Skanks!

[elsporko]

People cheat to sabatage a relationship all the time. She may be cheating because its easier to then to deal with the lonelieness and lack of intimacy. She may also be hoping he finds out and breaks it off with her because she lacks the emotional maturity to make the break herself.

[crazylegs]

.... Lucky bastards.

Lucky? Lucky? Well, lets see here just how lucky I am shall we?

Last year, before she left I sat down with my 24 y/o girlfriend, and we planned her funeral. We picked the songs that would be played, and the flowers that she would have. We worked out who would send flowers, and the charity that she would rather have the donations to. We worked out the venue, and where she wants to be buried.

After we did that we wrote her will.

Still think we're lucky?

Every night I lie awake, waiting for the knock on the door I truely hope never happens. I jump every time the phone rings and I feel sick to the pit of my stomach every time her location is on the news. I flinch, I phisically flinch when I hear of an incident close to where she is.

Do you still think I'm lucky?

[Plaidman]

Yes. I think your girlfriend is lucky to have a man that loves hwe that much. I think all soldiers are lucky to have people like that in their lives that there willing to endure what has got to be the most nerve wracking, heart stopping pain of their life because that love is just that strong. So yes. They are lucky.

[crazylegs]

Not all personnel that are in harms way automatically get to be in a relationship. As the OP has shown relationships can go sour, especially if the person left at home can't handle it.

What I do know is that there is precious little support for those left at home - no social events where the people at home can get together and share experiences, no-one to talk to who is having (or had) similar problems.

[Plaidman]

1: I know that not all soldiers get the guy and/or girl. Matter of fact that might be why some join up. They got no where else to go. (Not trying to quote that movie). They may or may not feel that they matter, so they might as well do something meaningful and saves people.

2: I had heard of lack of support, but there's always small ways to try change that. Start a messageboard up, several are free, give url out. Call up some clinics and ask if any psychiarist are willing to work with people for discounts and/or charity. Some are willing to do that from past experences. I make no promises on that though. Its not a cure nor a solution, but even a little bit helps.

[blas87]

crazylegs, I know you aren't in the US, but are you sure there aren't support groups for family members/SOs of those in the armed forces?

It may be worth checking in to. Or perhaps you can find a forum or other site online.

Or ya know, there's always your buddies at these two forums...the names slip me...they are a wacky bunch but they always have open ears and ready fingers

[Fryk]

"Cheating to sabotage" is a pitiful rationalization, nothing more. If you want out of a relationship, then GET OUT of it.

[elsporko]

Never said it was honorable just a possibility. Its not really rational either, but more along the lines of a mental breakdown.

[Fryk]

I agree that it is a possibility, in her mind. It just does nothing to change my opnion.

[telecom_goddess]

Not all personnel that are in harms way automatically get to be in a relationship. As the OP has shown relationships can go sour, especially if the person left at home can't handle it.

What I do know is that there is precious little support for those left at home - no social events where the people at home can get together and share experiences, no-one to talk to who is having (or had) similar problems.

I agree with Plaid....if there isn't anything out there at all something needs to be started. It seems to me back in the old days those left behind during war and whatnot used to support each other

[insertNameHere]

.... Lucky bastards. I should try to join them again. I could lie on the pysch exam this time.

elsporko? Once again... yeah. Kettle calling pot black. You act like you know, and snap at someone who gives a different opinion then yours.

She may be terrified. She may feel like she can't handle it. Or maybe she's hoping that he'll die so she'll be guilt free.

Ether way, she's being a grade a bitch.

Yeah, im hoping I didn't shoot myself in the foot by answering things truthfully. Of fucking course I'm gonna be depressed for a period of 2 weeks when my grandmother who was very influential to me and helped raise me dies.


Idk, there really is no reason to be skanky you know what your doing. When me and my ex broke up she went off and hooked up with her other ex not once but twice because hse was lonely and nobody wanted her and she wouldn't talk to me then we got back together and she tried to deny doing anything.... wondered why i wouldn't fully trust her again.

[Rapscallion]

I don't remember anyone saying that men who lech around are bad. Is there room for that in here?

Rapscallion

[Plaidman]

I don't remember anyone saying that men who lech around are bad. Is there room for that in here?

Rapscallion

Uh... No.

But I guess we'll make an exception for you bossman.

[Greenday]

Two days ago I was informed by a mutual friend that the girl I mentioned and another girl in my group of friends were planning on either 1.) making out with each other or 2.) making out with some gay guy to make me jealous. Um, neither are hot so why the hell would I get jealous? SKANKS

They made out with each other tonight. They made out with the gay guy. And they made out with my mentee (I'm going to have to have a talk to my mentee about that one. He needs to make better drunken choices...and build up a damn tolerance to alcohol that sissy.). They all gave each other hickeys all over their necks. Tomorrow we are supposed to have an Open House for all accepted students to our department. I know some of them are showing up, but if they show up and the hickeys are visible, I'm making the judgment call and making them leave. That's a freaking embarrassment to the entire department and makes me, the rest of my friends, and my teachers look bad. Besides, how immature can you be? Hickeys? Are we back in middle school? No one even did that shit back in high school!

SKANKS

[Plaidman]

Besides, how immature can you be? Hickeys? Are we back in middle school? No one even did that shit back in high school!

SKANKS

... I always wanted to have a hickey.

Plaidman never gets want he wants.