People who don't think...

[blas87]

Do you not understand what was posted pages ago?

I never insinuated that, and Ree never took it that way. In fact, she made it a point to state that she knew that as well, and meant to post that to put an end to it, but it simply just fueled your fire even more.

And here you are, still accusing me of insinuating silly things.

[blas87]

I know that blas.

I understood the meaning of your post, and that of the other members who cautioned against pushing a mod.

I was simply anticipating exactly what eventually happened, and attempting to clarify in case anyone decided to skew what you were saying to insinuate that on their own.
It was an attempt to nip that tangent in the bud, but I see it only added a bit of fuel to the fire.

And there you go. Reading is fundamental.

[Hobbs]

Considering my past, your comment could, in my opinion, be only taken one way. I know what Ree said, and I accept it. That still doesn't change the fact that you took something and twisted it to something it wasn't. It's not nitpicky to criticize someone in this site...it's a debate site.

[blas87]

Please go back and read where exactly I said "Keep pissing off the moderators so that Ree will abuse her power and ban you!"

Never said it. Never used the words "abuse their power" or anything of the such. For the millionth time, I encouraged you to keep pissing them off to see what would happen, since you appear so curious as to how many times you can keep fueling the fire before it gets out of control and you end up in trouble.

[Hobbs]

There you go assuming things about me as well.

Like I said; it's not wrong for me to disagree with a mod on this forum. It truly sucks for you that I don't have the same opinions as you or your friends, but I will not agree with you if I think differently.

[HYHYBT]

Treading very carefully and reluctantly... I didn't mean to imply at all that Ree or any other moderator here would abuse her position, but one of the things I did mean could, possibly, be taken that way.

So: primary meaning, yes, those who run the site and have been doing so for years know where and what to post without being told.

But also: I really was trying to speak as generally as possible. Any system of rules, etc. has a certain vagueness at the borders, both between what is and what is not allowed, and between possible penalties. If you're pulled over for speeding, for instance, you might get a ticket or you might just get a warning. If you're polite and apologetic, you're more likely to get away with the warning than if you cuss and make donut jokes... but also, no matter how polite you are after you're stopped, it won't do you a bit of good if half an hour before he heard you telling your friends how stupid you had to be to become a cop and how good you were at talking your way out of tickets. Not a perfect analogy by any means, and I should have made an explicit distinction between telling a mod her post as a user is in the wrong place (which I believe they don't even like users telling each other) and arguing over an order or penalty issued by one as board staff, but you get the idea. And if you should find yourself on some other site where the moderators are *not* ethical, or you believe them not to be, well, all the more reason to be nice, right?

But mostly the first one.

[Hobbs]

Well, if a Mod doesn't like my post in their thread, they can go on and warn/infract me.

[Plaidman]

Online Porn.

[Rebel]

Wow.
If we locked you guys in a room together, you would either kill each other in an incredibly violent way, or have wild room-destroying monkey sex.

OP: I'm not much of a girly girl, but if someone leaked pictures of my wedding dress before the actual wedding, friendships could become very strained.
My friend is gonna get married in a couple of weeks and she is keeping the dress VERY hush hush. If someone posted pictures, they would be likely to lose a limb, or at least sport deep gashes from her nails (still have scars from a scratch from her 10 years ago).
Either way, it is just good sense to wait until after the wedding to post any pictures regardless of who the bride is. It's also good manners.

I just hope the bride either doesn't find out about them, or that she is pretty easy going and won't care too much.

Now...please continue.

[Ree]

Thanks for getting the thread back on track, Rebel.

[Lace Neil Singer]

I have to admit, I'd be tearing limbs off if someone leaked my wedding dress before the event, and I was keeping it a secret. If I ask people as a favour to do something, and someone reneges on that promise, it makes me want to break things. -.-

[Dips]

Dips, I wasn't necessarily talking about this site or CS.

OK.

And to get this thread back on track...

I too hate it when people are so eager to be Johnny-on-the-Spot that they don't consider what they are revealing or saying.

While she can't really undo what she did, she *can* take the pic down and apologize. Hopefully she does that.

[Ree]

To be honest, I really don't know if my friend was keeping it a secret. I haven't really discussed it with her.
She just seems to me to be the type who would want to keep all those details a secret until the big day so that people are seeing it all for the first time.

She's been so busy with the wedding prep and our mutual friend is visiting her, so I didn't want to even mention it because I didn't want it to seem as if I was bashing our friend. I'm not.

Maybe I am being silly and petty to get bent out of shape on my friend's behalf when it might not even be an issue with her.
I just saw the picture and when I realized the bride's dress was hanging right there in the picture as well, I thought it was a little bit tactless to post it.

Of course, I am always willing to entertain the possibility that my friend didn't breach any rules of etiquette, and the dress in the picture is not actually my friend's dress, and is just one that happened to be hanging there on the hook. (It's hard to tell if it's a private home or a bridal shop from the picture, so there's always that possibility... LOL... It looks like a private home, and the dress only has a bag wrapped partway across at the top of the hanger, as if the bride just finished trying it on, so I can't imagine, if it's a shop, why someone else's dress would be sitting there hanging open with a different bridal party in the room.)

I just wondered if I was alone in my thinking that it was a bit of a breach of etiquette, or if others might feel the same as I did about it.

(Maybe I should have just posted this at "Etiquette Hell" instead. LOL)

[Dips]

Nah, you're not.

You could ask the gal who posted the picture to take it down just in case the bride might object.

If she's a decent sort she probably will agree and take it down (and you can both hope the bride never saw it).

But if she's the kind to get all defensive it's probably not worth the hassle.

[thrifty]

I would be so sad if someone posted a picture of my wedding dress on facebook, because it was important to me and my husband both to keep my dress a surprise.

We both wanted him to get the full effect of me in the dress walking down the aisle.

And in fact it would hurt even more for me because the joke with everyone is "Amy can never keep secrets or surprises." I'm the one who buys the birthday present then gives it two weeks early because I can't see the look on their face. So for me if I kept my wedding dress a secret for 9 months (which is about how long I did for my wedding), and then days before it was posted where my husband could see it, I would be really disappointed!