Thanks For The Support!

[blas87]

So the other day one of my friends (the married one) was on FB and I sent her a PM letting her know I quit smoking, and of course she was happy for me. Then I sent her another message, just to warn her, even though I don't go out much anyway, that even moreso now more than ever, I will probably be avoiding the bars and other places of the such because it's too tempting to light up again. Because I would often get uncomfortable of how drunk everyone around me was getting, I'd oftentimes just chainsmoke by myself or outside just to be away from everyone or just to keep myself "calm" (yes, I know NOW that smoking does not calm you down, before anyone feels the need to remind me of that, I know the truth now).

So we talked about that for a while because she quit smoking a little more than a year ago, she said she understood and hopes that everything goes well for me and to keep it up, blah blah blah. I told her to tell her husband also, because he quit a couple of years ago using a book and I knew he'd love to hear about it because he was always on my rear about quitting. She said she would.

Then last night, her husband sends my bf a text "Hey, we're all going to the bar! Come on down guys!"

Thanks for the support, you dumb fucks.

[Greenday]

Sucka!

Is smoking still allowed in bars in Wisconsin?

Message might not have gotten to him yet, that's all.

[blas87]

WI went totally smoke free this past summer. My city went smoke free in 2008, however, it was easy to get around because it was the only city within hundreds of miles that was smoke free, so just a few minutes out of the way and you could smoke at the bar.

I haven't been one for going out in quite a while, so it really doesn't effect me that much, but the trigger is going to be that with money still being very tight in almost every aspect of every business, not every bar built on a smoking area or patio, so with most bars, walking in you will walk past a huge group of people smoking. In areas where there are multiple bars on one street, there are people smoking everywhere outside.

In this critical time, it's best to just avoid it. I know I can't hide forever, but it's too tempting.

[Greenday]

Well, if you know it's going to tempt you, it's better to not even give it a chance to screw things up.

[blas87]

They know it as well. Everyone knows blas was a chimney at the bars. Mostly out of boredom or awkwardness, but the point stays the same.

Ya know, I wish I had it as easy as those two when it comes to quitting, but I don't. Good on you that you could just wake up one day and say "No more!" but it's not that easy for others. Good for them that they could just go right back to the bar (when smoking was still allowed) and not be affected. Not the same here.

If it's not the people smoking, it will just be being uncomfortable and wanting to make a mad dash outside and smoke to escape the noise and everyone being stupid.

Again, for the billionth time, can't we just go BOWLING?!!?!

[telecom_goddess]

Damn blas you can't get a break with these guys can you...do they do ANYTHING besides fracking drink?

[blas87]

Meh, it's Wisconsin, and the average person here between 16-30 is brainwashed into thinking that drinking is the only thing to do. If you can survive that utter bullshit way of thinking, you're on a way to a lot more money and much more productive time off of work......but then you're also considered a traitor to your friends who won't snap out of it yet.

[BlaqueKatt]

Meh, it's Wisconsin, and the average person here between 16-30 is brainwashed into thinking that drinking is the only thing to do. If you can survive that utter bullshit way of thinking, you're on a way to a lot more money and much more productive time off of work......but then you're also considered a traitor to your friends who won't snap out of it yet.

Or a killjoy, or no fun, or a "stuffy b*tch", or an elitist snob.....I feel your pain....

[Lace Neil Singer]

It can work the other way; I had a friend who gave up smoking for about five months and all thru those five months was a complete pain. She'd put on a pained expression when anyone lit up and make cutting remarks about how unhealthy it was. She eventually killed the attitude when someone pointed out that while we supported her choice to quit, there was no reason at all to be a bitch about it. She eventually managed to quit for good after a relapse, and has not gone back to her former attitude.

As for your friends; best thing I can suggest is to tell them straight that you don't appreciate their attitude and that they need to quit it before you quit hanging out with them. Methinks they need to grow up a bit.

[telecom_goddess]

God I hate it when former smokers adopt that attitude of "you SUCK cause you still smoke and you're nasty and how can you do that, and I"m better than you cause I quit"....whatever. I don't have that attitude, anyone else in the house that still smokes can still smoke in peace. Outside

[Lace Neil Singer]

I live in a rented flat and smoke outside, partly cuz the landlord says I must but also cuz cigarette smoke causes an unearthly stink when it accumalates inside. O_o

[blas87]

I have no intention or desire to become one of those pitchfork toting ex-smokers who go around playing Cigarette Patrol with people who still smoke, especially their friends.

I fucking hate people who do that.

I would just appreciate some support from people, ya know?. I haven't told anyone to quit smoking. I have asked that people not invite me out somewhere where I'd be tempted to smoke again or places where large crowds of people will be smoking. It's hard enough not to light up again at work as it is.

To everyone who has been supportive, you can rest assured your support will never be forgotten and will always be appreciated. I cannot thank people enough for their support and kind words and how they have lifted me.

[taxguykarl]

I have no intention or desire to become one of those pitchfork toting ex-smokers who go around playing Cigarette Patrol with people who still smoke, especially their friends.

I fucking hate people who do that.

Don't we all. Have these people nothing better to do with their time. Full disclosure: I don't smoke and was turned off it (ironically) from a flirtation with growing tobacco--long story.

To everyone who has been supportive, you can rest assured your support will never be forgotten and will always be appreciated. I cannot thank people enough for their support and kind words and how they have lifted me.

Glad to help.

[telecom_goddess]

I'm with you blas....lately I've been craving a real cigarette pretty bad but haven't caved in yet....

go us!