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Background, I KNOW I need to speak up I know. For the longest time I was soft spoken and lived in two households with so many rules and it was easier to always use an inside voice just to make it easier on me. So when someone asks me to please repeat no problem. Most of my family, mom, step dad, husband dad in law are deaf or going deaf or have selective hearing. Mom and stepdad live in texas. And when on the phone they tell me when they don't have their hearing aid in. Around here I just try and speak up
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I told husband on three separate occasions to not touch mah stuff and specifically what not to touch, WHY and that when I GOT BACK from vacation that I would deal with it such as writting this down and throwing that away when I GOT BACK. I made sure I had his full attention. A week passed I guess I had to call him every day to nag cause he claims I never said that. BS
Dad in law, I have to repeatedly tell him with daughter don't do it that way please and WHY. Dad in law is not so bad.
Its everyone else that replies with HUH, WHUT, or blank stares instead of saying repeat please or say again or something like that. I now react SO NEGATIVELY with family when I hear WHUT huh...and grrr with total strangers. Most people ask me to speak up
I ABSOLUTELY CANNOT STAND IT when I KNOW people hear me and either ignore me or act like I don't know what I'm talking about. ITS NOT MY FAULT that I KNOW what I want to say but for some reason what comes out doesn't come out right or I say it wrong or my train of thought is way faster than my mouth can keep up with.
Example. I WANT to say Please don't leave the car seat strap down it is harmful to daughter and should someone hit the brakes hard will hurt her.
INSTEAD I SAY THIS: DAD don't leave her buckled like that its bad, you need to move the thing up. But it comes out quiet and some unheard tone of worry.
OR I sound too vague or coming out of nowhere. I try hard to say with detail but keep it short so that my point is made and I KNOW what i'm talking about instead of sounding like some paniky twit....dammit people! LISTEN TO ME! I shouldn't have to do this and then nothing be done until someone is hurt because no one listened. If that happens I will say eff you told ya so! (yes to that point as sadly thats how it is around this town, you can warn and warn and try to get the city to do something but until someone is seriously hurt or ded naaah you is stoopid)
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I told husband on three separate occasions to not touch mah stuff and specifically what not to touch, WHY and that when I GOT BACK from vacation that I would deal with it such as writting this down and throwing that away when I GOT BACK. I made sure I had his full attention. A week passed I guess I had to call him every day to nag cause he claims I never said that. BS
Dad in law, I have to repeatedly tell him with daughter don't do it that way please and WHY. Dad in law is not so bad.
Its everyone else that replies with HUH, WHUT, or blank stares instead of saying repeat please or say again or something like that. I now react SO NEGATIVELY with family when I hear WHUT huh...and grrr with total strangers. Most people ask me to speak up
I ABSOLUTELY CANNOT STAND IT when I KNOW people hear me and either ignore me or act like I don't know what I'm talking about. ITS NOT MY FAULT that I KNOW what I want to say but for some reason what comes out doesn't come out right or I say it wrong or my train of thought is way faster than my mouth can keep up with.
Example. I WANT to say Please don't leave the car seat strap down it is harmful to daughter and should someone hit the brakes hard will hurt her.
INSTEAD I SAY THIS: DAD don't leave her buckled like that its bad, you need to move the thing up. But it comes out quiet and some unheard tone of worry.
OR I sound too vague or coming out of nowhere. I try hard to say with detail but keep it short so that my point is made and I KNOW what i'm talking about instead of sounding like some paniky twit....dammit people! LISTEN TO ME! I shouldn't have to do this and then nothing be done until someone is hurt because no one listened. If that happens I will say eff you told ya so! (yes to that point as sadly thats how it is around this town, you can warn and warn and try to get the city to do something but until someone is seriously hurt or ded naaah you is stoopid)
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