Why?! Stupid Ex.

[blas87]

Last Friday, I got a random text message. It just said "Hi". I didn't recall the number right away, so I googled it, and found from my favorite website for tracking cell phones (it doesn't give you their name or anything, just the city where they get service from) the city, and I knew who it was.

Dumb ex who wanted to take a "break" right before my 21st birthday, then a few weeks later "Well err I dunno what I want, I think you better find someone better than me", so it took a couple of tries but I did........

Good God. Leave it alone. I didn't answer. I don't mean to be rude or a bitch, I understand a lot of people on both sites are friendly with exes and still have a good relationship, but I don't break up well and I don't try to be friends with exes unless it was a mutual decision or we parted ways in a civil manner or were friends beforehand. And since I've been with my current bf for almost 2 years, obviously he's better than this schmuck.....why try to get a hold of me? I don't want to talk to you. I don't hate him anymore or hold a grudge, but why should I even encourage anything?

I get up on my bf's case about his crazy ex who still constantly calls him from jail and every time she gets out, so it'd be foolish to even try to talk to this guy and have bf find out. Not like I have anything to say anyway, it just irks me.

In case anyone is wondering, I do work with this guy, albeit different shifts and areas, and I do see him from time to time. He won't even look at me unless I have my back to him or am standing in a manner that I can't see him looking. He tends to avoid me in general anyway. So what gives?

Why can't exes just live and let go?

[KnitShoni]

I have a friend who is dealing with this. His now ex-wife put him through hell (not counting the cheating). She's now crying to everyone in sight that he doesn't want to be her friend. Well, why should he? I don't remember seeing anywhere that just because you used to date or be married to someone that they were required to be in your life once the relationship ended.

[blas87]

Thanks for your support.

My bf's crazy ex actually leaves him voicemails when he refuses to answer (when she's calling from her own or someone else's phone) "Well fine, I don't want to talk to you either!!!!" and then a few months later, sure enough, she's trying again......

I don't get why some people can't let it die. It was bad enough that the boyfriend before my current one stalked me until he was dangling several feet in the air being grabbed by his collar by my bf and then later beaten senseless by another guy.

This guy isn't worth thinking about, I'm pitying myself for even trying to analyze it, but I just wonder what the hell he wants to talk about or why he even texted me. We are FB friends, although we don't talk, we just never deleted one another when we broke up. He can see the oodles of pics of me and my bf, let alone my relationship status. Not like it's changed or it's going to.

Ok blas old girl, stop thinking about it.

[wraiths_crono]

My crazy ex still tries to treat me like she did when we were together, even said she would be scared to meet with me cus shes sure she would make "it" happen... The ONLY reason I try and keep in communication is because she has my kiddo, and I prefer to call her and have her put kiddo on the phone (ok shes 4 but still) She needs to realize its over and i wont take her back... ever... she burned that bridge and took a hammer to any parts remaining.

[Kheldarson]

My only ex story is my second bf. We worked at the same camp, had a bit of fling, made it sorta formal, only he stopped talking to me. And the few times he did talk to me, it was to convince me to stay with him. I'll admit to being stupidly naive and did so, finally breaking up with him the next year at camp.

The fun part was when he kept trying to be friendly with me/flirt with me even after his friends tore him a new one, and after I told him calmly I didn't trust him and he could go to hell.