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I love my mom. I really do. I am grateful that she is letting me take up residence here on my breaks until I get my apartment and I am grateful that she is helping me out while I am jobless. However, she is driving me bonkers!
1) Her housekeeping sucks. Whenever I am home, I clean. I clean the whole freaken place for her, even when I am home for just the weekend. However, when I do help out, apparently, I do it all wrong. For example, the laundry. I sort the laundry 3 ways: 1)Colors 2)Whites 3)Her uniforms, since they are all greasy and gross and shouldn't be with the other clothes. She freaks out, saying that I need to also separate the light colors and the dark colors. It won't make a freaken difference! They will be fine! Or if I clean a whole room, on my hands and knees, she will notice the tiniest freaken thing and just keep repeating how I missed that part, but completely look over the fact that the room looks a million times better than it did before I attacked it.
The thing is, she doesn't even clean! I do all the stuff that she and my sister won't do! Why the crap is she even criticizing me if she won't even do it herself?
2) Her choice in men. She has been going out with this dumbass for a few years now. He has cheated on her not once, but TWICE. He hardly spends time with her. He has put a virus on the desktop computer several times looking up porn, but claims that he is not even interested in sex or porn. He doesn't even attempt to get a job and would rather mooch off my mother. He treats her like crap and yells at her, especially in front of people. They fight constantly However, she keeps getting back with him and then talks crap about him all the time, but then turns around and tries to get my sister and me to consider him family. Uh no. I won't consider a 37 year old mooch who has the maturity of a 12 year old boy(at best) and treats my mom like crap family. She gets all hurt when I tell her how I feel, when she is the one who asks.
3) She has to be the victim or be in the worst situation ALL the time. No matter what the conversation is, she has to turn it about her AND she has to talk about how hard she has it. I understand that being a single mom who works full time and goes to school is hard. However, that does not mean you have to make yourself sound like a victim all the time. She makes it sound like she gets help from no-one, which is bullcrap! My grandparents help her all the time. They own the house we rent. If my sister needs something, they get it for her. They help her with bills. They will give my sister rides where-ever she needs them. When I am home, I take care of my sister and the house and I buy my own stuff so she doesn't have to buy them for me (except right now since I am currently job hunting).
She is constantly ungrateful too. When I go shopping with my grandma and she buys something for my mom, my mom is really rude if she doesn't like it. She will even do that in front of other people! If you don't like something, say thank you and take care of it later. I happen to think that my grandma buys cute things for her and am willing to wear them. My grandfather helps out a lot, but she never says thank you and always talks crap about him. I understand that he is difficult sometimes, but he is doing so much for us. On top of helping my mom, they are helping me pay for school, so you bet your ass I am grateful for every little thing they do.
4)How she treats her family vs her boyfriend. She treats her boyfriend like a freaken king. Almost anything he wants, he gets and he doesn't even have to work. The summer before I started college, I had to buy my stuff for school and every paycheck, I would buy a few things from my list. These were things I needed. She paid for two things. However, she was more than happy to buy her boyfriend all the cigarettes he wanted. When it was found out that my sister needed to get her wisdom teeth removed, she whined about how much it would cost. Then the next sentence, she talked about how she got Cubs tickets for her boyfriend's birthday.
He can also walk in without knocking, even though he doesn't live here. This morning, she told him that she would let him know when he could come over to open presents, which would be AFTER we got done at my grandparents' house. We were finishing wrapping his daughter's gifts before taking off to the grandparents' house and him and his daughter walked in. After they left, I commented on how rude that was. All she did was shrug her shoulders. Then later on, she complained about it, but didn't say anything to him.
She also pushes him on us. He gets invited to EVERYTHING. I told her that I really didn't want him over for my last birthday, but she had him come over anyway and had him bring one of his friends over who I went to school with and hated so much, which she knew I did because I flat out told her and protested that he was even coming. She made him help move me back into my dorm and when I told him he would have to wait for me to get back upstairs because I locked my dorm door, he threw my stuff down and pretty much threw a hissy fit. My mom made the excuse that he had to go play softball and wanted to get there soon. He is no longer allowed to help out and I refuse to let him help when I move into my apartment.
5) Nothing I do is right. No matter what it is. Either it is not good enough or not interesting enough. I tell her I have a 3.3 GPA, which will go up once I get done with math classes. That's not interesting enough. I get a B on an exam. Why can't it be an A? I joined a club and met new people. Why does it have to be THAT club? Come into my dorm room, which is spotless and clean. Why do you have to do it this way? Why can't you arrange things this way? People comment on how mature and funny I am. I am just a pain in the ass who is just too opinionated. Is it any wonder that I am the way I am sometimes?
Again, I love my mother, but she has been driving me more nuts as I get older and it seems that we drift farther apart as I get older. She says that we have a great relationship, but we really don't. I have tried talking to her about it, but she always starts yelling and screaming and threatening to kick me out of the house. The landlords (aka my grandparents) tell her that she must keep me in the house until I get my own place.
I will say this again, so people don't say stuff. I love my mother. I am grateful for everything she is doing. I do my part around the house and I help her out. However, I just feel that she doesn't appreciate what I do and does not recognize how hard I work at life. Other things I have said, she has always done and quite frankly, it is annoying no matter who one is.
1) Her housekeeping sucks. Whenever I am home, I clean. I clean the whole freaken place for her, even when I am home for just the weekend. However, when I do help out, apparently, I do it all wrong. For example, the laundry. I sort the laundry 3 ways: 1)Colors 2)Whites 3)Her uniforms, since they are all greasy and gross and shouldn't be with the other clothes. She freaks out, saying that I need to also separate the light colors and the dark colors. It won't make a freaken difference! They will be fine! Or if I clean a whole room, on my hands and knees, she will notice the tiniest freaken thing and just keep repeating how I missed that part, but completely look over the fact that the room looks a million times better than it did before I attacked it.
The thing is, she doesn't even clean! I do all the stuff that she and my sister won't do! Why the crap is she even criticizing me if she won't even do it herself?
2) Her choice in men. She has been going out with this dumbass for a few years now. He has cheated on her not once, but TWICE. He hardly spends time with her. He has put a virus on the desktop computer several times looking up porn, but claims that he is not even interested in sex or porn. He doesn't even attempt to get a job and would rather mooch off my mother. He treats her like crap and yells at her, especially in front of people. They fight constantly However, she keeps getting back with him and then talks crap about him all the time, but then turns around and tries to get my sister and me to consider him family. Uh no. I won't consider a 37 year old mooch who has the maturity of a 12 year old boy(at best) and treats my mom like crap family. She gets all hurt when I tell her how I feel, when she is the one who asks.
3) She has to be the victim or be in the worst situation ALL the time. No matter what the conversation is, she has to turn it about her AND she has to talk about how hard she has it. I understand that being a single mom who works full time and goes to school is hard. However, that does not mean you have to make yourself sound like a victim all the time. She makes it sound like she gets help from no-one, which is bullcrap! My grandparents help her all the time. They own the house we rent. If my sister needs something, they get it for her. They help her with bills. They will give my sister rides where-ever she needs them. When I am home, I take care of my sister and the house and I buy my own stuff so she doesn't have to buy them for me (except right now since I am currently job hunting).
She is constantly ungrateful too. When I go shopping with my grandma and she buys something for my mom, my mom is really rude if she doesn't like it. She will even do that in front of other people! If you don't like something, say thank you and take care of it later. I happen to think that my grandma buys cute things for her and am willing to wear them. My grandfather helps out a lot, but she never says thank you and always talks crap about him. I understand that he is difficult sometimes, but he is doing so much for us. On top of helping my mom, they are helping me pay for school, so you bet your ass I am grateful for every little thing they do.
4)How she treats her family vs her boyfriend. She treats her boyfriend like a freaken king. Almost anything he wants, he gets and he doesn't even have to work. The summer before I started college, I had to buy my stuff for school and every paycheck, I would buy a few things from my list. These were things I needed. She paid for two things. However, she was more than happy to buy her boyfriend all the cigarettes he wanted. When it was found out that my sister needed to get her wisdom teeth removed, she whined about how much it would cost. Then the next sentence, she talked about how she got Cubs tickets for her boyfriend's birthday.
He can also walk in without knocking, even though he doesn't live here. This morning, she told him that she would let him know when he could come over to open presents, which would be AFTER we got done at my grandparents' house. We were finishing wrapping his daughter's gifts before taking off to the grandparents' house and him and his daughter walked in. After they left, I commented on how rude that was. All she did was shrug her shoulders. Then later on, she complained about it, but didn't say anything to him.
She also pushes him on us. He gets invited to EVERYTHING. I told her that I really didn't want him over for my last birthday, but she had him come over anyway and had him bring one of his friends over who I went to school with and hated so much, which she knew I did because I flat out told her and protested that he was even coming. She made him help move me back into my dorm and when I told him he would have to wait for me to get back upstairs because I locked my dorm door, he threw my stuff down and pretty much threw a hissy fit. My mom made the excuse that he had to go play softball and wanted to get there soon. He is no longer allowed to help out and I refuse to let him help when I move into my apartment.
5) Nothing I do is right. No matter what it is. Either it is not good enough or not interesting enough. I tell her I have a 3.3 GPA, which will go up once I get done with math classes. That's not interesting enough. I get a B on an exam. Why can't it be an A? I joined a club and met new people. Why does it have to be THAT club? Come into my dorm room, which is spotless and clean. Why do you have to do it this way? Why can't you arrange things this way? People comment on how mature and funny I am. I am just a pain in the ass who is just too opinionated. Is it any wonder that I am the way I am sometimes?
Again, I love my mother, but she has been driving me more nuts as I get older and it seems that we drift farther apart as I get older. She says that we have a great relationship, but we really don't. I have tried talking to her about it, but she always starts yelling and screaming and threatening to kick me out of the house. The landlords (aka my grandparents) tell her that she must keep me in the house until I get my own place.
I will say this again, so people don't say stuff. I love my mother. I am grateful for everything she is doing. I do my part around the house and I help her out. However, I just feel that she doesn't appreciate what I do and does not recognize how hard I work at life. Other things I have said, she has always done and quite frankly, it is annoying no matter who one is.
But, even without that stuff--it's put away if I'm having company over--my house is still "cluttered."
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