Last minute rushing

[DrFaroohk]

So Santa decided to bring the boy a new bed for christmas since his is old and falling apart. I just tonight find out that we need to go get this fucking thing. Oh, it could have been delivered, if it had been mentioned when it was ordered six weeks ago, but now we have to go get it, and it's gotta be done TONIGHT, and so a quiet evening at home is now a hectic scatterbrained free for all clusterfuck because we desperately need to hunt down a truck.

I HATE RUSHING AND HURRYING! Someone else has once again made their problem into my problem.

[powerboy]

I feel for ya. I hate being in rush. I always find a way to forget something, if I am in a rush

[blas87]

I hate rushing.

One of the ways my bf and I get into really big arguments is that a big problem with him having ADHD is that he has no concept of time management (or, I should say, to avoid stereotyping, he himself refuses to manage his time and he is extremely resistent to adhering to a schedule), and he also can't multitask, like talking and eating.

We will be at a restaurant before a movie, and he'll totally quit eating and babble on and on for several minutes, next thing you know, we have 10 minutes before the movie starts and he's barely touched his food because he wouldn't quit talking. Then he gets mad at me for telling him to get a to go box or if I suggest a later movie......yells at me for rushing him to eat and stop talking, yells at me for pushing him to manage his time, says he will do whatever he wants whenever he wants, and that I need to "chill out" and not rush him.

I'm not a rusher, I HATE rushing. But a lot of weekends, unfortunately, we are literally running into the movie theater and running up the stairs to get a seat before it starts. We were also late to a wedding reception and my 5 year reunion and he also refused to be up in time to go see my grandma for Thanksgiving.

Oh, and today he is bellyaching because he still hasn't done any Christmas shopping and the mall closes at 5 today. And he is upset that what he wants to get me for Christmas won't be delivered until January. He has had all this time to shop, even online, and he's refused to do it until today.

[telecom_goddess]

These people who "don't like schedules" and can't manage time need to go fuck off. Scheduling and managing time is part of being a responsible grownup and if it infringes on your fun time then too bad

[DrFaroohk]

I'm not the most organized person, but I'm able to get ready and go a lot quicker than most people by simply preparing less. I don't need 45 minutes to do my hair just to be able to leave the house. I can take a reasonable shower in about 3 minutes. I can pretty much drink a whole cup of coffee in one swallow. I'm on the move!

[blas87]

I budget my time to the exact minute.....it's not always perfect, but I'm only late for work when there is a power outage or when AT&T's towers decided to not move their clocks forward an hour a couple springs ago.

I give myself more time when I'm off work, so that I can piddle poodle around a bit, but I don't mess around when I have to go to work.

[telecom_goddess]

piddle poodle? that's a new expression on me

[blas87]

I just made it up, I really meant to say piss around or waste time.

[anakhouri]

These people who "don't like schedules" and can't manage time need to go fuck off. Scheduling and managing time is part of being a responsible grownup and if it infringes on your fun time then too bad

Bing bing bing! More than ANYTHING, I hate people who are not prompt. I am always on time. Always. Even with a toddler. It drives me insane when we show up on time and someone else holds us up because they lost track of time or some lame excuse. That's what watches are for!

[Boozy]

I'm not the most organized person, but I'm able to get ready and go a lot quicker than most people by simply preparing less.

I wish more people understood that -- that if you're short on time, the solution is not necessarily to move quicker, but to do less.

I once had a co-worker show up for work 15 minutes late because his "stirfry took a long time to cook". Seriously. Like eating stirfry was an absolute necessity.

I told him if he was running short on time, he should have made himself a sandwich and ate it on the way.

[blas87]

Nail right on the head with that one.

Or with other people, it's simply going to bed at a decent time and waking up in plenty of time to get ready if you simply must primp or make a special dinner or do chores or run errands before work/school.

I often complain lately about having to cram overtime at work because the past month I have had a lot of trouble getting to sleep on time. Unfortunately, because of a month of no overtime, I got used to being able to stay up later and stretch out going to the gym, tanning, running errands, cleaning up, etc....so in November/December, I had to start learning how to budget time again and it really wasn't working for me. Still isn't very well. At the end of the week, I end up having to cram several hours in instead of just a few because I've done it to myself by not getting to bed early enough or refusing to get up and not hitting snooze over and over again.

But at least I don't blame my work, my family, my boyfriend, or everything else around me. I know that it's my own fault and I have to learn to fix it.