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background: to get assistance for my daughter from the state I have to once again prove she is allergic to Dairy. (apparently there IS a difference between lactose intolerance and milk allergies. ok whatever) The powers that be that are WIC end background
So the whole issue with those first few days of her being born and literally puking all over herself and the poor nurse that was holding her the regular formula not once but twice before soy formula was tried, the fact it turned her RED (well as red as one can get for being a newborn) and that she could not eat for a while because of the reaction wasn't enough the first time.
I understand that there is a process and everyone must adhere to the rules but what part of this went missing from their files? Where did they not have it that she is on soy formula for a reason? I really don't think this is something she will grow out of either. I also understand that some kids do and its a process that must go through again but, seriously. When I give my child four ounces of lactaid just to see if it will stay and to have her throw it all up, turn bright red again have what appear to be baby hives ALL OVER her body worse than I ever saw her screaming in pain because it hurts to even hold her is enough. It went away in an hour but then spread to her limbs which began to swell, and the back of her neck, by then we were on our way to the ER.
Not four hours later she is doped (liquid benadril and steroids to help the allergic reaction and to flush it out of her system) and a sleeping child later we are released. All is well. But I am still angry and furious and hurt for my child. I shouldn't have had to go through this and I still blame myself because I didn't have to give this to her.
I didn't have to cause her suffering I could have just said no and gone to the doctor. But no I had to try and hope that it would working knowing in the back of my mind that this would happen. No I had to be stupid and put her through this. I am more angry with myself than with WIC because I should have had the sense to just go straight to the dr instead of make her go through this. I could be an awesome mom, which would mean nothing since I did this to her. In her mind its all over with and life is great grand and wonderful, but in my mind I'm stuck over the moment I didn't think and why did I screw up again...just like the first accident....its my fault.
So the whole issue with those first few days of her being born and literally puking all over herself and the poor nurse that was holding her the regular formula not once but twice before soy formula was tried, the fact it turned her RED (well as red as one can get for being a newborn) and that she could not eat for a while because of the reaction wasn't enough the first time.
I understand that there is a process and everyone must adhere to the rules but what part of this went missing from their files? Where did they not have it that she is on soy formula for a reason? I really don't think this is something she will grow out of either. I also understand that some kids do and its a process that must go through again but, seriously. When I give my child four ounces of lactaid just to see if it will stay and to have her throw it all up, turn bright red again have what appear to be baby hives ALL OVER her body worse than I ever saw her screaming in pain because it hurts to even hold her is enough. It went away in an hour but then spread to her limbs which began to swell, and the back of her neck, by then we were on our way to the ER.
Not four hours later she is doped (liquid benadril and steroids to help the allergic reaction and to flush it out of her system) and a sleeping child later we are released. All is well. But I am still angry and furious and hurt for my child. I shouldn't have had to go through this and I still blame myself because I didn't have to give this to her.
I didn't have to cause her suffering I could have just said no and gone to the doctor. But no I had to try and hope that it would working knowing in the back of my mind that this would happen. No I had to be stupid and put her through this. I am more angry with myself than with WIC because I should have had the sense to just go straight to the dr instead of make her go through this. I could be an awesome mom, which would mean nothing since I did this to her. In her mind its all over with and life is great grand and wonderful, but in my mind I'm stuck over the moment I didn't think and why did I screw up again...just like the first accident....its my fault.
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