Don't blame me when your bf cheats on you

[Greenday]

So I should wear a wedding ring to increase odds....

It works sometimes...

People want what they "can't" have.

[Rantsylvania 6-5000]

I have huge issues with this. Having been the victim of untrustworthy guys (though I didn't know it at the time), and the bitches who try to seduce them (usually right in front of me), I blame both.

It bugs me to NO END when someone finds out that their SO is cheating on them, and they go and seek revenge on the other woman/man/wombat. Christ, there's someone right there in the relationship that's a perfect target for your rage... why seek out someone else?

Well, actually I know why. Because it's not about rage and hurt feelings for these people. It's about territory. "You touched my man( or wombat)!! He's MINE!!!!!!!" Why don't they just pee on their SOs to mark their territories, like the animals they are?

It's not animalistic to believe your boy/girlfriend belongs to you, in a sense. You should be able to count on that person. Also...

And people that seek out married/attached people on purpose are just assholes.

I've noticed something a long time ago, even before I started with the job that's slowly eating away at my sanity night by night: if someone's in a relationship, the competition starts getting heavier and heavier. There've been numerous times where one of two things has happened: either I've had to chase someone away from my girlfriend, or I've had to call her over to get someone away from me. And yes, that second part has happened on more than one occasion, simply because I've got three years with this girl and ideas for engagement rings at this point, and I'm not going to throw that time with her away over a piece of strange.

Am I mistaken, or does there seem to be a lot more of that going on these days? People just get off on the idea of having the power to break up someone's relationship.

I've also been hit on by married men. Even if I were attracted to them, I would not go there, because I know how I would feel if I were the wife. I don't know why I should care, as no one gives a rat's ass about my feelings, but for some fucked-up reason, I do.

[Fryk]

I agree with you, but that sorta goes with my point, too. You SHOULD be able to count on THEM. I am not talking about when someone knowingly goes after your wombat, knowing they're with you. I am talkiing about when it's clear that the other person didn't know your wombat was in a relationship. And then you go try to kick the crap out of them because "That's MY wombat!!" THAT'S the territorial response. You SHOULD be able to count on your SO, and when they let you down, your beef should only be with them.

[Red Panda]

I have huge issues with this. Having been the victim of untrustworthy guys (though I didn't know it at the time), and the bitches who try to seduce them (usually right in front of me), I blame both.

Don't get mad at the women. Its the guy who let you down, the women has no reason to be concerned about your relationship

[Greenday]

Don't get mad at the women. Its the guy who let you down, the women has no reason to be concerned about your relationship

Except for when they know the guy is taken. Then, whether they admit it or not, by attempting to mess around with the guy, they are trying to mess up the relationship because that's what will happen every time and there's no excuse for that.

[DrFaroohk]

My wife was in a relationship when we met. We hit it off, I really liked her, why should I give a shit if she's in some other relationship? I don't know the guy, I don't owe him any loyalty or restraint. If he was keeping her happy, she wouldn't be interested in me now would she?

[Plaidman]

My wife was in a relationship when we met. We hit it off, I really liked her, why should I give a shit if she's in some other relationship? I don't know the guy, I don't owe him any loyalty or restraint. If he was keeping her happy, she wouldn't be interested in me now would she?

Yeah well, alot of times said person doesn't know there other is unhappy.

They could talk and have fun all the time, and she would be straight up saying I love you! I'm so happy! WOOO!

Then bam. You find out they are cheating.

People can cheat because they are unhappy.

Peole can cheat just because they can.

People cheat just to make said other angry.

People cheat for whatever reason they feel like.

Would be so much easier, if that person, instead of cheating, just dump or divorce the person first.

[DrFaroohk]

It definitely would be, but that's between those two. Has nothing to do with me. The problem existed with or without me. It's retarded for the guy to take it out on me.

But he did, and I was forced to do nasty and evil things to him.

When my girl was cheating on me, I did nasty things to her. Gotta take out the aggression on the right people.

[Greenday]

It definitely would be, but that's between those two. Has nothing to do with me. The problem existed with or without me. It's retarded for the guy to take it out on me.

But he did, and I was forced to do nasty and evil things to him.

When my girl was cheating on me, I did nasty things to her. Gotta take out the aggression on the right people.

So when someone sets out to mess with your relationship, it's not the least bit their fault if your spouse cheats on you?

[KnitShoni]

Why should that other person be held responsible for the fact that my spouse decided to cheat on me? They are no more in control of his actions than I am. I won't want to deal with that person, but to go after them trying to punish them? No. I'll save that for my spouse, since HE'S the one who cheated on me.

[DrFaroohk]

See, that's two different situations.

Number 1 - a guy happens to fall for a woman who's in a relationship, and she feels the same way.

This shit happens. It bloody happens. Get over it. Kill your wife if you're that upset about it, but don't act like this other guy wronged you.

Number 2 - A guy likes the challenge of hooking up with married woman and does it every week.

It's a matter of motives. It's ok to murder this guy.

Clear?

[Plaidman]

See, that's two different situations.

Number 1 - a guy happens to fall for a woman who's in a relationship, and she feels the same way.

This shit happens. It bloody happens. Get over it. Kill your wife if you're that upset about it, but don't act like this other guy wronged you.

Number 2 - A guy likes the challenge of hooking up with married woman and does it every week.

It's a matter of motives. It's ok to murder this guy.

Clear?

I have problems when the guy and or girl knows that the said person is in a relationship, and still makes moves. In your case with your wife, it was totally the second likely. You knew they were in a relationship, and you still went after her.

Ether wait til they break up, then make your move, or just stay the hell out the relationship entiry if you can't keep your pants on.

[DrFaroohk]

I have problems when the guy and or girl knows that the said person is in a relationship, and still makes moves. In your case with your wife, it was totally the second likely. You knew they were in a relationship, and you still went after her.

Ether wait til they break up, then make your move, or just stay the hell out the relationship entiry if you can't keep your pants on.

Ha. Actually the first.

And agian, that's between her and her boyfriend. Had nothing to do with me. So there was no reason for him to get pissy with me.

Remember we're not necessarily discussing the rights and wrongs of cheating. It's about who you take the anger out on, and it's just not right to go after the cheatee.

[Plaidman]

Ha. Actually the first.

And agian, that's between her and her boyfriend. Had nothing to do with me. So there was no reason for him to get pissy with me.

Remember we're not necessarily discussing the rights and wrongs of cheating. It's about who you take the anger out on, and it's just not right to go after the cheatee.

Yeah it is perfectly right to take out anger on all parties.

Especally on how you handle it. If you go to their house, smiling at him and hanging, taking them out for dinner all the while thinking in your head "heh heh. I'm banging your wife/gf", your basically making him look like a chump.

He trusted you, he trusted his wife. Then finds out this entire time whatever you said to him was just a great giant joke on him, then yeah, he is perfectly right to go nuts and very angry at all.

You knew she was in a relationship. You still went after her. That's whats wrong.

Rumor has it that if a person cheats once, they'll cheat agian. I don't belive it myself, but I don't belive in alot of stuff.

But hey, here's hoping she cheats on you . After all, you do your best to keep her happy. But she just /hit/ it off with another person that knew she was married. No big deal.

[Greenday]

I've fallen for a good friend of mine. She has a boyfriend. She doesn't want it to keep going forever. She's confided to me that she doesn't want to stay with him. Her body language and the things she says to me hint at an interest in me. You know what I did? I didn't set out to mess with the bum's life. I told my friend that in the end, she needs to do what's best for her. I didn't encourage her to break up with him despite wanting to date her. Unlike some people, I have respect and honor and that's something you can't easily get back once you throw it away. My friends know they can trust me to do the right thing because in the end, I always have their backs whether I agree with it or not. How could I trust someone who is disrespectful enough to try to mess with my relationship if I'm in one? I can't. Because they have only proven themselves to make disrespectful choices.