Family members

[HotelKatz]

I hate the two people who are , by blood, my older sisters on my Mother's side of the family.

Feelings-wise, they are horrible strangers to me.

They were raised by the person who was my grandma. She's been dead for awhile. She was a horrible person. Someday, I'll post somethings about her.

I didn't care much for her anymore than I care for the gruesome twosome.

Let's call the oldest HS1

The younger will be called HS2


HS1 has two kids, but she likes to party. I don't know if HS1 calls a baby sitter, I stopped caring. What I do remember is that HS1 used to call her oldest child was "stupid little *%^&" because HS1 felt that having kids ruined her life. HS1 stopped when CPS got involved. She had a bad run in boyfriends. They hit her oldest child. the boyfriends are either in jail/prison or out of state. Regardless, partying takes priority over just about everything, including her health or her childrens' existence. Why she had kids, I'll never know.

HS1 might have some medical problems with her behavior. She went to a few doctors to see if she had them. Sometimes it was her choice, sometimes she was forced to go. If a doctor suggested a treatment She refused because it would take work on her part.

HS2 is a thief. She would take stuff and claim she always had it. She would steal from her friends to give the stolen goods to her family as presents and vice-versa.

Both of them are liars. Both would claim the other is spreading rumors when neither are or both are. Both would intentionally spread rumors about people who would do an act of kindness towards them. Why they do this, I can only theorize. perhaps it is an attempt to force the person to only perform the act of kindness towards them and only them.

Both ignore family for weeks until money problems rise too high. Then they use that excuse. That horrible excuse that I hate more than them.

They use "We're family by blood we're there for each other it's us against the world." Then they ask for money.

As someone posted either here or customerssuck; Family is not bound by blood, it is a group of individuals who care for one another.

HS1 and HS2, If someone needed help, you replied that you're too busy or it is not that important. or you ran away refusing to get involved at all. I'm not sure if you sided against your own family, but I wouldn't be surprised if you did.

HS1 and HS2, you are horrible people who refuse to grow up. I do not wish anything upon you. That would imply I care enough about you to do so.

I cast any feelings of familial love for them out of my heart.

[blas87]

I hate the "blood" and "family" excuse.

My mother's aunt uses the "blood is thicker than water" holier than thou quote and attitude when she doesn't get her way or is the only person to take one side, and then goes for months refusing to speak with anyone, then will sneak right back into the family asking for help or wanting something.

[HotelKatz]

I'm ready to talk a little about my grandma.

She resented being old and thought no one but her suffered at all. She yelled at people for merely being there. She seemed to think that the whole world was out to get her.

She truly thought she was the only person who suffered. In her eyes, everyone else was faking it and mocking her.

She liked to pick fights, or more appropriately named, Yelling matches. She often did this because she seemed to resent other people existing.

She thought she could do no wrong. if she did something wrong or was wrong, it was, in her head, someone else framed her.

She had two kids, my mother and her brother. from what I'm told, My uncle was treated pretty well and my mother was punished for a lot of stuff. In grandma's eyes, her son would eventually take care of her in her old age.

Her husband, my grandpa, was a pretty nice guy. People respected him because he was a pretty helpful guy and a great baker from what I'm told. She seemed to think people respected him because of her. It was the other way around. Because when he died, a lot of people stopped giving two $%!^s about her.

Once she asked if my family could stay with her or something like that. My dad said it was a bad idea. We should have listened to him.

Two years of being yelled at. Two years of being blamed for just about everything. Before my family moved in with her, I was against violence towards old people and/or women. Now... I think I'm apathetic towards the idea of it. I would try to stop a fight if the people can't defend themselves.

On the day we moved away from there, we realized it might take two days. However, someone from some office came and told us the place had been condemned and we were to leave immediately. The @#$% had the place condemned. We were able to move a lot of stuff out, though. We still lost some things. we tried to go back the next day, but she had whatever was left in the house thrown out.

A few months later, I think she tried to start the cycle again. Only in reverse, because she had no place to go and she didn't want to stay in a nursing home. This time, no one even entertained her the idea.

When My grandma died, only my mother and my older sisters went to visit her on her deathbed. At her funeral, Grandma's son only stayed for about five minutes and left. Apparently, he thought she was a waste of his time. It is kinda sad, she truly believed that he would take care of her, but he only stayed with her only to get stuff.

I didn't go visit her after my family moved out, not even when she was dying.
Perhaps it was because I was afraid she would try to start a fight with me.
perhaps it was a strike back at her for trying to break me emotionally.
perhaps I simply didn't care anymore.
Perhaps it was because I wasn't really sure how I would act and didn't want to risk going to prison.
Perhaps it was because I didn't want the cycle of anger and hate continuing with me.

I think it was because I wanted to cast any feelings for her away from me so she wouldn't control my life anymore.