Thinking Everyone is a Creep...

[kibbles]

I hate the fact that it seems that any guy or girl who hits on someone is automatically considered a creep! I totally agree that anyone using gross or disgusting pickup lines and/or not taking no for an answer is someone who is just beyond creepy, but I don't think every person who uses a decent pickup line (even if it is cheesy) is a creep.

JMO.

[the_std]

This drives me absolutely bonkers, adding on "people who look at guys/girls are creeps" too. I see a lot of it on CS ("Oh my god, he was looking at me! What a perv!") and from my sister. We'll be out somewhere, and a guy walking past looks at my sister. No leering, no obvious up-and-down, nothing but a semi-interested glance as he goes by, and once he's out of earshot, she'll flip out. "Ew! Why was he looking at me? That's so disgusting! People shouldn't do that! It's so creepy!"

There is a huge difference between someone checking you out and someone being lecherous. And the men and women out there who freak the fuck out because of someone showing casual interest need to calm down.

Obvious disclaimer, this doesn't include the people who stare and drool, or approach you and make obviously inappropriate comments (like, "hey baby, wanna fuck?") or other things that 99% of society deems as not good. I'm only talking about people who are just glancing at you, or who make a valid attempt at talking to you, even if you're not interested.

[kibbles]

I totally agree with you!! Those who think nasty/disgusting pick up lines or obvious leering are good ways to compliment someone are the true creeps IMO.

But someone who just shows interest...even by using a cheesy but tasteful line is in no way a creep IMO. Thanks for the reply!

[Jack]

Yeah, that's great phrasing actually -- I hadn't quite been able to articulate as well as I'd like that there's a difference between glancing at someone, admiring someone, and leching; and flirting with or hitting on someone, and being crass.

[Ree]

OMG...I know so many people like this.

If someone even looks their way, they go on about being checked out by some perv.

A couple of them will then go on and whine about how hard it is to meet good guys.
Ummm...maybe if you would give them a chance instead of getting all judgmental and assuming the worst of every guy you meet.

[Eisa]

"hey baby, wanna fuck?"

Someone basically asked me that in 8th grade. After a slew of other related questions, he was like, "Wanna fuck me?"

And the answer to that, as was the answer to do I want to hug/kiss/date/anything else you, is NO!

[BlaqueKatt]

cs livejournal made a special tag for that "OMG all the creepers want me" plus the tag for what always goes along with that statement-"OMG I look like a zygote" and "funny your profile pic looks 40"

mainly due to the overwhelming "well I'm 75 but I totally look like I'm 10, and this guy was like 20 total pedo"

unless a picture of you taken 5 minutes ago looks exactly like a picture taken in 4th grade-no you don't.

I got carded for buying an R rated movie, also sometimes get carded going into them-does that mean I look 16? Hell no, it means the clerk probably just glanced at me and my clothes.

[kibbles]

Thanks everyone for the replies! I think a lot problems may come from people automatically judging people by his or her outward appearance and that really is too bad IMO.

[Plaidman]

Thanks everyone for the replies! I think a lot problems may come from people automatically judging people by his or her outward appearance and that really is too bad IMO.

Agreed. Likely my problem of why girls freak out over me.

[Jack]

That's a problem? ;D

[Plaidman]

That's a problem? ;D

Yeah. Major one. Incredibly difficult to get a date, if girls think I'm a creep by merely talking to them.

I don't look normal, and that's likely WHY they think I'm a creep before I even say hi.

[Rapscallion]

If I ever get hit on, I'll be able to contribute

Rapscallion

[Mytical]

If I ever get hit on, I'll be able to contribute

Rapscallion

Same. Though for some reason I have the 'creepy' vibe. It is the same effect that leads to people backing off when I glare, stand up, or cross my arms..or when I use my 'security' voice. The .. 'this guy is a scary creep, lets get out of here' effect. Yes, I study people..which is why I make a good security person. So yeah, I understand the vibe I give off, not much I can do about it though.

I don't talk to females chests, or anything similar though..*shrugs*

[kibbles]

Agreed. Likely my problem of why girls freak out over me.

I say those girls are moronic idiots. It's one thing not to be interested in someone, but just because someone isn't interested and/or attracted to a person, it doesn't automatically make said person a creep.

I also see the same problem if someone older hits on someone younger. Even if it's the most polite conversation, the older person is automatically called a creep. I just think some people need to get over themselves.

If someone hits on you (general you ) and you are not interested..that's cool...but just because someone you aren't interested in displays interest doesn't mean they are a creep unless they don't listen to a person's disinterest.

[Dreamstalker]

I don't get creeps per se, it just seems like the only guys who are actually interested are...odd. One guy is decent when there are others around, but is a bit pushy otherwise (I told you the first time you asked, I'm not particularly interested in a relationship right now; besides, we both live with parents and the age difference is really awkward).

He emailed me "10 Questions" (a get-to-know-you thing that I'm not averse to generally). Most were fairly innocuous; I skipped over "what turns you on" (bit much after only one in-person meeting, no? I was tempted to be a smartass but that could backfire). I got a bit more than I wanted to know with his answers (aren't you a bit...young...to be thinking about that?)...