It's hard to not take personally when you cannot have a debate with someone without them putting words in your mouth (fingers) or making an assumption about something you said. It gets old and sickening. If that's your method of debating, then I guess do what you do, but don't be surprised if you irritate people. It makes a little more sense to fully read what someone has written and try not to take it out of context or assume they have written something that they have not.
Perhaps you're right. I cannot debate with people who don't even read what I've written and take everything I've written as a blanket statement or a "One person does so EVERYONE does!" situation, which has happened more than once with you and a few other members. That is nitpicking and turning a thread into a whole new direction, not to mention accusing. Not debating.
Debating would be disagreeing with me and explaining why, without claiming that I wrote something that I didn't or that I made a blanket statement that I didn't. See, this is the beauty of this site, versus a spoken debate. You can go back and read what I wrote. If you can find where I actually said "Everyone who smokes pot is a loser", good, you proved me wrong and an idiot. But you can't. So I'm more likely to take it personally, and less likely to keep the topic on topic, because it's been resorted to poor debating tactics.
My own views are influenced a lot by friends and coworkers, the people I deal with the most in life. That is my basis for debate, as yours seems to be taking things out of context and making your own assumptions. If you don't like my debate tactic of using what I experience day to day, then just flat out say it, and call it a poor tactic. It may not be your way or your opinion of logic because you think outside of a larger box than I, or you have a larger heart and forgive and forget a lot easier than I do. That's what makes us different. But this debate goes nowhere when someone is called out on something they never said.
Perhaps you're right. I cannot debate with people who don't even read what I've written and take everything I've written as a blanket statement or a "One person does so EVERYONE does!" situation, which has happened more than once with you and a few other members. That is nitpicking and turning a thread into a whole new direction, not to mention accusing. Not debating.
Debating would be disagreeing with me and explaining why, without claiming that I wrote something that I didn't or that I made a blanket statement that I didn't. See, this is the beauty of this site, versus a spoken debate. You can go back and read what I wrote. If you can find where I actually said "Everyone who smokes pot is a loser", good, you proved me wrong and an idiot. But you can't. So I'm more likely to take it personally, and less likely to keep the topic on topic, because it's been resorted to poor debating tactics.
My own views are influenced a lot by friends and coworkers, the people I deal with the most in life. That is my basis for debate, as yours seems to be taking things out of context and making your own assumptions. If you don't like my debate tactic of using what I experience day to day, then just flat out say it, and call it a poor tactic. It may not be your way or your opinion of logic because you think outside of a larger box than I, or you have a larger heart and forgive and forget a lot easier than I do. That's what makes us different. But this debate goes nowhere when someone is called out on something they never said.
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