Go to fucking BED!

[LadyBarbossa]

People falling asleep in places other than bed has always been a huge peeve of mine, and my Dad is the worst offender. He knows how much this irritates me, Mom, and my nephew, yet every single damn time he's home, he'll deliberately fall asleep in the living room in front of some TV show that he MUST see. He'll be asleep before it's even halfway through. EVERY. SINGLE. FUCKING. TIME. He also snores loud enough to wake the damn dead. It's been like this for over twenty years and it seriously makes me want to scream and rant and be violent. He claims he doesn't know he's falling asleep, but I'm not a moron. You don't go to the bedroom, get an extra blanket to bring out, and fucking RECLINE and then claim you don't realize you're getting tired!

Beds are for sleeping. Sleeping in a room full of people is fucking rude and self centered. Go to bed!

[HYHYBT]

Seeking information, why does this bother you so much?

[RavenStarr]

*Yawn* Getting so sleepy. Must keeps eyes open... Must keep....ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ...........

I don't see the big deal about it. Seriously aren't there worse things to be mad about? I'm not trying to be mean. Just curious.

[AdminAssistant]

If he's anything like my Dad is, he *insists* on watching a certain show, falling asleep in the living room, snoring so loud that he's disturbing everyone, and then if you try to change the channel, he gets all pissy about how he was "watching that." It's rude. I'm not a nap person myself, but if I do get sleepy during the day I'll lay down in bed. That's where sleep is supposed to happen.

[Greenday]

My step-dad does this a lot. He falls asleep while we are all watching a show together and starts snoring insanely loud (though my mom claims sometimes she thinks I snore louder). We'll wake him up and he'll apologize. Within a minute he starts snoring loud as shit again. And instead of just going upstairs and sleeping, he stays there and repeats the process over and over.

[aurelemsrealm]

This was a normal occurrence in my family when I was a child, so I wouldn't think anything of it. Everyone in my family has fallen asleep in front of the TV more times than I can count. I still sleep in front of the TV quite often.

In my case, the TV sometimes helps to distract me from thinking too much about things. If I try to go to bed when tired, I'll sometimes get to thinking about things that may be bothering me. Then, I start tossing and turning restlessly even if I am tired. I just can't sleep restfully because it's like my mind is racing. I may doze during those fits of restlessness, but I usually have unsettling dreams that wake me up again.

On the other hand, if I sleep in front of the TV for a while first, then get up to go to bed when I awaken. I seem to have an easier time falling back to sleep in bed. It's weird, but seems to hold true for me. The only time that I can really go straight to bed and sleep soundly is if I'm extremely tired.

[Ipecac Drano]

My dad used to have a TV show or movie that he "had to see", too. But, he knew ahead of time that he might fall asleep during the broadcast and would set up the VCR to tape it.

At night, he would never sleep in his bedroom because he said that he can't sleep laying down. He could sleep sitting up, which is why he fell asleep in his easy chair during his TV viewing.

[Boozy]

There's nothing wrong with falling asleep in front of the TV in the living room. The complaints I'm seeing here are about a) loud snoring, and b) assholes.

I fall asleep in front of the TV all the time. I find it luxurious and decadent, to just allow myself to drift off wherever I am.

My husband will shake me awake before he goes to bed, and I'll follow. No big deal.

[blas87]

Normally I wouldn't do this because I hate people who nitpick at people's right to vent, but if I may, I often fall asleep on the couch (or at my place, the futon) and I constantly fall asleep watching movies with my bf on the couch at his place.

It's the shift I work. I hate myself for it, because I've missed out on hours with my bf and friends because I fell asleep in the middle of a Friday or Saturday afternoon and didn't get up until it was later in the evening. I really don't like doing it, but I also hate taking pills to keep myself awake. It's not natural or healthy to force yourself to stay awake.

As for excuse time.....I've been sleeping on the futon every day for the past couple of weeks because I put all the Christmas presents on my bed after I bought them, and now all the ones I got are on my bed and I can't put most of them away until I have a day or two off to myself with no plans to clean this place up a bit and get some space and also until I go shopping and get some more clothing hangers and clean out the closet a bit.

Until we get a voluntary week of overtime and I have an extra hour or two every day for a few days to clean or until there is a weekend where I have nothing planned, it's going to be that way. I just simply don't have time to move stuff around and put it away. And I can't buy more hangers until I get paid and do my grocery shopping, because I'm not a fan of randomly going shopping for one or two things. I don't carry cash (well, more than lunch money or cab fare for an emergency) and I don't like buying less than $5 with my cards.

Oh, and it's also easier for me to sleep on the futon because the neighbor who lives on the side closest to my bedroom is extremely loud when he comes home from work in the afternoon. With it being winter and the air being crisp and cold and there being snow compacted everywhere, I hear every footstep of his. It's easier to sleep against the wall of the other neighbor who also sleeps during the day, or isn't as loud as that guy.

But I totally understand the asshole and snoring part. My dad is the exact same way, except he doesn't prepare for sleeping on the couch or the chair, he just drifts off, but somehow he knows if you grab the remote or try to turn the TV off.

[guywithashovel]

When I lived at home, my dad would often sleep on the couch at night. No, Mom didn't get mad at him and banish him to the couch. He just chose to sleep there for some reason.

I can understand why this would be annoying, since he would get mad if someone walked through the living room, and he would insist that everything be "just so" in the living room and kitchen (e.g. there could be absolutely no lights on, not even the night light we had in the kitchen in case someone had to get up in the middle of the night or got up before the sun came up). He's always been picky about his sleeping environment and insists that almost any nearby noise keeps him awake, be it a fan or someone moving around in a nearby room. Though ironically, he can fall asleep with the TV on.

[LadyBarbossa]

If he's anything like my Dad is, he *insists* on watching a certain show, falling asleep in the living room, snoring so loud that he's disturbing everyone, and then if you try to change the channel, he gets all pissy about how he was "watching that." It's rude. I'm not a nap person myself, but if I do get sleepy during the day I'll lay down in bed. That's where sleep is supposed to happen.

^ Pretty much this right here. And he won't go to bed after the show/news is over, he'll wait until around 2 or 3 in the morning and then get up, put the recliner upright, and pitter patter around the house for five or ten minutes, opening and closing the fridge, running water, and maybe even hunting down a shoe to smack a bug if he sees one. We live in a mobile home and this wakes everyone up. Probably should have mentioned this last night, sorry. And then he's back up at 6 or 7 the next morning, and I work second shift. It sucks.

[telecom_goddess]

I gotta agree with the OP beds are for sleeping. Yes I may drift a little bit in front of the tv but as soon as I realize I'm starting to do that I get my ass up and get to bed. My bf just falls asleep on the couch, with the tv and lights on wasting electricity and driving up my bill....with no one actually using them. And pulls this bs until 3 in the morning. And he refuses to use the built in sleep timers on the equipment, no it's much better to run the electricity for nothing.

If he gets diagnosed with sleep apnea and has to use a cpap machine like me he's gonna HAVE to stop that bs and go to bed like a normal person. Especially if he has to prove compliance with the DMV...which I think he does...not sure.

[MrsEclipse]

The following is offering help to you because I truly care about the comfort and happiness of strangers on the Internet. If you have already tried everything, or have other sources of advice and just came here to vent, you are excused from reading this post.

In my house, there's a rule about falling asleep in a place other than your bedroom. If someone wakes you up by using the room in it's ordinary purpose, it's not their fault, and if you fall asleep watching TV, you lose claim to the TV. People who are snoring are to be nudged awake and sent to bed.

If your dad isn't meeting you halfway on this, he's being a brat and you need to call him on it. If he claims that he doesn't know he's falling to sleep, offer to help by nudging him awake so he can go to bed, where you're *sure* he'll be more comfortable. You mentioned it bothered other people, so maybe it's time to put on a united front.

Also you may want to talk him into seeing a doctor about his snoring, if you haven't before. If he insists that he feels fine, tell him either a) That may be, but it's often a sign of other problems that can be corrected and increase your comfort or blah blah blah, OR b) But we're not, because we're concerned about you. Also you're driving us crazy.

A lot of times when I'm having trouble sleeping, like when I'm nervous or out of sorts, I'll go into the family room to sleep. Not even to watch TV, because I have one of those things in my room. It just makes me feel more comfortable. When Mom gets up (she gets up first) her movement wakes me up and I usually drag myself up to bed. Or, if she's cleaning, she gets me off the couch.

Check this out: when I was a kid the family computer was a laptop, and Dad would take it over and work on it in front of the TV, then just goof off, and then fall asleep with it on his lap. If we asked him if he was still using it, he would reply, IN HIS SLEEP, "Yes." To this day, I have a knee-jerk resentment of laptops.

[Kaylyn]

Is there a reason that he can't have an extra TV in his bedroom? I mean, it's obvious this is a recurring habit, so why not get him set up to watch his favorite show in his room, with the sleep timer on, and if he goes to sleep, he's all set? I mean, I personally wouldn't have a problem with someone sleeping in the living room, even if there are other people present. I used to do this when we'd get together at a friend's house during the last season of Lost (god, it got so boring). But then again, I don't snore, and I didn't bother anyone. If someone had complained, I would have elected to stay home.

[Ipecac Drano]

There's nothing wrong with falling asleep in front of the TV in the living room. The complaints I'm seeing here are about loud snoring

To be fair, I have to sympathize with the loud snorers as a lot of them may have a serious condition, such as sleep apnea. They should get it checked out and seek treatment if needed.

My aunt was telling me about how my uncle's snoring drove her crazy. After his passing, she says she misses that sound as its absence marks his absence.