I'm Sorry, I Have A Job...

[powerboy]

I had a friend like that. It had to be up to him on when we would hang out. We both worked days and he also had a second job.. I had to be at work during the week at 4:30am. If we hung out during the week. I had to be home and in bed at 9:00pm. He just could never understand that. He would want to go out on weekends. Every other weekend would be fine, not just every weekend.

[Plaidman]

I had a friend like that. It had to be up to him on when we would hang out. We both worked days and he also had a second job.. I had to be at work during the week at 4:30am. If we hung out during the week. I had to be home and in bed at 9:00pm. He just could never understand that. He would want to go out on weekends. Every other weekend would be fine, not just every weekend.

Ahh, but my friend has no job. He just expects me to be ready whenever he wants. I never understand it.

[DrFaroohk]

lol @Plaid until you said GED I thought we might have a mutual friend.

Although my friend is a little more emotionally stable. Except when he drinks. And then its annoying because I know he's not just so drunk that he loses control, its more like "Hey, I'm drunk, so I can be an ass and just blame it on the booze later. WOOHOO! BREAK STUFF! YEAH! LET'S TALK ABOUT BORING THINGS! YEAH!"

He likes to pull this one too:

"Man, I'm hungry, you hungry?"

"Yeah man."

"Let's go to Denny's."

"Cool!"

Get to Denny's, order, eat....

"Oh by the way do you have any money?"

He's been going to college for like the past 10 years now, just taking one or two classes at a time. Got a masters in business something or other, but he thinks he's just going to land a job that pays 100K a year. I've tried to explain to him that he needs to have some employment on his resume, which he just doesn't understand. He's not willing to get a job to show some stability, but he wants the big paying job right away.

[telecom_goddess]

OK Plaid has a point I guess although I still think his friend sounds more like a loser than not.

Blas....honey.....dump that guy seriously. Unless he can change right quick he ain't worth it.

[blas87]

I'm not going to dump my boyfriend of a long time because of his stupid friends or his little flaws. I'm just venting about things I hate. He isn't the only person in my life who has no regard for my time, I certainly can't just dump everyone who doesn't understand what it's like to work my shift or have a demanding job that takes up almost all of your time.

When I wrote my last post, I also didn't know the entire story. When I finally saw him last night, I found out that his friend had asked him if they could come by and have a party night, bf said no because of our plans and he's been worn out from taking care of his dad and dealing with his brother lately and we did have solid plans, but his friend just drove halfway across Wisconsin and came over anyway! And I don't know what hold this particular little shit has over my boyfriend, but he just felt "rude" in sending him away so he let him stay and he did offer to do our plans alone, but I refused to hang out with his friend or go out and party with them.....I went out with my friend instead (cuz I wasn't going to sit at home on my night off) and we met up and I made him leave with me because he was so drunk and his stupid friend had wandered off somewhere.

We are having a serious talk today about what his friend did. Apparently, he wasn't clear in understanding how much I hate this particular friend of his, and after the night was over, he was also very upset about his friend just showing up, because he was in no mood or ambition last night to entertain and host....and apparently he DID tell his friend that he was NOT going to be able to stay at his house (because guess what, his family hates his friend too) and that there was no way I'd allow them at my place either......so his friend "promised" he'd get a hotel room or stay at one of his girlfriend's friends houses in town here.....and then when the night was over....NOPE....so what does this little shit do? Just comes over to my bf's house and tries to get in! By the time my bf and I got there, his friend had locked himself in the guest house were my bf sleeps, because bf's mom had kicked him out of the house but for some reason never checked to make sure he left!

We're all quite upset and angry today. Bf's mother even kicked HIM off the property for the night because his friend still somehow ended up there. So we ended up staying at my place....

[Racket_Man]

surprising enough my Ex-Wife did some of the same things to me near the end of our relationship.

was out of work for a while (partially my fault, just pure lazyiness).. but I did finallly get a job as a gas station AM and starting worked nights full time (as in 40 per week). then she determined we needed MORE money coming in and somewhat forced me to get a second job (the one I have left as a delivery driver) that entailed me starting around 23 to 26 hours per week (short night shifts and short lunch shifts) then very quickly progressing to 30 to 33 hours per week (3 closing shifts per week and 3 short lunch shifts + a truck shift per week with maybe a short lunch shift on Sundays during football season)

way before this happened my Ex was declared disabled by the government (lots of legit medical and physical problems) so by this time she had no really been able to work for like 14 years. Now I did not have any problem with that as she did work and work a lot during the pre-medical problem years. it was just that all her problems would not allow her to do any real work (even sit-down work)

Now if we add up all the hours I was working at the time, you get around 72 hours per week on average (more or less).

now the part that gets me.

after a while she kept on whinning that I was NEVER home and when I WAS home all I wanted to do was sleep or rest (I wonder WHY YA THINK). I was not coherient to do house work, or laundry or do this or that. we never went out to have fun or see a movie or go out to eat or celebrate, or do some of the stuff we used to do outside of me working. she could not get it through her head that SHE forced me into this situation (yea I know we kinda needed the money but...) ya know like I had the time to do any of those things anyway.... NOT.

this was not really the reason for a 20 year marriage to fail. there was all sorts of other strange and wierd things going on for a few years prior to this (which really no one would believe me if I detailed them).

[Plaidman]

... Great Racket man. Now my mind is so freaking curious as to how it failed.

Sorry it happened though.

[telecom_goddess]

Yeah I'm curious too.....what weird things were there..

Anyway Blas I'm glad it worked out communication wise....it helps if people talk
His friend sounds like a .....oh I don't know what.

I wouldn't suggest dumping someone just because of the time thing it was sounding like he didn't respect anything about you. But maybe he is after all.