Random Irritations

[DrFaroohk]

First, I hate it when I finally get the baby down for a nap, and that's when people feel the need to be the loudest. The dog and the cat start racing up and down the halls right in front of her room. The boy starts feeling like he has to jump and stomp everywhere he goes. The phone rings off the hook. People start showing up all the time and the dog goes crazy. Nap times are iffy for the child and if she gets disturbed she tends to want to come out immediately.

Second, six year old Jeffrey just loves to argue. About everything. Dammit, when I was a kid, talking the way he did got you smacked. Now, even the simplest thing is met with argument. "Leave the dog alone Jeffrey." "But he likes it!" When I was a kid, that little statement got me smacked in the mouth with a reminder "I didn't ask you if he liked it, I told you to leave him alone." "Jeffrey can you turn your TV down." "But it's not too loud!" Since when did I ask your opinion if it was too loud or not? I TOLD YOU TO TURN THE FUCKING THING DOWN! ....is what I want to say, but I don't.

Third, being asked the same questions. Even mundane things. Even if its "Do you like bread?" "Yes." You asked me, I answered you. The worst thing is being met with "Are you sure? Really? So you're saying you like bread?" And I realize that's kinda my problem, but people know it irritates me so why in the fuck do they keep doing it?

Fourth - people who don't eat and then complain there's no food left. Yeah, if I see something that expires TODAY, and no one has shown any interest in it, I eat it. If there's pizza left over and repeatedly people have refused it, I'm probably gonna eat it. Then they're like "Awww I never got any pizza!" Well it was sitting there for three hours. Get it while you can, chief.

Fifth - the neighbors kids. One is like 10 or 12, and sometimes she comes to communicate with us for her mom, because her mom doesn't speak english. The girl speaks it just fine, but having a conversation with her is like "Hey, my mom was, ummm...well, my mom wanted me to ask you if, see, my mom wanted me to come over and ask you if, ummmm....see, the thing is, I want to know, well, my mom wants to know, that is, she asked me come over and ask you, ummm, see, she wants to know......." All the while, the baby has just laid down for a nap and the dog is barking his head off because there's someone at the door.

Sixth - The dog is really annoying. We rescued him from a family member who knew his time was short and wanted the dog to have a good home when he died. He likes to bark all the friggin time, when it's the worst time for it, like the baby is sleeping. And he acts like he's a small puppy, but he's full grown. I'll be laying there sleeping and then he'll come scrambling up on the bed, scratching me all to hell with his giant eagle talons. When it's time for "outside", he'll frequently go out, stay out, come back in, and then want to go out five minutes later. Stupid dog.

Number seven - Nosy neighbors. I know they're just being neighborly, but any time I see them they ask all about the things that i'd rather not talk about. Yes I got fired from my job because I suck. No I haven't found another job because I suck. Yes our car go repo'd because I suck. Yes, I suck. Anything else? Want to see how small my penis is too? How about I give a short speech and you can make fun of my stutter while we're at it?

Eight - PEOPLE WHO WAKE UP THE DAMN BABY! lol.....

[muses_nightmare]

Third, being asked the same questions. Even mundane things. Even if its "Do you like bread?" "Yes." You asked me, I answered you. The worst thing is being met with "Are you sure? Really? So you're saying you like bread?" And I realize that's kinda my problem, but people know it irritates me so why in the fuck do they keep doing it?

I loathe this. Same goes for when people are doing this all damn day and then they go on about how I'm being grumpy. Yeah well you're being annoying, stop it and I'll be in a better mood dammit!

[Greenday]

Fourth - people who don't eat and then complain there's no food left. Yeah, if I see something that expires TODAY, and no one has shown any interest in it, I eat it. If there's pizza left over and repeatedly people have refused it, I'm probably gonna eat it. Then they're like "Awww I never got any pizza!" Well it was sitting there for three hours. Get it while you can, chief.

My sister is like this. "Hey, there's no more ice cream sandwiches left!" or "Hey, someone ate all the chips!" "Someone ate my leftovers. I wanted those!"

I've purposely let something sit in the fridge/freezer/cabinet for a week before eating it. After a week of not touching it, you have no excuse.

[LexiaFira]

because i have nothing better to do and wish to help here are POSSIBLE solutions. This is to help with the stress, but if its a bad idea please disregard
first one is the longest, saving it for last.
however if this is a post to rant just to rant/vent then yeah i feel silly but at least trying to ease some of the stress as sometimes you don't HAVE to answer the phone/door or at least cut it off at the pass

#2 arguing
when Jeff argues like that, counter nicely. Example "Stop bothering the dog"
"but he likes it"
"I didn't say if he liked it, I asked you to stop. Either stop or go to time out" or whatever punishment you used. Its not the arguing, its that he doesn't want to listen or believe you.
"Turn down the tv" "Its not loud" "Not to you but it is to me, and it will wake up your sister and if it does you will be in trouble. turn it down please i'm not asking again." follow through with punishment if he doesn't listen. It seems strict but it does work.

#3 the mundane questions
The bread thing "do you like bread?" "yes" "are you sure?" "if i wasn't sure then I would have said no or maybe. I won't lie about something I don't like"
or with other people asking that, answer them, well you know. you've asked this before, not my fault you can't remember. or something along those lines but nicer

#4. the food(s) stuffs
well if it has to devolve to writing names on it fine. if not then as annoying as it is ask them if they are going to eat it if not its fair game. if its going to expire. then yeah. or tell them you didn't say you wanted it or laid claim to it so..why are you whining now? sounds petty but thats how i do it. i have one side of the top shelf that all in the house know thats dad's lunch box area, do not touch it, if he forgets to take it to work oops it will still be there for another day however until then do not touch.

#5 spit it out!
not to be rude but if she cannot get to it, or maybe her mother raised her be polite and she is trying to be polite and rewording it. Tell her nicely, please just tell me I won't be mad. (or at least try not to be) or...just spit it out! but in a joking tone so that she doesn't get upset or cry....some kids are sensitive still

#6 tough decision
this i have taken into great account so please understand when i say this, it is in the animal's best interest. If the dog is that much trouble try and find a suitable or better home for him that he or she will get the care needed. however I also understand saying this for some pet owners is like asking to cut off their own arm or give away their own kid. I very much understand this, had to do so years ago with one of my cats because her needs started becoming more than I could give so i searched long and hard to find a good home for her and kept up communications for a while to make sure it would be a forever home and to help with adjusting.
otherwise...yeah....and if you are ranting to rant then please completely disregard this part

#7 Exsueeze me?
tell the neighbors i don't want to talk about that can we discuss something else. or if you don't want to be nice, please stop being nosy. not much of a neighbor person so...yeah. Am always nice but any face to face time is rare...but then i am out or home when my neighbors are at work anyways so little contact there to begin with

#1 THIS IS quiet time!
way easier said than done and starting the routine is very difficult as follow through is a must. but if possible have a nap time, said time does not have to be adhered to but SOME rest achieved say from...11am to 2pm. so that somewhere in those hours A nap is achieved. I do this with Lisa. say for example she is asleep by maybe 12:30...I will start expecting wake up time around 2 or later (her naps can last up to 3 hours as its a growth spurt right now) or maybe only 30 minutes at least. still it is something.
From that time in the middle of the day its quiet time, either turn the tv down for all, try and keep noise to a minimum not just you everyone. And let it be known in and outside the house.
This is the tough part as it feels like a pain and too much to do but works. turn the ringers on the phones down and let people leave messages, put a note on the front door, quiet time come back at (amount of time) or later
the toughest part is the dog.

I have quiet time from 12 to 2. tv is on but low or off, phones are on low or silenced. i read or do chores quietly while daughter watches or sleeps. tough part is remembering to plug the phones back in or turn them up to loud again sometimes. and removing the sign on the door.