Failure

[jackfaire]

Only my own. I can't hate other people's failures because whether you failed or succeed is defined by the individual.

My goals and dreams were,

1) Get married have a family (failed I am waiting for my divorce to finalize and my daughter lives with her grandmother)

2) Get a college degree (failed I am a dropout that blew all of his best chances.)

3) Career military (failed I had a mental breakdown that left me unfit to serve)

I have tried to convince myself that I just want to live a life where I work the job I do and I spend what little money I get to keep on having fun. Hey who wants more kids anyway right? And pshaw a degree is just a fancy piece of paper.

But I know it's all more I feel it every time someone 5 years younger than me calls to set up service on a house they just bought or someone 10 years younger is setting up service in the college apartment they are moving into.

I am trying to go back to school but even that is difficult. I am going to have to see about taking evening courses and Saturday courses. Hopefully I will get where I am going.

I don't even care if afterward the job market sucks and I am still working the same job. What I care about is having that degree that says I succeeded.

[Boozy]

So you can either re-double your efforts towards achieving those goals, or you can re-define what "success" means to you.

The problem I have with "marriage" being on your list is that you have to get someone else to agree to that. Working really hard and applying yourself isn't enough to get you there. It requires a bit of luck, that one.

If I were you, I'd re-define your "marriage and children" goal as "I want a happy home and family life, no matter how many people are in my home and family."

[jackfaire]

If I were you, I'd re-define your "marriage and children" goal as "I want a happy home and family life, no matter how many people are in my home and family."

I have for the most part. It was more a listing of the goals I had and how far I feel from them. Honestly part of me just wants to say screw college and just do annual roadtrips and live on my own. 20 grand is plenty for just me to live on. But I don't know I feel like I need to go.

It's a difficult decision because it impacts a lot but what I want to do with my life doesn't require a degree it would just mean a better paying job.

[insertNameHere]

I hate that people tell me I'm a failure because I have been out of college for a year and don't have a "real" job. Well the crappy parttime one I have is hindering me getting that real one along with well there not being to many real ones to find.

I have recently decided like you to re-evaluate my life and just try and be happy. Now that my gf is gone I plan on getting my motocycle endorsement she relentlessly bitched about anytime I suggested it. I plan on buying a nice springfield armory Xd-9 subcompact for my concealed carry that was also bitched about but just waiting on the paperwork from sheirff to get done. I think I may one day just drive 8hrs away for the single purpose of getting a deep dish pizza from chicago, maybe see the sights.

I ALWAYS avoided thinking of the future and what kind of job I wanted becasue shit honestly with no work experience and just quick mention of jobs while in school how the hell can you know waht you want to do for the next 40years?

[jackfaire]

Ihow the hell can you know waht you want to do for the next 40years?

*nods* Totally the only thing I know is that I want to travel while on my vacation. At this point with my finances and the price of things the best thing for me to do is keep renting from my mom and maybe buy a house with her.

Going back to school will help me move up in my company but at the same time I don't need to rush that and do it all at once. I can take my time so I don't burn out.

My plan right now is to put money aside and in a year take a road trip. Maybe it will finally be my journey down Route 66.