Secrets

[DrFaroohk]

I'm the first to admit that I can't keep a secret very well. However if I do blab a secret its to someone who isn't involved. If I tell Mike that Bob is cheating on his wife, Mike doesn't even have the faintest clue who Bob is. They've never met, probably never will meet, and they don't even know any of the same people except for me.

But then there's some people who will make it a point to seek out the one person who shouldn't know the secret and tell them. That seriously angers me. I can understand if you just can't sit on a piece of gossip - fine, tell the dude sitting next to you. You never even met him. Tell him your gossip! But don't run off and tell Bob's wife he's cheating on her.

[HYHYBT]

Some things should be kept secret, and for those I agree with you... but if her husband is cheating on her, the sooner she knows about it the better.

[jackfaire]

Being cheated on can be a life or death issue. If you don't know to be protecting yourself and she picks up a deadly std and passes it to you your gonna be pissed when you find out your friends knew about it.

[crashhelmet]

Being cheated on can be a life or death issue. If you don't know to be protecting yourself and she picks up a deadly std and passes it to you your gonna be pissed when you find out your friends knew about it.

It can also be a life or death situation when the spouse that got cheated on goes apeshit and it turns into murder-suicide.

In the instance of cheating, or other situations where feelings of jealousy and betrayal may arise, it's best to stay the hell out of it.

As for other secrets, it doesn't matter what the secret is or how big or small it is. If someone thinks they can trust you enough to confide in you, respect their trust and keep it to yourself.

CH

[jackfaire]

It can also be a life or death situation when the spouse that got cheated on goes apeshit and it turns into murder-suicide.

In the instance of cheating, or other situations where feelings of jealousy and betrayal may arise, it's best to stay the hell out of it.



CH

How that person reacts is not my responsibity, my failing to stop the loss of life is. If I see that guy about to kill someone and I can stop it I will.

He will find out at some point eventually. It is unfair and wrong to let someone especially someone you care about to risk their life when they don't even know they are doing so.

[Hobbs]

I'm the first to admit that I can't keep a secret very well. However if I do blab a secret its to someone who isn't involved. If I tell Mike that Bob is cheating on his wife, Mike doesn't even have the faintest clue who Bob is. They've never met, probably never will meet, and they don't even know any of the same people except for me.

If my friend confessed that to me, I'd find it as my duty to let his wife know because, "We will not lie, steal or cheat, not tolerate anyone amongst us who does."

[HYHYBT]

As for other secrets, it doesn't matter what the secret is or how big or small it is. If someone thinks they can trust you enough to confide in you, respect their trust and keep it to yourself.

It doesn't matter how big or small it is, no, but there are some secrets you just DON'T keep. Adultery may not be one of them; I hope never to have to decide.

[insertNameHere]

Well if mike is cheating on his wife, it is not your duty to tell his wife. I'm not saying you shouldn't try and get him to come clean to his wife. I believe that secrets should stay secret, of course this is why I quit trusting people from some people i confided in that blabbed to everyone they know or brought it up around people that I never wanted to know.

Believe it was Ben Franklin who said the only way three people can keep a secret is if two of them are dead.

I guess I can see the blabbing to a random stranger on the internet that has no idea who you are like on Chatroulette. Of course, im not doing to good with secrets since I'm telling everyone all the shit my ex did of course I guessed it she didn't tell me she then a week later asked me to keep it private but eh it not the same as if she came ot me and said I need to tell you something please don't tell anyone else.

Summary:
If someone asks if you will keep something secret, do it. Unless extreme shit like if the secret was that Mike was going to run his wife over with an SUV because he was cheating on her. But generaly if nobody is in danger, keep that shit secret.

[DrFaroohk]

I was talking more in general of people who blab secrets to the wrong people. I just used cheating as an example, but it could have been anything. I used to get in trouble with people for blabbing their secrets, but really, I never told anyone relevant. But the people I told were always telling the relevant people. That sucks, because it makes me look like the asshole when really, it was them.

[Boozy]

When someone asks me, "Can you keep a secret?", I always say "No. I'm terrible at keeping secrets. I will tell at least 3 people whatever you tell me, maybe more if it's particularly juicy."

The crazy thing is that 90% of the time that person goes on to tell me the secret anyway.

If someone really wants to keep something hidden, they keep it to themselves.

[Hobbs]

I was talking more in general of people who blab secrets to the wrong people. I just used cheating as an example, but it could have been anything. I used to get in trouble with people for blabbing their secrets, but really, I never told anyone relevant. But the people I told were always telling the relevant people. That sucks, because it makes me look like the asshole when really, it was them.

Loose lips sink ships.