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I hate complaining. I get annoyed at people who complain constantly, or at least on a regular basis. I am frustrated when nothing seems to work out for them. Why? Negativity.
There is a marked difference between occasionally airing a grievance or getting something particularly irking off of your chest (most people, admittedly, belong to this first category) and a constant barrage of every tiny thing that gets your goat, or is even mildly inconveniencing. The people I come across who feel the need to post, talk or call about everything in their life that they don't love seem to be some of the most negative people I know of and it makes me wonder about their character. If everything annoys you, if you can come up with dozens or hundreds of reasons to start new threads, call a friend specifically to complain or stage a production of complaining to friends/coworkers/family members, then perhaps there is an underlying common thread - you? If you are so negatively affected by all of these little things and take them to heart enough to constantly remark on them, maybe you should take a look at how you handle things. Is there a way you can improve your attitude, which, in return, might ease the world's seemingly unfair attack on you?
When you constantly complain, your complaints begin to hold less respect or be taken less seriously. Other people notice this trend and begin to smile and nod or even straight-up ignore you, rather than sympathize or commiserate. If this is a trend through your whole life, things that are actual legitimate complaints will go unnoticed. It is ten times worse if you exaggerate your complaints with over-the-top examples and emphasis, because that leads people to take your true problems even less seriously.
So, to summarize, if you complain about every little problem, you are making the problem worse for yourself in a number of ways. One, you are taking the little things to heart and letting them affect you rather than just ignoring the bad and taking the good out of life. Two, people will start to ignore your complaints or issues because they feel like there might be little true merit to them, and that might lead to problems when you have a valid complaint. I encourage everyone, even myself, to look at the way you might come across to others. See if you fit this description and evaluate yourself, see if there is a way you could improve the way you deal with the problems in your life... You might end up a happier, healthier person for it!
There is a marked difference between occasionally airing a grievance or getting something particularly irking off of your chest (most people, admittedly, belong to this first category) and a constant barrage of every tiny thing that gets your goat, or is even mildly inconveniencing. The people I come across who feel the need to post, talk or call about everything in their life that they don't love seem to be some of the most negative people I know of and it makes me wonder about their character. If everything annoys you, if you can come up with dozens or hundreds of reasons to start new threads, call a friend specifically to complain or stage a production of complaining to friends/coworkers/family members, then perhaps there is an underlying common thread - you? If you are so negatively affected by all of these little things and take them to heart enough to constantly remark on them, maybe you should take a look at how you handle things. Is there a way you can improve your attitude, which, in return, might ease the world's seemingly unfair attack on you?
When you constantly complain, your complaints begin to hold less respect or be taken less seriously. Other people notice this trend and begin to smile and nod or even straight-up ignore you, rather than sympathize or commiserate. If this is a trend through your whole life, things that are actual legitimate complaints will go unnoticed. It is ten times worse if you exaggerate your complaints with over-the-top examples and emphasis, because that leads people to take your true problems even less seriously.
So, to summarize, if you complain about every little problem, you are making the problem worse for yourself in a number of ways. One, you are taking the little things to heart and letting them affect you rather than just ignoring the bad and taking the good out of life. Two, people will start to ignore your complaints or issues because they feel like there might be little true merit to them, and that might lead to problems when you have a valid complaint. I encourage everyone, even myself, to look at the way you might come across to others. See if you fit this description and evaluate yourself, see if there is a way you could improve the way you deal with the problems in your life... You might end up a happier, healthier person for it!
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