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    Thanks to My Family For Supporting Me...JK

    A few weeks ago, I applied for another job. They came to the teacher in charge of forensic chem at my school (I majored in Forensic & Toxicological Chemistry and minored in Biology for the new people) and asked if he had any students who wanted a job. He forwarded the email to me and a couple other people and I immediately applied. The job? Two weeks training with the Army's crime lab, then I'd go to Afghanistan and work 1,200 hours there testing the IEDs (improvised explosive devices or roadside bombs). The pay is sick. It's right up my alley. I'd get 4-5 weeks off after the 1,200 hours then can go back if I want. I never have to leave the base I'm on.

    I don't expect any of my family to be excited about this. I don't expect any of my family to be glad about this. But I'd at least expect some shred of support. Nada. I've argued with my mom every single day since I applied for the job weeks ago. I keep getting crap from my mom, my sister, my aunts, and my grandmother about it. My step-dad doesn't talk about it. My mom made me tell my grandmother while we were out for dinner for my cousin's birthday and my grandmother cried.

    Today was my phone interview. I posted something on facebook about it. On my way out, my mom says, "Today's your interview? Make sure to talk clearly!" I thanked her and stood there waiting. She just said bye so I left. All my friends on facebook wished me luck. Friends I barely talk to or don't even talk to these days wished me luck. My sister said, "No we don't want him to get this job". My aunt just posted "What is meant to be will be". My mom just said "Afganistan". It wasn't until I replied, "I'd just like to take a second to thank my family for supporting me...JK" that my mom called me and claimed she supported me. Not one family member wished me luck except for my mom after I publicly dissed her and the rest of my family where everyone can see.

    I know they are just worried about me but they don't seem to give a crap that I want to do what will make me happy. I hate my current job so much. And I'm supposed to move from Jersey to Maryland for it? Fuck that. I'm not moving for something that makes me miserable. I'd sooner quit and be unemployed. So why can't they at least want me to get this job since it'll make me happy?
    Violence has resolved more conflicts than anything else. The contrary opinion that violence doesn't solve anything is merely wishful thinking at its worst. - Starship Troopers
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    perhaps their worry is so much that they fear they will lose you even if you aren't going to be on the front lines. And that much worry or the fact that you are going over seas is very scary so it over-rode their other emotions? This is a guess though.
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    • #3
      Yeah, I wonder if that's it. But even still, I would support you. A friend of mine joined the Navy last year. Initially I was concerned, and wanted to be sure that he was doing it for the right reasons, not hoping for a "quick fix" for his life, or following anyone else. But I still supported him, because I wanted him to be happy.

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      • #4
        It's been three weeks now. Three weeks I've been non-stop arguing with my mom about it. Not once has any family members said they are at least happy I'd be doing something I'd love.
        Violence has resolved more conflicts than anything else. The contrary opinion that violence doesn't solve anything is merely wishful thinking at its worst. - Starship Troopers

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        • #5
          I feel for ya. Sometimes family means well, but it comes out the wrong way and they come across as patronizing and non supportive.

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          • #6
            It's hard to hope someone you love gets a job testing bombs in a dangerous country halfway around the world, even when that's what they wan to do. And it's hard to be supportive when you feel someone is making a huge mistake. Hopefully they'll come around.
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            • #7
              Originally posted by LexiaFira View Post
              perhaps their worry is so much that they fear they will lose you even if you aren't going to be on the front lines. And that much worry or the fact that you are going over seas is very scary so it over-rode their other emotions?
              The fact that the mother lied about supporting him says otherwise.

              BTW Greenday what kind of "crap" is your family giving you?

              Whatever their issues, good luck.
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              • #8
                Originally posted by Talon View Post
                The fact that the mother lied about supporting him says otherwise.

                BTW Greenday what kind of "crap" is your family giving you?

                Whatever their issues, good luck.
                Lots of "You're so naive thinking you won't be in danger." "It's stupid to want to do this." "You're only doing this for the money." My mom makes an effort to find out about who dies in Afghanistan and lets me know, except she doesn't notice she always pictures soldiers who died fighting and not chilling on the base.
                Violence has resolved more conflicts than anything else. The contrary opinion that violence doesn't solve anything is merely wishful thinking at its worst. - Starship Troopers

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                • #9
                  You're family's probably worried, but they should still support you. It's your decision. It's your risk.

                  You could probably say something along the lines of, "I know you're concerned, and I appreciate your concern. The risk will be minimal. I think it's worth it, and that it will be a great opportunity for me." Show that you understand and appreciate their concerns but it's your decision, and perhaps they'll be more supportive? Just a thought...

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                  • #10
                    I've acknowledged their concerns. I've said I know there is a risk going into a war zone but the fact is, for terrorists to get me, they'd have to get through all the MPs and guards, all the active duty soldiers...etc. I'm not leaving the base so it's not like I'd get kidnapped. And it's not like the terrorists have fight jets or bombers so they can't just drop bombs on the middle of the base.
                    Violence has resolved more conflicts than anything else. The contrary opinion that violence doesn't solve anything is merely wishful thinking at its worst. - Starship Troopers

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                    • #11
                      Well Greenday, I can say I'd be a little conflicted if I were your mother, but I wouldn't play games or family feud to get my point across to you.

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