Being left alone for two months

[LexiaFira]

not literally left, but little to no contact to the point that if there is any from this person's side it is curt and distant. FYI this is a facebook buddy and not someone that frequents the forums here or at cs.com

Back history, I had forewarned most of my friends that the holiday brings out the nastiness in me but that I am trying to keep it at bay and be nice but will be depressed. That in november I would be taking a short trip and the dreaded week in december. Until then I have tried my best to be pleasant and at least post so that people (my friends and family) know i'm alive....

Now my buddy that disappeared since last month I do understand is working hard for his finals and generally preparing for everything. I know he is busy. However why does that have to mean I get ignored...I did say i would try and keep in contact....

Now me being me, I am starting to distance in return and if I get no contact by january then I am chosing to go on as if nothing happened and I don't know this person....cold yes but...thats how I feel. I got left behind, and any time i contacted him it was met with coldness and I apologized every time.

Fine. I'd rather not be your friend anymore anyways. And I feel bad for thinking this but me thinks his fiancee went holiday crazy and is dragging him through it....and this is based on what little I was told

Yep i have no right to judge....but kind of hard not to feel hurt for what i thought was being friendly and cheering him up when he was done only to be met with this....BS

[RootedPhoenix]

*hugs, offers cookies*

[LexiaFira]

*hugs back and offers fudge in return for cookies*

and this is my friend not hubs

[Hyena Dandy]

*hugs both and offers fudge and cookies in order to one-up you both*

[aurelemsrealm]

Since I don't know any of the story, I don't know what to say about it. I can only tell you about myself. I apologize if I've missed the point entirely.

My interactions with Facebook and communication with family and friends in general is hit and miss. I'm the type who just kind of lives in my own world. My world consists of my wife and I raising our daughter, me working toward my degree and a better career path, my job to help make ends meet for my family, and then trying to make the most of any free time I do get to work on personal projects. I pop out of my shell every now and again to see what's going on in the rest of the world, and let everyone else know that I'm still alive. Then, I retreat back into my own world to continue with living my life the only way I know how. I have a local friend I met through CS who can attest to not hearing from me more often than every few months.

I'm often accused of being distant, sometimes even by my own wife or others close to me. I do sometimes go through periods of extreme moodiness for no real clear reason, and those moods do cause me to withdraw from any semblance of a social life. I just pour my time and energy into focusing on my routine until I feel better about things. I've always been that way since I can remember. Withdrawing from all but the most pressing of matters is how I cope with those times that I feel overwhelmed. My behavior in that regard is not meant to ignore or slight anyone. It's just my way of dealing with life. I should also note that I can be a difficult person to live with when going through these bouts of moodiness. I guess I figure others shouldn't be around when I'm feeling that moody so I don't risk taking it out on others unless they deserve it.

As I said, I don't know the situation. I'm not telling you how you should feel or anything like that. It just sounds familiar from a different perspective.

[RootedPhoenix]

*hugs both and offers fudge and cookies in order to one-up you both*

LOL. Love on a debate board. Sweet!

The only thing I can think of is to tell your friend how you feel. But I don't know the relationship at all.

[LexiaFira]

he is kind of a teacher, and friend. and the communication is key if i'm going to learn what he is teaching me. Well....he is engaged to get married. Thats fine I totally understand that, and in college, I know his class schedule thats fine too.

But for there to be silence for this long. I basically said find of the above that I understand completely, yet for me to have to initiate the contact ALL the time its getting a bit unfair. I am pretty much up from 6 or 7am every day *lisa has her own internal clock heh* and in bed at latest by 10pm. If anyone calls me I answer the cell phone. House phone it is asked no calls after 9pm because if you wake up dad you get in trouble, for dad will let you have it.

left a nice message about thanks for talking to me and helping me with my latest lesson, which failed miserably. Hope all your plans are going well.

just very upset because...i don't do well with silence, my mind spins it to I did something wrong they are ignoring me to get back at me, or super angry and can't speak to me without letting me have it -which in this case even angry contact is contact - or i effed up to the point its over.

just....basically besides family which I do turn to when they aren't busy, i am scrambling to keep sane because of what time of year it is for me which has nothing to do with the holidays. (ok yeah that its christmas isn't helping but thats nothing compared to whats going on with me. not that christmas isn't important...but what happened around this time...)

and he knows this...tomorrow is going to be hell for me because of what happened around this time...wish there was a serum to forget. sorry for the secrecy and sounding like an ungrateful person...it just hurts. because this would be the umpteenth friend who bailed on me. which means i suck at making friends or i really am driving people away when thats not my intent at all

[RootedPhoenix]

*hugs* I do the same thing.

[LexiaFira]

today told him i stopped caring and have a great new year. and don't bother contacting me cause i stopped caring (some amount of time) ago when he decided to stop being an arse.
I forget the amount of time but when he calmed down and tried to be civil I'd had it by then.

Going into blessed mental numbness this week. Will be mostly functional and lovey on my daughter and ignoring all else but immediately family. IE if i don't respond to your messages don't take it personal...its for my own sanity i not venture out my hidey hole for a while lol (no seriously)