My shared house

[Ginger Tea]

This could go on and on if I let it, but I'll just stick with one issue at the moment
whjich is'nt the shared fridge = shared food mentality of alot of shared housing

No it's one guy who lives downstairs who when he uses the toilet built behind the kitchen (hygenic I know) he oftimes doesn't shut the door and I think the whole house has walked in on him doing his business at one point and he still hasn't worked out the technological wonder that is the door lock.
I had to remind him again today as the guy in the attic has his kids over (boy and girl) and the last thing they should be seing is someone else having a piss

I was in the kitchen once waiting for something to microwave or the kettle to boil, the bathroom door was wide open and he crossed from the bath side to the toilet, saw me in the kitchen and save for the cup covering his crotch I saw way too much of him for my liking.
I'm pretty sure anyone in the kitchen next door has seen him walk naked from bathroom to his room, two women live in the house and neither should be subjected to that and hes been reminded countless times

One time I had just finished cooking a pie and was asked by girl in the attic if it was safe to go into the kitchen, I pop my head in no one there but the oven was on and I was sure I turned it off. So I opened it to check and found in my absence of 5 minutes chatting to a guy I know who popped round on his way to work, he, probably stark naked, got a jacket potato or two out to cook, again anyone next door would have seen him in all his glory.

[Amanita]

Sounds like this guy has no respect for his housemates. One of my friends is a genuine nudist, however he is very sensitive to the feelings of others. He does not go nude around anyone who is uncomfortable with it, or who he does not know. And he doesn't hang around nude where people can look in and see him, either.

If this guy had any respect for his housemates, he would not have to be reminded all-the-freaking-time that he needs to close the door while taking a piss or dump, and that he needs to have his junk covered when in the presence of others, especially since they have expressed discomfort.

[BlaqueKatt]

maybe look into the laws on sexual harassment/indecent exposure and the like.


You're in England but in the US I know I can technically call the police on someone taking a piss outside and have them charged with indecent exposure-which carries with it having to register as a sex offender(so I wouldn't actually do it), however since nothing else has worked-and he does it around kids as well-maybe threatening him with arrest or criminal charges might work.....just a suggestion....

[Ginger Tea]

he hasnt done it outside (that I know of), its the "leave the door open/ajar whilst he does it" aspect that has me and most of the household irked, I meantioned it to him and this thread soely as they guy in the attic had his kids round for the day and I'm sure at some point they would have to go and the upstairs would be in use, in the end he barred them from going to the downstairs loo just to be safe

[Plaidman]

Well, one way to do it requires alot of work. Next time he does it, slam door shut, quickly tie rope around door handle, tie the other end to his door. He now cannot open door to get out.

Granted, no-one can use bathroom, but stress that he really needs to learn to SHUT THE GODDAMN BATHROOM DOOR!

Jebus, I've always done that. I also always put lid down, and wash hands.



Granted, I have for a while, walk around in my sweat pants around the house and no shirt. I use to do it in my boxers.

That was more due to it getting harder and harder to lift my leg enough to put pants on. Now I've had my operation and healing, it's easier to not have to do that.

[Andara Bledin]

Is there anyone in charge?

It should be a house rule that nobody wanders about in their altogether. And it should be enforced, somehow.

And using any of the public-area bathrooms without shutting the door would be considered the same.

^-.-^

[Ginger Tea]

The land lord is a bit of a soft touch, both he and someone else at one point or another owed him 3-4 months rent

I also found a whole sheet of newspaper in there mid week, like that'll flush without consequences and our yellow pages are missing a-g, for the sake of a 30p roll of toilet paper

true if paraphrased enconter
"you can buy books, yet you cant afford toilet paper?"
"Oh I use old chapters for that."
I stopped reading books at that point

[telecom_goddess]

The land lord is a bit of a soft touch, both he and someone else at one point or another owed him 3-4 months rent

I also found a whole sheet of newspaper in there mid week, like that'll flush without consequences and our yellow pages are missing a-g, for the sake of a 30p roll of toilet paper

true if paraphrased enconter
"you can buy books, yet you cant afford toilet paper?"
"Oh I use old chapters for that."
I stopped reading books at that point

Uhhhh someone is using paper instead of toilet paper? That's gonna fuck up the plumbing.

Frankly I'd kick his ass out. If he can't learn to be civilized and close the damn door then he needs to go.

[Amanita]

^At the very least I would threaten him with that. And tell him in no uncertain terms that if he flushes any more newsprint or other unsuitable substances, then he will be the one paying for the visit from the plumber. You might want to mention that to the landlord as well- that he is doing something which may cause damage to the property. If you choose to mention the nudity to the landlord, the words "sexual harrassment" may help. Also mention that he does not care if there are children present, and that his behavior is making everyone else in the house feel uncomfortable in the place they are paying to occupy.

[Plaidman]

Yeah. Group together. Threaten with everyone leaves if landlord just wants him, or kick him out and you all stay.

[Skunkle]

Agreed. Mention the "kids could see you naked and you'd get slapped with a nasty lawsuit" thing.

I also second waiting for him to enter the bathroom, shutting the bathroom door, and tying a rope between the bathroom doorknob and whatever immobile object is nearby, making it impossible for him to open the door. Leave him stuck like that for a few minutes while telling him to lock the door when he's in the WC. If the problem persists, do it again. Sounds as though he's just lazy and forgetful, and/or doesn't give a ---. Sometimes, the only way to get a person like that to mind his manners is to pound the point home repeatedly until he gets annoyed enough to do it just to stop you from screwing with him about it.

[tabbyblack13]

Agreed. Mention the "kids could see you naked and you'd get slapped with a nasty lawsuit" thing.

Lawsuit? How about jail time.

[insertNameHere]

I had problems with one of my roommates off campus, childhood friend of the landlord who he was to kind to put on his ass because of all the shit the tenant has been through in his life. However, as a paying tenant I was getting sick of my food disappearing and my ps3 being used when I had it secured in my room behind a locked door that he broke into using a spare key because he found out it was located in toolbox in the basement. Me and our other roommate let the landlord know that it was kind of insulting to have to deal with an absolute prick who was behind in rent, and that while we got if he got kicked out the jackass wouldn't pay a dime he owned. At the same time when you have TWO tenants who are paying bills on time or EARLY, maybe preference should be given to keeping them happy else he can deal with finding new people.

So, I would second the locking his ass in the bathroom to get the point across as well as going to the landlord to mention the sexual harassment especially since children do come over, and the fact the rest of the people are also annoyed. maybe a house meeting.

[Ginger Tea]

new house based rant time:

Being a shared house the land lord has a legal requirement to install* a fire alarm system and have it tested regularly.
it occasionally (re almost daily) error alarms resulting in a persistant beeeeeep beeeeep beeeeep till someone enters the code, which is written on the box for any idiot to see.
now as it's known to go off sometimes daily (and it went off 5 times since I got in at 9pm last night and just a minute ago). it's rather annoying when the two people who live downstairs are in and blatantly ignore it and I know they are in, I've let it buzz for a few minutes thinking one or the other will get up and when they don't I or someone else upstairs would be down to sort it out, it's worse when the guy from my first rant then opens the door and says something pointless like "you alright?", yeah apart from the fact you can't enter a 5 digit code when it's written down infront of you.
to his credit he did turn it off just now, but it took way longer than it should, perhaps he has trouble making out the hand written numbers and what numbered button they correspond with, that or its 9am and hes already drunk, I had to stop him from keeling into the sink with my dishes in Saturday.

So a year ago the attic detector faulted and the only way to stop the full on alarm was to enter a supervisor code which resulted in a short bleep once every 5 seconds till someone came to fix everything, now hes been in his room ignoring the main fault bleep for 5 whole minutes, so a once every 5 seconds bleep shouldn't be a problem?
Wrong, he took a fire extinguisher to the pannel. It was meantioned off hand to the engineer and iir land lord, but maybe we were too subtle

The man who leaves the oven on all night, smashed the alarm box hoping to stop it bleeping. I've gone to work at 5am and noticed the rings glowing.

*it was here when I moved in

[LexiaFira]

yeah that will fix it. NOT. I am sorry WHY is that particular house mate STILL THERE?