Acting Gay to Pick Up Chicks

[smileyeagle1021]

In my experience gay people don't take gay jokes as far as straight people because it would be awkward for them.

exactly what I was thinking... taking a gay joke to far with a straight friend is coming awfully damn close to crossing the line between joke and flirting (not the exact term, but I'm not sure I know what the exact term for what it is or if such a term exists). Once you do that you are playing with fire... and trust me, there is NOTHING, absolutely NOTHING worse than being gay and falling for your straight friend. What starts as an innocent feel as part of a gay joke can start something a lot bigger if signs are misread. Hence why gay people typically don't do gay jokes with their straight friends*

*OK, so we do, but we stick more to spoken jokes... I have one friend who I can get to admit he's gay even though he's not because I've gotten so good at messing with him *evil grin*

[Shangri-laschild]

As I've mentioned, we have gay friends. We don't treat them any differently so he shouldn't feel threatened by us. And I've never seen him with a "manly" demeanor.

The only thing I can think of is maybe if he doesn't quite realize the change in his attitude. That or the fact that knowing logically people wouldn't treat you different isn't always the same as not being worried about it or not avoiding the situation.

I hope he's not doing it to pick up girls, but the fact that he seems to be so defensive about it and over the top about jokes makes me think that it's more likely on the "in the closet" end....

[Greenday]

It's official! He's out of the closet! Yes, I know I'm resurrecting a dead thread but I had to! He's admitted he enjoys sex with other guys. I'm so happy for him. He's now cool.

On that note, we have another gay friend who is doing sexual stuff with some of our female friends "joking around". I'm starting a new thread for that though.

[insertNameHere]

Unless he straight up says "I am gay" then there is no issue here. Believe it or not everybody doesn't fit into Hollywood stereotypes. It could be he is straight but effeminate, or even bi.

I'm actually reminded of the character from SLC Punk who loves women but also believes in romance and has alot of style so people think he is gay for dressing nice and treating women with respect, when the truth couldn't be more different.

I am just amazed someone else has seen SLC punk.


Also, saw stuff about taking a gay joke to far by motor boating another guy? Don't really see how that is gay because motor boating around here is done at chest level, so unless he motor boated your crotch, doesn't sound to gay.
Some people are comfortable with their sexuality, know two straight guys who played chicken or go, got to the point the aggressor was cupping the balls of the other guy who wouldn't back down, so well aggressor screamed "I QUIT, there is nothing more I can do but jack you off". Any other set of straight men would have quit way sooner.

Side note if he gay, gay guys make the best wing men. Especially if you have been dumped.

[Greenday]

A gay guy, who is out of the closet, motorboated a woman. He claims he hates woman-parts, because no self-respecting gay guy would, but he seems to enjoy doing it a lot.

[Boozy]

He claims he hates woman-parts, because no self-respecting gay guy would, but he seems to enjoy doing it a lot.

If he said this, he's just a dolt.

"Self-respecting" gay men don't "hate" women parts. They just aren't attracted to them. I'm a straight female. I'm not attracted to women parts. It doesn't mean I hate them. I've never heard any of my gay friends express disgust or hatred of a woman's body.

Why would a gay man perhaps enjoy playing with a woman's breasts? Because they don't have them. It would be the sheer novelty of it. It wouldn't be sexual.

[smileyeagle1021]

I've never heard any of my gay friends express disgust or hatred of a woman's body.

Why would a gay man perhaps enjoy playing with a woman's breasts? Because they don't have them. It would be the sheer novelty of it. It wouldn't be sexual.

I will admit to a certain "eww" factor when it comes to the vagina, but other than that, I'll agree with you, I've yet to meet a gay guy who hated women parts (even we have to admit that is how we came to be on this Earth). As far as the gay men playing with a woman's breasts, some women actually encourage it because they like the fact that there is someone who will "play" with them who will keep it at just play, that they don't have to worry about what signal they are sending out.

[Greenday]

This just in! Original guy in story hooked up with a chick tonight, a week or so after admitting he is gay and doesn't like girls. That gay acting thing seems to have paid off.

[elsporko]

Maybe he said he's gay to mess with you because you seem to be way too interested concerning who he bangs.

[powerboy]

Maybe he is Bisexual?

[Skunkle]

Maybe he's bi...and has to hide it. A lot of gay guys stay in the closet because they've been railed on about how bad being gay supposedly is, but...considering how many people I know who go on and on about how bisexual is bullshit? They're just "undecided", or alternately they're "selfish"? He might be closet bi.

I know lots of straight guys who set off my gaydar. Theatre organist Dennis James is straight as far as I know, and my gaydar goes off the scale around him. And then there was "metrosexual", which seemed to be explained thusly: straight guys NEVER, EVER care about their looks. If one does, he's considered to be adding a 'gay trait'. Thus, straight guys who primp a bit, put on dressy clothes, want to look good when going out, are 'metrosexual' i.e. straight but gay-acting. (Errr, no... They've just discovered that cleaning up and dressing nicely gets girls).

I'm gay. I wear a black suit and tie at all times...and a collar, though I tuck that down into my shirt collar most of the time so it doesn't show. I don't look very gay, nor do I set off gaydar. Er..unless I'm out with my boyfriend AND at a gay bar where visible displays of affection are acceptable, in which case you'll know instantly.

Greenday, I think your friend is either gay and ashamed of it, or bi and ashamed. His motorboating and jokes could be, though, like a friend of mine who has REALLY annoying mannerisms: he honestly believes they make him personable and affable.

[Fryk]

Is your friend The Todd from Scrubs?

[Greenday]

Is your friend The Todd from Scrubs?

No, I'M The Todd...