Judgmental know it alls

[Rageaholic]

is a major "thing I hate"

I don't have a problem with people offering advice when I ask for it or occasionally giving an opinion as to what they'd do. That's cool. What gets me are these people who cannot keep their opinion to themselves and feel the need to comment on everything you do, as if their way is the best for everyone. It's not. It may be best for them, but not for everyone. Too bad some people can't get that through their skull.

A good example; school projects. There's a reason I don't let hardly anyone see them. Too many people I know would try to tell me how I should do it. What they fail to understand is I'm the one who knows my instructor and the assignment, not them. I also have different skill sets, which *gasp* doesn't everyone? Lastly, I may not care if I get a perfect score. I want to pass and it would be nice, but I'm not going to stress myself out over a 4.0, especially if I know it's something I'm not as good at. I don't need a 4.0 to pass so as long as it's good enough, I'm in good standing. But most importantly, it's MY life, not their's. If they want to do the project their way, they can sign up for the class and knock themselves out. That's theirs to decide because it affects them and only them, but unless my grade somehow affects them, than they have no say.

I get the same shit from people with other stuff as well. The worst is when they come up with a solution and make it sound so much more simplier than it really is. Get a job? Really? Like I haven't tried? You might as well just tell me "win the lottery" because that advice would be just as useful. There are some people who are just impossible to have a conversation with without it turning into how they are right and I'm wrong. Then I spend 5 minutes trying to explain why their advice won't work for me. I can't just talk to them about the things going on in my life, I have to justify my decisions to them (well I don't have to, but you get the idea). What ever happened to just talking about stuff?

[Kimmik]

*offers cookies* I am learning that ... when you have a baby... you just dont know wtf you're doing but plenty of other people do and they have no problem telling you so and how to do it. But I am like you with my writing... I dont share it because I have a perfection complex as it is... and I dont need others to chime in on flaws that they perceive.. as it will send me into a deleting frenzy cause it is not right.

Rage what is this talking... is it like day dreaming or imagining... they all seem to have gone the way of the dodo.

[muses_nightmare]

Ack the unsolicited advice about school projects drives me insane, especially coming from people who have no idea about design. Or classmates that think they know better than me, when I'm getting better grades....rrr

[Rageaholic]

You know what's even worse? It's when people actually dig through your stuff or try to spy on you in other ways just so they can point out where you are wrong.

It's one thing if it's family who you live with (but it is still annoying and they should respect your right to privacy), but when it's people who are just stopping over and going through your stuff, they cross a line. First of all, there's a reason I keep some stuff to myself, it's to keep know it alls from going in and making comments. I've been insulted for having certain interests by these same douchebags so I'm not going to give them more ammo. Second of all, it's NONE OF THEIR FUCKING BUSINESS!!!

Kimmik, I know what you mean about the perfection thing. It's bad enough when you're critical of yourself and trying to overcome it. The last thing I need is other people unnecessarly adding their own criticisms. It's adding feul to an already burning fire which is why I revised this thread.

[blas87]

I love when you're just doing the Fratch thing, debating away, and someone with too much freetime or just that much hatred for you has time to go back and dig through old threads on here and on CS to find contradictions in what you believe or what you're saying.

[the_std]

Blas, inconsistencies in rote or philosophy are completely valid targets on a debate site. It's one of the cornerstones for debate. It's not someone who has too much time on their hands or someone who hates you. It's someone who is interested in debating a point and proving your point wrong and, if that means you're saying something that disagrees with something you previously said, either explain your stance now and why it might be different from then (people do change over time) or admit your wrongness/hypocrisy/whatever label fits. No one likes to be proven wrong, but have the good grace not to get upset for someone debating on a debate site.

[Rageaholic]

Well I can see where it would be annoying to have some old post dug up (probably taken out of context) just to make you look like a hypocrite. The thing is, everyone has said something at one point that contradicts with a current opinion of theirs. I've seen this tactic used on youtube religious debates. It's like they are searching for something just to say "HA! I proved you wrong!". It just reeks of desperation imo.

[blas87]

std, I am referring to a member or two who had nothing better to do than dig up old posts (some even from CS unrelated to here) and throw stuff in my face, along with their stalking of everywhere I posted, just to rip me apart or prove me wrong or prove me a hypocrite or a total idiot.

Edit to add: This is not me just whining about being a minority in a debate or having an unpopular opinion or not being able to put my money where my mouth is. It was a serious problem that went on for far too long.

[Hobbs]

I hate unsolicited spiritual advice the most. I got it when I went to Baylor, but I didn't really mind them because I sort of expected out as I was an "odd man out." I hate it more when people learn I do believe and try to convert me into not believing. It's really annoying on a school setting, especially when all I'm trying to do is get to class.

[DrFaroohk]

Major pet peeve of mine as well! This is why I'm damn secretive about my entire life, and even go so far as to frequently lie to my friends and family about what's going on - just because I don't feel like listening to their bullshit.

I tell them I got a speeding ticket, I have to listen to a lecture on how to fight the ticket because they know all the laws! Oh, did you know you can get out of a speeding ticket if a cop asks for your license, registration and insurance in the wrong order!?!?!?!? REALLY? And of course you're the ONLY person in the world who knows this right?

I tell them there's someone I don't get along with, suddenly they become martial arts instructors and they start demonstrating all the best "moves" to do on someone, usually to my extreme embarassment as I realize people are staring at two idiots.

This of course all filled in with how I did absolutely everything wrong in the situation.

I hate people so very much.

[Mongo Skruddgemire]

I feel for you.

You want to see an area where people are real assholes about it? Freshwater aquariums. Possibly saltwater ones as well, but I've never dabbled so I haven't met them yet.

Now I've been raising freshwater tropical fish since I was 10. I'm now almost 39. I wanted a fish tank when I was a kid and my folks gave me a book on the subject and told me that I'll have to know what I'm doing and put together a plan before they'll do it.

A month later and I got my first rig.

I've made mistakes and have learned from them. I keep reading new books on the subject, added some of the ideas to my tactics and ignored others. I've even done something that is considered by some to be a real test of one's abilities (or at least a bit tricky) and have successfully raised and bred Angel Fish.

I like to think I know what I'm doing. After all, my average is 20% longer than the average life expectancy when it comes to how long I can keep my fish.

Now here come along all these people who do not even own a ruttin' tank and are telling me that my tank is overstocked, understocked, stocked with fish that will eat each other, using the wrong filter, one too many heaters, the wrong gravel, the wrong food, the wrong products for maintaining water quality, over-treating the water, under-treating the water, too much light, not enough light, and my personal favorite..."The Feng Shui in that tank is toxic".

Somehow I don't think my tiny-brained fishies give a wet slap about Eastern Philosophy and how it interplays with their lives. They're fish for pity's sake.

The fun thing with aquariums is this. There are many "right" ways of doing it. As long as you follow a few basic guidelines (stocking, fish compatibility, and proper maintenance), you'll do well.

The next time someone tells me that three Zebra Danios and a pair of African Dwarf Frogs are overstocking a 55 gallon tank (seriously and not in jest) is going to find that tank lodged in their urethra sideways.