Planning

[Cat]

(as inspired by blas's thread)

I *HATE* having to plan everything I do. I want to be more spontanous, but sadly, this never works.

My wonderful bf is a non-planner, so everything we do is up to me. I hate it with a passsion. "What do you want to do today" "I dunno" Ugh....if I don't decide anything, we don't do anything. (or we end up just driving somewhere, and he doesn't mention where we are going, ha)


My weekends are free time. (I do get home relatively early after work on weekdays, but after my commute, I usually don't want to go out again.) So I don't want to waste then deciding what to do, but I don't want to be the only decider....hissssssssssss

[blas87]

I'm a serial planner (based on my job taking over my life) and my bf is ADHD mixed with 110% spontaneous.

I'm actually surprised he has never had an attendance problem at his jobs. Cuz he can never be on time anywhere or anytime else!

I'm no fan of living life by the seat of your pants, but it would be SO nice just for a few weeks to not have to live at work and cram and cram and cram errands in every morning and exhaust myself from go go go.

[Amanita]

I confess- when I go on vacation, I don't like a strict schedule of events. Do I book a few things ahead of time, like an Alcatraz tour or the like, along with my flight and hotel? Yeah, definately.
But I can't wrap my head around the travllers who obscessively schedule every minute of every day. "How much time do I allow for this? How much time for that?" To me, that's not fun. It reminds me too much of those school field trips where we were herded about by parent chaperones and teachers, doing that annoying swinging-their-arms-and-clapping at us, saying "hurry up, hurry up!"
I hated that as a kid, so why would I want to do it to myself now? So while I book some things in advance and have a list of things I want to do, I don't set my schdule into stone, with every minute having to be "productive". If I want to laze around in the vicinity of the Golden Gate Bridge all afternoon because I like it out there, then fine!"

[powerboy]

I love having a plan. But I do not obsess about it. If something happens, that causes the plan not work that good. Then so be it. But I do love going by a plan.

[DrFaroohk]

I don't like having obsessive plans because it leaves no room for error or even just changing my fuckin mind. Sure, I could plan to go to McDonalds, but what if I decide I'm not hungry? According to my anal plan, I HAVE to go to McDonalds.

On the other hand, I DO like to at least have advance warnings of things. I don't mind simple, loosely made plans, such as "we're going out to eat". That's fine, because it still leaves a wide variety of choices. But when I get home from work expecting a long, relaxing evening of drugs and alcohol and suddenly I find out that we're randomly going to church tomorrow, fuck off I'm staying here. Usually I pull the wedding singer line: "That would have been good to know YESTERDAY."

[Fryk]

I must be the weirdest guy in this thrad: an ADHD sufferer who is a meticulous planner. I like to make plans. Then I make alternate plans in event that something happens to derail plan A. I love to anticipate things and see if I can keep one step ahead.

[protege]

I don't plan a damn thing when I go on vacation. Well, other than when I'm coming and going, where I'm staying, the route I'll be using, etc. Otherwise, I'm a bit of a free spirit. What's the point of "getting away from it all" when you're scheduling every fucking thing? No thanks, I get *enough* of that at work.

In fact, most of my weekends aren't planned. Sure, if it's nice, I'll take the other car for a spin, or run some errands. Usually, if I'm in that car, I really don't know where I'm going--the best trip I had last year, was simply driving in circles through the park. It's relaxing to cruise around, checking out the scantily-clad women (yep, I'm a pig...deal with it ) and just have a good time.

Easter weekend was spent like that--I'd just get in the car, and go somewhere for the hell of it. Again, it was pretty relaxing. Plus, I found a few twisty roads with little traffic to play on

[blas87]

I like to make plans on vacation, but not minute by minute or hour by hour. Mostly along the lines of "Today we're going here and here and tomorrow is here and there".

My bf's family and I went to the Dells last summer....and they went without evening knowing where the hotel was or where the waterpark was or what time check in was and it resulted in a LOT of problems. Also, they had only HEARD that you could get discount tickets for the waterpark, but they didn't know what gas station WHERE....thank GOD they found a clerk at a local gas station who was able to help before we left. We wasted enough time going up and down and up and down the entire town of Wisconsin Dells looking for the hotel. The water park was easy to find because it's the biggest one, but good lord....and we were SO early for check-in that it was just a pain.

[telecom_goddess]

basic plans are always good. There is such a thing as being too spontaneous

[Cat]

The odd thing is, we did go on a nice vacation, and he (the non planner) had a detailed itinerary! LOL


See, when I plan, I do make "main" plans, and I have a 2nd "if A fails, do B" which I am okay with, I just hate being the only one who does so

[Boozy]

Some people don't like to plan. If you're one of those people, and your job requires a lot of planning, you're probably going to drive your friends crazy with your "fly by the seat of your pants" attitude about social events.

Personally, I love to plan, and my job doesn't (usually) require a lot of it. So I subject my friends to excruciatingly detailed itineraries when we do things. I know it bugs them, but it's almost like I can't help myself.

Both kinds of people are annoying.

[blas87]

Oh Boozy, I am quite aware how annoying and anal I can be about planning stuff

I drive almost everyone insane because of it. I constantly get told "Blas, do you have a plan for every letter of the alphabet?" or "You do realize that it's not the end of the world if we don't make it to the movie on time" or "We don't HAVE to be there at 7 pm"......

In my own mind, yes, it does matter, and yes, I do have a plan. Unless I am in one of those rare moods where I don't want to see anyone or I'm sick or my bf has left and I'm too broke to go out or make other plans, I refuse to spend a Friday or Saturday night stuck rotting in my apartment. I don't want to plan every moment down to the nanosecond, but I feel if I waste even a moment, I might as well be back at work wasting time away.

[McDreidel09]

I'm the only person in my group of friends who sticks to a plan, unless something occurs where I cannot be there. Like if one friend says "Let's meet up for dinner at 5!" then, I am at the meeting place at 5. Not 5:05. Not 5:10. Stop being late!

Or when I want to schedule out my time with homework and friends, I will ask my friends if they want to hang out, I get a maybe until the very possible last second or they won't call or text at all to let me know that they can't. The last part is mainly my guy friends.

Spontaneous stuff is for the weekends, not weekdays for me. Weekdays= devotion to homework, Alliance, and English Club. Weekends= Fun time