Generalizations

[Cassandra]

I just need to rant and rave and get this off my chest as this has been something happening to me more and more over months....

I'm tired of people saying that because I'm blonde that I must be dumb. I'm tired of people saying that because I'm female that I must not know anything about cars, or computers, or anything mechanical. I'm tired of people saying that I'm overweight that I don't take care of myself through proper diet and exercise. I'm tired of being lumped into different stereotypes/preconceived groups for whatever reason people want to put me there.

I'm not pregnant at the moment, don't assume that I am just because I carry my weight on my midsection. I have at least an average IQ and do research for fun so don't assume that because I am a blonde, big chested, female that I don't know shit about things. I may use a derogatory name in a joking sense among friends that don't take it seriously, don't assume that I am racist, ageist, sexist, or against any group at all.

I just would like to be accepted for who and what I am. I am female, blonde, big chested, smart, funny, good with my hands, computer literate, I read all the time, I am overweight due to a thyroid condition, I like chocolate once in a while, I have cats, and I take good care of myself. That's what I put out there, and that's what I want people to see.

Every time I go out I get odd looks because of some preconceived notion about me based on the way I look or the fact that I drive an older car that needs a bit of work or my economic status.

I went to the unemployment office today for an orientation. ( I recently was laid off) And the attitude of the lady behind the counter was as if I was just another lazy idiot who wants to fleece the system. I was there because I wanted information on the tuition waiver the state provides so that I can finally finish my Bachelor's Degree.

Sorry to be so ranty, but the last two weeks has been really bad with this. I've been going out more to get some more walking time in, run errands, and job hunt, now that I'm not working. And the more I go out, the more I run into this. It just annoys me so much!

[LadyBarbossa]

I went to the unemployment office today for an orientation. ( I recently was laid off) And the attitude of the lady behind the counter was as if I was just another lazy idiot who wants to fleece the system.

Eh, don't feel too bad. They treat pretty much everyone that way. To find out about tuition help, I'd just go right down to the college you're considering attending and talk to them instead.

And I get the generalizations, even from other women! I'll often have a customer tell me "Oh, you can't do this, you'll have to get a man" when they need a heavy bag of pet food or something similar lifted. Also it's assumed that because I have red hair that I must have an awful temper.

[Plaidman]

I love blonde jokes. My GED teacher was blonde, and she always had a blonde joke for us.

Such as


Why are blonde jokes so short? So men would remember them.

The others below are blonde jokes teacher told me, but I had to search the web to get them all correctly)

A blonde walks into a bank in New York City and asks for the loan officer. She says she's going to Europe on business for two weeks and needs to borrow $5,000. The bank officer says the bank will need some kind of security for the loan, so the blonde hands over the keys to a new Rolls Royce. The car is parked on the street in front of the bank, she has the title and everything checks out. The bank agrees to accept the car as collateral for the loan. The bank's president and its officers all enjoy a good laugh at the blonde for using a $250,000 Rolls as collateral against a $5,000 loan. An employee of the bank then proceeds to drive the Rolls into the bank's underground garage and parks it there.
Two weeks later, the blonde returns, repays the $5,000 and the interest, which comes to $15.41. The loan officer says, "Miss, we are very happy to have had your business, and this transaction has worked out very nicely, but we are a little puzzled. While you were away, we checked you out and found that you are a multimillionaire. What puzzles us is, why would you bother to borrow $5,000?" The blond replies......................"Where else in New York City can I park my car for two weeks for only $15.41 and expect it to be there when I return?"




A blonde and a lawyer are seated next to each other on a flight from LA to NY. The lawyer asks if she would like to play a fun game? The blonde, tired, just wants to take a nap, politely declines and rolls over to the window to catch a few winks. The lawyer persists and explains that the game is easy and a lot of fun. He explains, "I ask you a question, and if you don't know the answer, you pay me $5.00, and vice versa. " Again, she declines and tries to get some sleep. The lawyer, now agitated, says, "Okay, if you don't know the answer you pay me $5.00, and if I don't know the answer, I will pay you $500.00." This catches the blonde's attention and, figuring there will be no end to this torment unless she plays, agrees to the game. The lawyer asks the first question. "What's the distance from the earth to the moon?" The blonde doesn't say a word, reaches into her purse, pulls out a $5.00 bill and hands it to the lawyer. "Okay" says the lawyer, "your turn." She asks the lawyer, "What goes up a hill with three legs and comes down with four legs?" The lawyer, puzzled, takes out his laptop computer and searches all his references, no answer. He taps into the air phone with his modem and searches the net and the library of congress, no answer.
Frustrated, he sends e-mails to all his friends and coworkers, to no avail. After an hour, he wakes the blonde, and hands her $500.00. The blonde says, "Thank you," and turns back to get some more sleep. The lawyer, who is more than a little miffed, wakes the blonde and asks, "Well, what's the answer?" Without a word, the blonde reaches into her purse, hands the lawyer $5.00, and goes back to sleep.

Two casino dealers are at the craps table when a cute blonde comes over and says, "I want to bet twenty thousand dollars on a single roll of the dice. But, if you don't mind, I'd I feel much luckier if I were completely nude." They say fine, she strips naked from the neck down, and rolls the dice. Then she screams, "I won! I won!" She starts jumping up and down, hugs each of the dealers, and then picks up her money and her clothes and walks away. For a minute the two dealers stare at each other. Then the first one says, "What did she roll, anyway?" The second dealer says, "I don't know. I thought you were watching."




I hate sterotypes too. Everyone gets them. I'm assumed to be retarded just because of my eyes. I'm assumed to be pedophile because I play with kids sometimes, and never seen to have a girlfriend.

can't let it get to you. Just get your revenge one way or another. Destroy your enemies. Don't belive for a second /karma/ will do it for you because that just stupid advice people give to you because they know that nothing bad will ever happen to them, and nothing you could do to get revenge anyway, so they try to cheer you up by sprouting the magical powers of karma will get them. (It doesn't. EVER).

[Cassandra]

Thanks Plaidman! I have heard the first and second jokes before, but the lawyer and casino ones I have not heard before. Those are good. I'll have to remember them.

One good thing about the heat being so high in my area is that it's keeping me inside and away from alot of the people that get to me. Having no air conditioning in my car and my husband needing to use his car makes it even easier to stay home.

I just spent some time today with quiet music and some aromatherapy candles. It helped my mood a little, but I still have to deal with unemployment because their system crashed first thing this morning and hasn't been brought back up. I hope I can file tomorrow and not have to go back to the office and deal with the woman behind the counter again.

Thanks for the truth and not just some nice words. It's refreshing to read.

[jackfaire]

The only time I assume a woman with red hair has a bad temper is if her hair is literally on fire cuz I would assume anyone in that situation would be in a bad mood.

I always knew this blond well built girl in my high school was smart because I actually spoke to her apparently everyone else was shocked that she graduated from Yale.

I like to think I avoid stereotypes. Yeah public assistance offices do suck for stereotyping. I have known females who living alone with no minor children unemployed can get rental assistance because of the stereotype, "Uh oh she doesn't have a man to take care of her so of course she needs the help"

but myself working my butt off to support me and another person, the other person having difficulty finding work because when he applies people tell him, "Well if you didn't have the felony on your record you would have been perfect" and I was told that I would never get rental assistance because I am a man and can take care of myself.

I was at one point told if I had a female roommate to have her come apply.

[smileyeagle1021]

The one that really bothers me for stereotyping with public assistance, is I was told that because I was going to college that I obviously had enough money that I didn't need food stamps. Umm, excuse me, but I'm going to college because I can't live off of what I'm making now and I want to do something where I can get a better career.
Then they say, oh, in that case you should apply for financial aide at the college so you can spend the money you spend on tuition on food... umm, I don't have financial aide because my tuition is a joint gift from my family (birthday is fall semester tuition, christmas is spring semester tuition) and they've all said that while they are willing to pay my tuition they are not willing to help me with rent or food, so all that would happen if I got financial aide is that instead of tuition I'd get crappy cards and gift cards and still wouldn't be able to afford everything. Right now, since I don't need the financial aide, I don't see why I should apply for it and take it from someone else who genuinely does need it. What I could use though is an extra $50 to $100 a month to pay for food.
Seriously, not everyone at university has money, I really want to know where that stupid rumor was started.
Of course also, as a homosexual, I obviously sleep around and have multiple STDs, obviously have no faith, and obviously care more about my hair and appearance than anything else, and can't possibly know anything about cars or computers (okay, the whole knowing jack about cars is accurate ). Oh, and my personal favorite, I'm obviously out to corrupt all young Mormon Males... yeah, okay...

[jackfaire]

Oh, and my personal favorite, I'm obviously out to corrupt all young Mormon Males... yeah, okay...

No that would be me. I knew a young Mormon male that felt like being around me was a corrupting influence because he was coming to my area with my friends and I will be damned if I censor myself so as to never talk above a PG level. He used to covers his ears and hum when we would discuss certain topics.

I mean anything from drinking, to recreational drug use, to the sex I had inside a married relationship. Not even anything bad on the last one he covered his ears when I told a married friend that me and my ex always made time for it. Nothing even sexually explicit was discussed.

[DrFaroohk]

Don't belive for a second /karma/ will do it for you because that just stupid advice people give to you because they know that nothing bad will ever happen to them, and nothing you could do to get revenge anyway, so they try to cheer you up by sprouting the magical powers of karma will get them. (It doesn't. EVER).

Sure it does! It just needs a little help sometimes. Like when this one dude who kept messing with me wound up in jail, somehow karma let the other inmates believe he was in there for raping a kid. Karma let the local drug dealers know that this other dude who was messing with me might be a police informant. He "moved away" shortly after that. Karma told my boss's wife he was cheating on her after I got written up. Karma is a beautiful thing.

[protege]

Oh, karma *is* a bitch, folks. Sooner or later, those who deserve it...get what's coming to them. It might take awhile, but it *does* happen.

Look at one of my former classmates. This asshole, gave me plenty of crap over the years. He always had the attitude that he was smarter than everyone. Eventually, that proved to be his undoing. Seems he thought he could rip off his law clients and get away with it. He got caught when he tried to cover it up. Right now, he's in jail. As if that wasn't enough...he lost his law license, got heavily fined, his wife left him, and he'll have to explain why he spent time in jail on every job application he fills out. He threw his life away for less than his (supposed) annual salary. Karma did a much better job of kicking him in the nuts than I ever could.

Oh, and that's not the only case. I'm sure I've posted about my ex-girlfriend before on CS. We're still friends, but at the time...I was a bit pissed at her. At the time, she was leaving for another job. She didn't want to talk about things, and then disappeared for 6 months. She let her *mother* tell me that things between us were over I was pissed. But, karma came through--not long after she moved...she ended up *losing* her job, her apartment, her car, etc. Last I heard, she was living in a shitty apartment with someone else and working multiple jobs.

Lastly, we have the bully from high school. This asshole, simply tried to make my life miserable. But, again, karma kicked his ass. Or rather, he got his ass kicked at the mall. As usual, he was harassing someone. This time, the guy beat the shit out of him. Not content with that, the guy had his buddies...leave the bully splattered on the sidewalk Since then, the asshole has kept a *very* low profile.

[Plaidman]

Sure it does! It just needs a little help sometimes. Like when this one dude who kept messing with me wound up in jail, somehow karma let the other inmates believe he was in there for raping a kid. Karma let the local drug dealers know that this other dude who was messing with me might be a police informant. He "moved away" shortly after that. Karma told my boss's wife he was cheating on her after I got written up. Karma is a beautiful thing.

Lying to others to get people hurt isn't karma, or even Vengence. It's being a dick. There is a difference. What did the dude that mess with you do to you? Called you names? That doesn't deserve the amount of beatings, or likely near death he been at for something he never did. You also put another person's life in danger, and even killed, for what? What did he do by messing with you? Borrowed a tool and never gave it back? I also loved your last one. I mean wow, especally after your rants and raves how it's nobody business if you get someone else to cheat on their loved ones, and they are the ones that deserved to be punish, not the otherway to do it. To do it after being written up is being a dick. He writes you up for you not doing your job, and you counter by lying to his wife and causing him a divorce. Just.... Wow. That is NOT Karma, not matter what you think otherwise.

Oh, karma *is* a bitch, folks. Sooner or later, those who deserve it...get what's coming to them. It might take awhile, but it *does* happen.

Congrats protege. Very jealous. Wish stuff like that would happen. But not likely. All my tormanters have great high paying jobs, own places, wives/husbands and family, or some get engaged or mutual breakup to get other lovers and fun times. Nothing bad ever happened to anyone that did anything bad to me. If anything, it seems to be a lucky charm to do things to me, because it means succuss for them.