Oversharing

[Ree]

I really do not fucking care about your sex life, and I am sick of reading all the intimate details.

I don't know you from Adam, and it sickens me to read all those little tidbits about your sexual escapades and sexual frustrations.

Write a fucking letter to Penthouse already, or go see a therapist.

Sorry, but I had to get that off my chest.

I just get tired of people on internet forums who think the whole world cares about their sex lives, and share everything about it.

If I want to read porn, I will visit a porn site.

[the_std]

Anonymity is a harsh mistress... And I agree with you. There have been many times where I was reading a thread on CS, or one here, which started off innocently and/or appropriately, and someone will say something offhand like, "Why can't people be nice to retail drones? It's not hard!", and someone else will take the word "hard" and run with it until I now know their penis length, the number of partners they've had and how old they were when they lost their virginity. It shocks me, and is somewhat sad. I sometimes feel like the people who go to those lengths for attention and recognition from strangers on the internet lack something substantial in their lives.

I would also broaden this topic to include people who too readily share information about their bowel movements and/or other bathroom habits. I am immensely grateful that society has loosened up enough to the point where we can feel comfortable addressing these topics in public, but I still feel that there is a time and a place. I use the ability to judge appropriate topics of conversation as an excellent marker of someone's maturity. There are some people who have a habit of posting things so inappropriate that it fails to even get a rise out of me now. I just roll my eyes and ignore their posts.

I'd like to note that I don't mind discussing these things in situations or topics where they are relevant additions to the conversation - sexual preferences in a topic about promiscuity, for example, or threads specifically created for the discussion of such things with NSFW labels and warnings. But the introduction of inappropriate comments into a conversation that had nothing to do with them is attention-grubbing and sad.

[Andara Bledin]

In the case of things getting out of hand on CS, the Report button is your friend and while I likely wouldn't use it in such a case, I can see it being appropriate for others to do so.

I attempt to keep such things to threads that are about them, but I'm not certain I haven't been guilty of this myself, for which I do apologize.

^-.-^

[Boozy]

Oversharing is terribly common with the "recently-initiated" -- people who have just become sexual active in the last few years, or perhaps have just recently discovered a kink.

It's like when children become toilet-trained, they like to talk about it to everyone. At first, you let them do so with close family and friends. But when they start telling the cashier at the supermarket about their latest bowel movement, you put your foot down.

[AdminAssistant]

Well, the constant talk about boobs and other such things in non-NSFW tagged threads can get old. However, there is a Life Advice section on CS, and if a person flags it as NSFW, isn't it fair to ask for a bit of advice in that department? Or is it violating a site rule that I can't remember?

[Ree]

I don't think anyone said it was a violation of any site rules.

Just because I am a mod at CS, doesn't mean I can't post about things that bug me from other forums I frequent, as well as at CS.

I just prefer not to read about people's sexual escapades and issues.

If the same people are constantly posting for advice about their sex life, and bringing up the same kinks and details each time, then it becomes a little bit about exhibitionism, in my opinion.

[AdminAssistant]

I understand where you're coming from, Ree, and I didn't mean to imply that you couldn't post about things that annoy you. Sorry! Yeah, it can be a bit about exhibitionism or "look at how different I am!" Honestly, I feel similarly about some other topics that get posted about a lot, but I just skip those threads.

[Lace Neil Singer]

It's like when children become toilet-trained, they like to talk about it to everyone.

Or they put it on Facebook, along with photographic evidence. And then, later on, they end up being featured on STFU Parents. XD

[McDreidel09]

I have been guilty of overshare. Luckily, I was put in line about it. What it comes from probably is that my friends IRL talk about it because we are comfortable enough to talk about it to each other. So in this community, I feel relaxed enough to talk about it, but I didn't realize at the time that what I was saying was just too much.

[KellyHabersham]

Or they put it on Facebook, along with photographic evidence. And then, later on, they end up being featured on STFU Parents. XD

That Facebook bit sounds just like what my daughter's father was doing a few months back - half of his posts were about "nookie" with his girlfriend, and he went into WAY too much detail regarding some testing session he did for some Viagra-like medication. (he's one of those people who volunteers to get paid for testing meds)

[Boozy]

Or they put it on Facebook, along with photographic evidence. And then, later on, they end up being featured on STFU Parents. XD

I was talking about the toddlers themselves not understanding when something is appropriate or not.... But it's probably worse when the parents do it. They should know better, after all.

[Lace Neil Singer]

I was talking about the toddlers themselves not understanding when something is appropriate or not.... But it's probably worse when the parents do it. They should know better, after all.

They should... but they don't. O_o And that makes it worse. When a two year old talks about poopy, it's disgusting but understandable as a small child doesn't know what's inappropriate. When you get parents discussing poopy on Facebook... well, words fail me. Do Not Want!

[McDreidel09]

They should... but they don't. O_o And that makes it worse. When a two year old talks about poopy, it's disgusting but understandable as a small child doesn't know what's inappropriate. When you get parents discussing poopy on Facebook... well, words fail me. Do Not Want!

One of my friends had her first child a few weeks ago. For basically a whole week, all of her statuses were about his bowel movements and how explosive they were and how many blankets he has ruined.

I love her and the baby, but not that much.