having a SO that can't/won't drink is awesome!!! Designated Driver! I'm a firm believer in the designated driver idea. Some bars/clubs even give the DD free non-alcoholic drinks all night.

Except most bars won't let people under 21 in at all.

[Vagabond]

Bummer...
Time to find different bars. ?

[Greenday]

What? No! There even is a bar that has 18 or older nights but since he doesn't want to go, she won't. Makes no sense to me. Let him do something with his friends then if he doesn't want to do stuff with us.

[KellyHabersham]

I had that happen back in high school, when my sister got involved with a guy whom I was getting to be friends with - granted, he and I weren't that close yet, but it quickly got to where he wouldn't have wanted to hang out or do anything unless my sister came along. And eventually it got to where being her boyfriend took priority over being friends with me.

[powerboy]

i hate that. So what if they don't want to go out. let them find something else to do.

[Lace Neil Singer]

I object to the mass stereotyping. I'm part of a couple, but I often go out without my boyf. Case in point; Friday, my boyf felt too ill to go out, so I went out by myself and had a great time.

[Boozy]

This has nothing to do with relationships, and everything to do with new relationships.

When someone is in the new stages of an infatuation, they want to spend every waking minute with that person. It wears off. That's why Lace (who's in a long-term relationship if I recall) can happily go out without her boyfriend, and I without my husband.

[Greenday]

This has nothing to do with relationships, and everything to do with new relationships.

When someone is in the new stages of an infatuation, they want to spend every waking minute with that person. It wears off. That's why Lace (who's in a long-term relationship if I recall) can happily go out without her boyfriend, and I without my husband.

So when I point out my friends who have been dating for 6-7 years doing it...I'm pretty sure they are out of the infatuation stage at that point.

[Boozy]

Yeah, they probably are. In situations like that, I suspect they're using their partner as an excuse to get out of some social event they don't want to attend.

[MadMike]

That sort of thing happened with quite a few people at my job. When I started there, most of the people in my department were early to mid twenties, and frequently went out to bars after work. Unfortunately, I was a couple months short of 21, and I couldn't go. I'd get invited all the time, and I'd have to tell them I couldn't, because I wasn't 21 yet.

Then when I turned 21, a bunch of them got together and took me out for my birthday, and it was great! And then, it seemed like immediately after they, everyone decided to settle down and start families, and stopped going out to the bars.

There's nothing wrong with starting a family, but why do so many people seem to think that means you never, ever go out with your friends and have fun anymore?

[HYHYBT]

Would it be possible to do something besides go to a bar?

[Greenday]

Would it be possible to do something besides go to a bar?

We do other stuff besides going to the bar. But since we have a bar that has 18 or older nights, and he's 20, and I know he plans on going to the bars when he's 21, I don't see why he wouldn't want to take advantage of 18 or older nights.