Impatient people

[Mytical]

I posted a thread over at CS..but I didn't go into fratching with it. This is the Fratching part. I absolutely hate when impatient people yell at the new person trying to learn. Not only is it rude, but we've all been there before. I don't care what you do, but you had to learn sometime. Unless you are some child prodigy that learns by osmosis..at one time or another you have been new at something.

I don't know if it is that they have an entitlement issue, or what, and frankly I don't care. If you're running late, start earlier. Failure to plan on your part does not constitute an emergency on somebody else's part.

Not to mention that yelling, etc only stresses the person out more, usually ending with more mistakes..typically slowing things down more. Yeah, that is real critical thinking there. A drunk monkey can figure that out, but some sc's just can't seem to grasp this concept.

I've been impatient before. Quite a few times. By no means am I perfect (not even close!). I still can not even begin to understand how somebody can treat others like that.

[DrFaroohk]

Are you reading my mind!? lol...I am an especially crappy learner, and when I have someone breathing down my neck like "OMG how can you not know how to fill out a TPS form!?" "cuz I just got here 5 minutes ago, that's how!"

Even in non-reality places. WoW is awful like that. Brand new dungeon! Brand new boss no one has ever seen before! How the fuck am I supposed to know that you have to run away when he roars or everyone dies?

This is also annoying with people who are just like "Spit it out already!" (which I do myself sometimes lol...). Oh my god sir I'm so terribly sorry I interupted your IMPORTANT WORK to ask a question about work. And I'm sorry I said "Hey boss, got a minute?" and waited for an answer while you glared angrily at me rather than just popped a random question out. I'm so sorry I disturbed the delicate genius on his mission of monumental importance to save the world! PLEASE FORGIVE ME!

Or just pull your head out of your ass and realize that a properly motivated monkey could do your job.

[Smithereens]

Yes, this! This is what freaks me out about having to do something new with someone teaching me. I'm not a slow learner, but I will make mistakes and it doesn't help when the person teaching me is noticeably impatient.

And people being mean when they're late for something. It'll only make me go slower if you rush me.

[Rageaholic]

I'm impatient too, but I try not to show it, especially if it will make me look like an ass. I just know that I wouldn't be a good teacher or mentor because I would probably have a nervous breakdown.

I remember drivers ed and how much it sucked. It was bad enough that I was already anxiety prone, it was even worse that they showed these depressing videos of people dying in car accidents, but what really sucked was that this guy just rushed through the instructions and expected me to understand everything just because we read about it in class. Was I a bad driver? Yes, but I was nervous and inexperienced. It didn't help that this asshole was screaming and swearing at me when I was already having a nervous breakdown.

The thing is, this guy clearly showed signs of annoyance and frustration with me even during class time (weeks before we actually drove). It was over stupid mistakes I made and the fact that I am a slow learner. He never freaked out like he did in the car, but his body language, tone, and occasional smart ass remarks toward me showed alot and set the tone for the remainder of class. I later experienced a college instructor who acted the same way. She acted all holier than thou because I left my backpack at class one day and she had to come get it. She didn't explicitly say it, but her body language said "How can you be so irresponsible?". This was comfirmed when she made some smart ass remarks about how long I was taking for an in class assignment.

So yeah, I can understand being impatient and sometimes it's hard to hide it, but I hate how condescending some of these people can be. They only make things worse with their breathing down your neck. If newbies are that annoying to them, than maybe they shouldn't be teaching.

[muses_nightmare]

when I was training someone at the gas station I worked at I had some guy freak out at him for being slow, I looked at him and said "he's learning the till still. Your patience is appreciated" and his response was "well he shouldn't be learning on my time". I just told him that that's how it is, his time is no more important than the person behind him. In some ways I miss that job, cause I could get away with a lot there, I was rarely if ever rude to anyone, but I wasn't afraid to tell them to leave if they were being asshats, or to inform them that their actions weren't appropriate. My managers (I went through 3 in a year, longish story), always supported me in this. And I wouldn't tolerate rudeness towards people who were learning.