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More specifically in this case, mine.
My oldest nephew has lived with us since he was 7, and he will be 18 this May. Mom was homeschooling him, but they pretty much burned out when he hit 9th grade and she stopped having lessons with him or ordering new books because she was 'tired of fighting with him'. I will agree that he's a difficult student at the best of times and would rather sit there and fight with you over the proper way to write the letter 'e' than pay attention to the big picture and do the damn grammar or math lesson. He gets up between 11AM and 1PM every day and spends most of the time in his room watching movies, playing video games, and talking to friends on his cell. He pops out every now and then for meals, to watch a show with us, or go outside and help take care of the horses and sheep, which only takes around 20 minutes. He is attending a free class two nights a week to try and get his grades up so he can get a GED, but he's been in it for over a year.
My parents let him get his driver's license last year, meaning they fork out $150 a month more than they were before, and that's not including the gas used up when he goes places. In my truck. He is forever asking for money for movies, DVDs, games, and gas money and gets pissy when they *gasp* sometimes don't have it because we're not really well to do. He complains daily that he wishes he had a job, yet puts NO effort into putting in job applications. He finally put in a couple last month because Mom and Dad bullied him for about two weeks.
Today Mom saw and ad in the paper for someone wanting help on their ranch, and told him to call about it. He says "No, you call. You deal with people better than I can." And she freaking DID! I got kind of angry and told her she's hurting him a lot more than helping him by constantly making phone calls and picking up/filling out job apps for him, because as soon as an employer sees that, they'll throw the app out with hardly a second glance. I tried to explain that having Mommy or Daddy constantly doing such simple things only proves that the person can't really take the idea of the job that seriously if they can't be arsed to even fill out their own stuff. She argued with me that that was "SOoooo unfair, because it at least shows they have someone that will help and support them!"
Arrrrgh.
My oldest nephew has lived with us since he was 7, and he will be 18 this May. Mom was homeschooling him, but they pretty much burned out when he hit 9th grade and she stopped having lessons with him or ordering new books because she was 'tired of fighting with him'. I will agree that he's a difficult student at the best of times and would rather sit there and fight with you over the proper way to write the letter 'e' than pay attention to the big picture and do the damn grammar or math lesson. He gets up between 11AM and 1PM every day and spends most of the time in his room watching movies, playing video games, and talking to friends on his cell. He pops out every now and then for meals, to watch a show with us, or go outside and help take care of the horses and sheep, which only takes around 20 minutes. He is attending a free class two nights a week to try and get his grades up so he can get a GED, but he's been in it for over a year.
My parents let him get his driver's license last year, meaning they fork out $150 a month more than they were before, and that's not including the gas used up when he goes places. In my truck. He is forever asking for money for movies, DVDs, games, and gas money and gets pissy when they *gasp* sometimes don't have it because we're not really well to do. He complains daily that he wishes he had a job, yet puts NO effort into putting in job applications. He finally put in a couple last month because Mom and Dad bullied him for about two weeks.
Today Mom saw and ad in the paper for someone wanting help on their ranch, and told him to call about it. He says "No, you call. You deal with people better than I can." And she freaking DID! I got kind of angry and told her she's hurting him a lot more than helping him by constantly making phone calls and picking up/filling out job apps for him, because as soon as an employer sees that, they'll throw the app out with hardly a second glance. I tried to explain that having Mommy or Daddy constantly doing such simple things only proves that the person can't really take the idea of the job that seriously if they can't be arsed to even fill out their own stuff. She argued with me that that was "SOoooo unfair, because it at least shows they have someone that will help and support them!"
Arrrrgh.
*smh*
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