People who think that they're better, just cuz they have kids

[Lace Neil Singer]

No, this is not directed towards all parents; just those who become total entitlement whores just cuz they have children. -.-

It was mostly this entry and this entry at STFU Parents that prompted this rant, but I've seen it all over the place in real life, too. And let me tell you; anyone who ran over my toes with a buggy would get a returning stamp on their toes with my New Rocks. -.-

For example, last time I was in town and queuing for the bus. I was at the front of the queue, yet this woman thought that she'd try and shove me out the way to get in front of me. Why? Apparently, cuz she's shat out a couple of babies, that makes her instantly superior. Cuz I refused to let her go in front of me, she then called me a selfish bitch. Right in front of her toddlers. Yeah, great example of parenting there.

[fireheart17]

For example, last time I was in town and queuing for the bus. I was at the front of the queue, yet this woman thought that she'd try and shove me out the way to get in front of me. Why? Apparently, cuz she's shat out a couple of babies, that makes her instantly superior. Cuz I refused to let her go in front of me, she then called me a selfish bitch. Right in front of her toddlers. Yeah, great example of parenting there.

I don't know why but buses always seem to bring out the entitled in parents.

I've seen cases where mothers with prams will not store their prams, nor will they sit in the areas that are reserved for prams. Why? Because apparaently they'd sit up towards the back of the bus before and during pregnancy and now that they've popped out a couple of kids, they can still sit up the back while bubs is still in a pram. They then bitch at the driver when he shuts the door after a while because he has a schedule to uphold.

[KnitShoni]

One thing I've noticed is, the more kids they have, the worse it gets. You'd think they'd realize by now that the world doesn't revolve around them and their kids.

[guywithashovel]

Yeah, for some reason, some people want to think they're experts on everything just because they've had a kid. Another thing that some people want to do is minimize your problems and concerns if you're not a parent. This hasn't happened to me much in real life, but I have noticed it online. Like if someone talks about a problem at work or problems with school or whatever, they'll say that you don't know what trouble is until you've had a kid. On one blog I read once, the writer said that when he hears people without kids say they're busy he wants to choke them, because evidently (according to him), non-parents have no pressing issues in their lives. Now, in the comments section, several people pointed out that a person without kids might be filling his or her time with other things aside from childrearing, like careers, school, caring for relatives, etc. I kinda think he got the picture.

[Peppergirl]

OMG - *I''m* a parent and I fucking HATE parents like this!!!

It seems to be getting worse. My kids are 22 and 20, so they were little back in the 90s. I noticed a few parents back then who seemed to be entitlement whores, but no where NEAR the amount I see and hear about now.

Now on the flip side, there have been times when I've been out in public and have witnessed a parent struggling with kids, looking overwhelmed and trying to keep it together. Occasionally I'll offer to let them go in front of me in line, or offer to help with whatever they're struggling with. But that's a personal choice of MINE...I'd be insulted and hugely offended if a parent just pushed in front of me in line because of the 'I have KIDS!' excuse.

Bottom line: Just like the choice to NOT reproduce, having kids is a personal choice. Others should not have to be inconvenienced for YOUR choices.

Sorry for the rant. Major, MAJOR sore spot with me.

[KnitShoni]

Sorry for the rant. Major, MAJOR sore spot with me.

You said it better than I could have.

[Lace Neil Singer]

Lol. You have that in common with me. XD

I'm childfree, by choice. One thing I really loathe is this kind of parents acting as tho they're really sorry for me, just cuz I happen to wear clothes that aren't covered with baby sick. -.- Or they say, patronisingly, "You'll change your mind."

Now on the flip side, there have been times when I've been out in public and have witnessed a parent struggling with kids, looking overwhelmed and trying to keep it together. Occasionally I'll offer to let them go in front of me in line, or offer to help with whatever they're struggling with. But that's a personal choice of MINE...I'd be insulted and hugely offended if a parent just pushed in front of me in line because of the 'I have KIDS!' excuse.

Word. I have, in the past, helped a struggling mother manhandle a buggy off public transport, or held her shopping while she attempted to wrestle a bawling toddler into his pram. However, the EW mothers who think that they're soo speshul just cuz they did what animals have been doing for centuries, ie give birth, who think that everyone ought to step aside for them or do what they want, get on my nerves something chronic.

Re one of the examples I gave in my first post; the one about the mombies whining about other people using lifts. I've used a lift cuz I'm on massive platform heels, which don't work well with stairs. Lifts aren't exclusively for mothers. In any case, you don't need a giant buggy the size of a Volkswagon Beetle. -.- And the moment you start using it as a battering ram, congratulations. You just made yourself into a total bitch and a complete pain in the arse to everyone around you.

[BlaqueKatt]

In any case, you don't need a giant buggy the size of a Volkswagon Beetle. -.- And the moment you start using it as a battering ram, congratulations. You just made yourself into a total bitch and a complete pain in the arse to everyone around you.committed assault

Fixed that for me...I never owned a stroller-I GASP, carried my child in a sling until he was old enough to walk, then he walked holding my hand-how primitive of me-yup had people tell me I was wrong and a horrible parent. I always kinda wondered if it was really worth it to carry kid+15 pound carseat vs my kid and not even a pound sling-sorry but I hate those carrier carseats-pick up and hold your child do not transfer them from container to container all day. I have actually known several parents that the only time they touched or held their child was diaper changing, and moving to another "container"-carseat, swing, highchair, crib, exersaucer...etc...

[KnitShoni]

Fixed that for me...I never owned a stroller-I GASP, carried my child in a sling until he was old enough to walk, then he walked holding my hand-how primitive of me-yup had people tell me I was wrong and a horrible parent. I always kinda wondered if it was really worth it to carry kid+15 pound carseat vs my kid and not even a pound sling-sorry but I hate those carrier carseats-pick up and hold your child do not transfer them from container to container all day. I have actually known several parents that the only time they touched or held their child was diaper changing, and moving to another "container"-carseat, swing, highchair, crib, exersaucer...etc...

Now, I had the huge stroller-carrier combo, but I only used the carrier part of it because that snapped into the car-seat base. I didn't use the stroller more than once because it was too big, and I didn't want to run over anyone. I've been hit with those things. They freaking hurt.

Psh. I got so much crap from people because I didn't use a swing, walker, exersaucer, or highchair.

I've noticed these same people who act like they're better because they have kids are the same ones who give other parents crap because they don't breastfeed, they use disposable diapers, don't have their kids signed up for every class, etc. Either you aren't really a woman/don't know what tough is until you have kids, or you're not doing it right if you do, because you're not doing it their way.

[muses_nightmare]

For example, last time I was in town and queuing for the bus. I was at the front of the queue, yet this woman thought that she'd try and shove me out the way to get in front of me. Why? Apparently, cuz she's shat out a couple of babies, that makes her instantly superior. Cuz I refused to let her go in front of me, she then called me a selfish bitch. Right in front of her toddlers. Yeah, great example of parenting there.

Hate this. Frankly I hate anyone who thinks they can jump ahead in line if they are of able body, people with strollers are the worst of it. I tend to just jam myself back in front of them like I never noticed they were there, when I can anyway.

[Red Panda]

I don't get the problem with the pool post. I would be pretty annoyed if I followed the rules and wore the correct uniform and somebody else was too lazy or too starved for attention to do the same.

[Greenday]

I don't get the problem with the pool post. I would be pretty annoyed if I followed the rules and wore the correct uniform and somebody else was too lazy or too starved for attention to do the same.

I'm sure little kids are just starved for attention based on them not wearing the uniform. Maybe they couldn't afford the outrageously priced uniform. Shouldn't deny the kid a spot on the team because they don't have money.

[Mongo Skruddgemire]

I am respectful of parents with children. However this doesn't mean that I'm going to let you walk over me. I'll let you ahead of me in line at the grocery store if you have a screaming toddler and a package of pampers and baby wipes. That's just courtesy.

But don't expect me to let you in front of me at the Walmart with 2 out of 36 lanes open when I have three items and you have 2 carts just because you have children. I will not since you'll have to wait an extra three minutes and I'd have to wait damn near 20 minutes. Children or not, you will wait and if you were any kind of good parent you would be taking this time to teach your children patience and not how to be an uptight and bitchy shopper.

[Red Panda]

I'm sure little kids are just starved for attention based on them not wearing the uniform. Maybe they couldn't afford the outrageously priced uniform. Shouldn't deny the kid a spot on the team because they don't have money.

They say in the posts some of the culprits had the uniform but didn't wear it for no reason. If somebody absolutly has no way of coming up with the money to get the uniform and has absoultly no way of getting one of the other parents to sell them an old one then it is understandable but that still doesn't mean they should wear something that is hot pink as opposed to a simple black. I'm also going to hazard a guess that most parents who can't afford a swim suit are able to buy many things that they want but don't need and could easily hold off on this spending for a little while and get the suit.

[anakhouri]

I agree completely with Peppergirl, I don't have an SUV stroller and I try hard to keep out of people's ways. It's nice if people hold the door open for me, but I don't expect it. After being hugely pregnant for far too long, I am so happy to be able to move normally that I will gladly stand and wait and move without complaining.