My sister

[IDrinkaRum]

My sister's birthday was October 22. Exactly 3 weeks after mine. I didn't call her to wish her a happy birthday. She sat in her house all day, all alone. No one gave her a birthday cake neither.

On Friday, I was on day 3 of Child Rum staying home. I was also making her an appointment to see a doctor, took her to see doctor, found out she has fluid in her ears, went to pharmacy, got medicine, got lunch, went home, we both took naps. And all this was done by 12:30 PM.

How the eff am I supposed to know that my sister was home alone?

"Your sister calls you all the time." <--what my mother just told me.

BS. She calls me once a year to wish me a happy birthday. And if she does deign to pick up a phone any other time, it's only because I've called her first.

The only reason I knew my sister wanted to go out to breakfast with me on my birthday was because she. had. my. mother. ask. me. if. I. wanted. to. do. that.

Now my sister has hurt feelings. Boo-freaking-hoo. My mother's golden child is hurt.

What about me??? What about all the times I try to reach out to her? And then all I get is a complaint from my mother saying I'm borhering my sister?

When will it be my turn to ... I don't know ... feel the love?

[blas87]

Family is so wonderful, aren't they? Meh, no, let's make it more broad.

I loathe people like that so very much. People who make it a dire emergency and get butthurt if you aren't there for them, but make little to no effort to be there for you.

Haha, golden child. Here, have a hug. I know all about favoring one child over another

[IDrinkaRum]

Thanks for the hug Blas. I needed it.

So far, my mom hasn't called me (but it's only been 1 day, so meh).

I did send my sister a belated e-card and I'm mailing (yes, mailing) a package with her birthday presents in it, and I'll be mailing her daughter's (my niece) birthday present too.

My sister might live no more than roughly 15 minutes from my house, and I could drop everything off at my mother's house, but I'm not going to give them the satisfaction of complaining about me to my face.

I'm so ready to move to another state where I don't have to see/hear/be with them every freaking day.

I'm just so bone weary about this. It's finally gotten to me and broken me. Now I've resolved not to let them hurt me again.

[telecom_goddess]

It really is a shame that sisters can't get along....and end up hating each other. My daughters are like that too...my two oldest can't stand being around each other....and barely interact with their younger sister. They used to get along when they were younger...and I keep trying to tell them that eventually they are all they are going to have, is each other.

[blas87]

Don't leave the state. Just move up here, a little north. So it would take at least a good two hours to get here

[protege]

Of course, you *could* always do what my now-deceased grandmother did once. She got tired of sending things to my cousin...and never hearing back from him. Before cutting him off completely, she sent him an empty box. Not totally empty though. Inside, she included a smartass note hinting that the only reason she sent the box...was to see if the postal system was still working. From what I understand, he was furious when she did that. That's what you get when you ignored Grandma

[IDrinkaRum]

It really is a shame that sisters can't get along....and end up hating each other. My daughters are like that too...my two oldest can't stand being around each other....and barely interact with their younger sister. They used to get along when they were younger...and I keep trying to tell them that eventually they are all they are going to have, is each other.

My mom uses that same arguement with me. But it's just not working any more.

I give and give and give and all they do is take. Especially my sister. It's okay for my mom to watch her daughter, but when I need my mom to watch Child Rum, it's the end of the world. Even before my sister had her daughter, my sister would get mad to hear that my mom was watching my daughter. Oh, the horrors! A stay-at-home mom needing someone to watch their child when they don't want to take their child with them to their gyno appointment, or going to their therapist, or whatever.

And don't forget, I'm not smart. Not like my sister. My sister went to college and got her bachelor's degree & now works on the computer networks at the company she works at and is on call several times a month, and it's that wonderful?

Yeah, I tried the college route. I went on academic probation because my grades weren't the greatest (I do have an Associate's Degree in Applied Science in Education - I can teach pre-school, actually, I'd like to update that, but not right now, maybe when I move to Maryland next year). When my academic probation was over, I could have gone back to college, but my mother told I shouldn't do that, I only had that one chance and I f'ed it up. So I took a job as a receptionist because that was what my sister did and wasn't that all wonderful? So I did what my mother wanted and I keep doing it because someday, I might do the one thing that will make my mother love me and not knock me down because I read books and have "book smarts" and then I won't "scare" her because I read and do crossword puzzles and fill-in puzzles and be a practical walking dictionary.

Ahem ... Sorry ... My mini-rant is over now.

Just ... too much hurt bottled up for too long.

[telecom_goddess]

Well at least I take comfort in the fact that my sister and I were probably equally hated by our mother....

She's a story unto herself.

[IDrinkaRum]

I don't know if it would have been better for my mother to hate both of us, or at least be indifferent to us. I'm more like my father anways.

Meh, the move to Maryland can't come quick enough for me.

[IDrinkaRum]

As stated up above, I don't like my sister. Really. Spoiled princess, etc. However, what's happening with her short term disability insurance is something I wouldn't wish on anyone.

My sister is pregnant (due at the end of December - scheduled c-section). She also has 170/89 blood pressure. Her doctor, worried about complications (and pre-eclampsia), has ordered her to be put on bed rest. MetLife (the company that does the short term disability payments/whatever and who approved her 3 years ago when she was put on bed rest with her daughter) has turned her down for it. Saying she doesn't need it. (Yes, yes she does. This is *serious* plus, she can't just take off from work without $$ coming in - they have bills to pay and a mortgage to boot).

She's very upset about this. Yes, she can try and fight it, but that raises her blood pressure & that's just not good right now.

She mentioned that MetLife, since the recession has been denying this short term disability stuff left & right. A few months ago, they denied a co-worker his time off after he had BRAING SURGERY saying he really didn't need the time off.

Really ... Again, I might dislike my sister, and think she got everything on a golden platter (mother's favorite, etc., etc).

[telecom_goddess]

Wow....If you don't need time off after brain surgery and during bed rest on pregnancy when do you need it.

Besides I thought the recession was "over"

[IDrinkaRum]

Ummm ... I supose the only time you need time off is when unicorns pooping lollipops and rainbows come and sit in the laps of the MetLife peoples. Or when pigs fly, whichever comes first. (However, male/female chauvenist pigs don't count )



As I said before, I might really dislike my little sis, but she doesn't deserve this runaround.