Company

[muses_nightmare]

I don't like having people stay with me. Even my own family. They always seem to show up at bad times, usually during the final week of the quarter at school, or at the beginning. So I can't really go out and do much with them because I have to concentrate of homework, which is hard to do with an extra person in a 1 bedroom apartment, with my computer in the living/dining room.

Not to mention the fact that they like to give you input on how you should be running your house. My boyfriend's mom is especially like this. My mom likes to say stuff about the food we eat.

My mom has been staying with us for a week now, and she's driving me insane. She likes to look over my shoulder and give suggestions when I'm doing my homework. She doesn't really get that there are certain things I have to do for class (I'm a graphic design student). She figures since she makes jewelry she knows all about design. GRRR. She also likes to have her beads and chains and whatever all over, she took several of our bowls and used them to put beads in. Beads she bought in a market in India, so gods know what is on them!

My boyfriend's mom is planning on coming and staying for 2 weeks to a month. I so don't know how I'm going to deal with that....*sigh* And she's probably going to show up and the worst time for my school, which is just par for the course.

[Greenday]

If you guys have a one bedroom apartment, why would you let anyone stay that drastically long if it's not an emergency?

[muses_nightmare]

Mainly because it's the only way we can see them at all, we live pretty far from our family. So in theory it's nice to see them, but having that interruption in my routine is annoying.

Our families aren't well off either, so they can't really afford to be staying in hotels. And of course with parents, unless you really don't get along or something (like me and my dad) you can't really tell them "no you can't stay with us" without hurting feelings, and causing problems.

My boyfriend doesn't seem to mind people staying over, so there's that too. Kind of wish I had opted to have my desk in the bedroom now though .

[MaggieTheCat]

I'm worried that my husband and I are going to run into this problem with his mother. Both my parents and my husband's mother have expressed interest in coming to see us after we move into our house and get settled...which could feasible be as early as a month from now. It's a 3 bedroom house and my husband and I don't have any kids, so theoretically, we could have at least one and possibly two guest rooms for people to stay in when they come see us. And honestly, I don't mind if our friends from Austin or Houston or Dallas want to come for a weekend and crash at our place. But I really don't want either of our parents staying with us. It's sort of a privacy thing. They all treat us like we're still little kids sometime...I mean, we bought this house, we own it, I don't want parents telling us what to do in our own home (and I have a strong feeling they would.) Also, they all smoke, and I will be damned if we let anyone smoke in our new house.

Thankfully, my parents have already said that if and when they come, they won't stay with us. They like their own space, too. But my MIL has not only expressed interest in staying with us whenever she visits, she has said she wants to MOVE IN WITH US when she retires. I can't tell if she's joking or not, but the very thought if her living near us, let alone with us, freaks me the hell out.

[muses_nightmare]

The smoking thing drives me insane, I was annoyed that my boyfriend let his mom smoke in our brand new car, even with the windows down. Ick. Not to mention some of her ash flew in the back window when she flicked it out the front and burnt a hole in the back seat, it was an accident, and a very small hole, so I couldn't really freak out about it. But dammit, I don't want people smoking in our car.

His mom is pretty set in her ways too, she thinks things need to be done a certain way, and if we aren't doing them that way it's wrong. Even with stupid things like dishes. Since we have one sink I tend to let the water run and use a brush to scrub the dishes under the running tap rather than filling up the sink. I know, this is wasting water or whatever, but it's the most efficient way of doing it right now. She decides that we should have one of those plastic basin things, and then just expects me to follow along with that. Sorry, that's not how I do it here. Besides doing that makes the soap stay on the dishes, I can taste it in the glasses, I always end up re-rinsing the dishes afterwards.

[powerboy]

I have a strong feeling that is how its going to be when I move in with my girlfriend. My mom already said that since she calls my grandmother everyday and talk to her, that I can call my mom everyday and talk to her. Atleast a few times a day. I don't want too.

I cannot wait to move in with her, but it will be awhile. Just until I find a job, which I start working at the end of the month . But it is a temperally job until I visit Ohio in June.