Stupid Drama And More Drunks

[blas87]

All the more reason to say this is why I hate going out and I just want to "delete" everyone in my life who feels the need to pressure me into going out and dealing with their drunken debauchery. Even house parties and football games aren't sacred anymore.

I figured it would be a harmless Packer game, and we could just leave after the game and it'd be fine. That was bf's argument after everything happened, but nevermind that he's the first to scream if anyone dare asks him if we can leave.

My friend and her husband originally weren't going to go to this gathering, and they'd spent all of Saturday fighting about whatever stupid thing it could be this time, and her husband decided he was going to the party, because he'd wanted to all along. She then decided she'd go out with her friends. So she then screams that he "ditched" her and sent him nasty text messages all night. This just makes me mad, because my bf in the past has truly ditched me by just randomly taking off back home to party or his friends have just showed up on nights we've had plans.......this is not being ditched, my dear.......he didn't want to deal with you screaming at him all night.

After the game, everyone (but me) started getting drunk. This wasn't even my house, and I was cringing at all the food going on the floor, people wearing their shoes in the house and ON THE CARPET (it's Wisconsin, the roads and sidewalks are wet, and people kept going out to the garage where it was wet from melting snow and tracking it back in!) and the woman of the house got so drunk she smashed my bf's finger in the dishwasher, she knocked down all of these decorations over the sink, and when bf tried to shut the garage door to warm the place up, she ran back inside and cracked him across the face several times!

I wanted to leave, but he said everything would be ok. I found another sober person and made friends with her and we just sat around and talked and did our own thing.

You know how it seems no matter where you go out, there is always some crazy drunk person who no one really knows, and is overly weird and obnoxious? There was this random neighbor that the man of the house had invited over (HOW MANY TIMES DO I HAVE TO SAY IT, DON'T INVITE STRANGERS TO DRINK WITH YOU!!!) and he had been on and off offending people all night with his drunken babble and nonsense.

The last straw was when he started trying to pick a fight with one of our buddies, and my bf stepped in to tell him to watch it, and the fucker poured his drink down my bf's shirt. Yeah, like something a girl would do.

Bf went into a complete rage, and three of the guys had to hold him back from going all Hulk and making that drunken dweeb a bloodstain on the wall, being as he was probably 120 pounds soaking wet and so drunk he could barely stand upright.

They told him to leave, and for whatever reason in their dumb drunken state (and I stupidly went to the bathroom instead of checking on it myself) the guy didn't actually leave.....he went and hid in a closet!

So right before bf and I were going to leave, the idiot emerges from the closet and is trying to apologize for everything, and everyone gets all riled up again, and all of the girls had to grab their men and try to hold them back, and once again tell the drunk dweeb to get the fuck out.

I may have said it before, but I seriously mean it. I am so done with this crap. Sure, random dumb people shouldn't stop you from having fun, but it seems my friends have absolutely no common sense when it comes to who they invite over and have no qualms about trusting strangers. It just irritates me because then they all get mad and we all fight afterwards because they didn't know it was going to happen. ONLY BAD THINGS HAPPEN in situations like this, dumbasses.

This is why I don't go out much. How many more incidents have to happen before I have a clear case with these people as to why I feel this way? Everyone just says to let it slide and don't let it stop you from having fun. Well, I didn't have much fun. I HATE babysitting drunk people. My friend's wife got so drunk that she kept trying to pull my shirt down and motorboat my boobs, which sure, is pretty funny, but not when they are drunk and I'm not. She also contributed into trashing her own house! We two sober girls tried picking up stuff and trying to clean and stop the drunk people from breaking and wrecking more stuff, but it was all in vein.

I can understand why bf got as upset as he did, but I think the rage was too much. I've got into rages while dead sober and I've regretted it later because I couldn't believe how much I scared the crap out of people. Those little drunk dweebs don't need their brains bashed in, they need to made to feel dumb and to walk home....end of story. What's the point, what do you have to prove to some drunk dork like that? And all of the guys were on the one side of the argument, and all of the girls on the other. It was just so stupid.

I HATE parties and drinking.

None of them are invited to my birthday party anymore, which wasn't going to include a party anyway, just that there is a bar at the bowling alley. If my friend and her husband make up, they'll be allowed if they don't get drunk. I'm only hanging out with people who can control themselves. No strangers allowed. Last time I had a birthday bash, someone brought a random person and that person caused trouble.

[HYHYBT]

Eeek! Thanks for reminding me what's good about the fact that most of the people I'm around regularly don't drink

And of mud rooms. They don't have such things down here, as we don't really need them, but I love the idea and would include one if, for some reason, I were building a house.

[MadMike]

HOW MANY TIMES DO I HAVE TO SAY IT, DON'T INVITE STRANGERS TO DRINK WITH YOU!!!

One of my closest friends found that out the hard way when she started having Halloween parties after my brother stopped having them. She was working at a bar at the time, and she made the mistake of inviting the entire bar. She also unwittingly invited all the bar drama as well. Every time I stepped outside to tap the keg, someone couple was arguing, or someone wanted to kick someone else's ass. At some point, someone even stole the taps from the kegs, but we think it was my friend's ex-husband who lived just up the hill. I didn't know what he looked like back then, so he could have been standing right in front of me and I wouldn't have known it.

In the following years, there were fights, including one where they had to call the cops, an overly drunk person who made the mistake of taking a swing at my friend's sister, right in front of her entire family and her boyfriend at the time, who is a big guy I would never want to piss off (they carried him outside and beat the shit out of him), and all kinds of other stupidity. Don't get me wrong, we had fun, but there always seemed to be some asshole starting trouble.

The final straw was two Halloweens ago when someone stole her husband's phone. They were talking about not having one last year. The ended up still having it, but at the bar instead of their house. They had a little after-party at their house, but only their closest, trusted friends were invited. And that seemed to work out just fine.

[Greenday]

I seem to be getting the idea that people from Wisconsin have no idea how to drink. What a sad state.

[blas87]

It's not just people from Wisconsin. The greater majority of people in general have no idea how to control themselves, meaning both how much they are drinking and being unable to stop, and also their actions.

My friend and her husband had a Halloween party a few months ago. I actually thought it'd be safe, we're all friends, at a house....no random people, no one would lose it. Nope.

Husband got so drunk he went out for a smoke then wandered across the street where a neighbor was also smoking and invited him and his buddies over to party!

Needless to say, my friend was pissed. And there was reason. Not too long after the strangers came, someone's bottle of vodka went missing.

Husband's friend saw it poking out of the neighbor's friend's pouch in his hoodie. They confronted him, he flat out denied it, so there was a big huge almost-brawl as they tried to force the neighbor and all of his friends out, and the thief was so drunk he fell down the stairs, and threatened to sue my friend and her husband for it.

After that, friend and her husband fought the entire rest of the time we were there about the neighbor coming over and other people just found stuff to fight about or people were spilling all over the floor or breaking shit.

[Greenday]

I don't know. I keep seeing post from you about people in Wisconsin and terrible drinkers. I've never seen most of the stuff you post about.

[blas87]

In all fairness, I've only drank out of state once, (I don't get out that much obviously) for our anniversary bf and I went to Mall of America to the comedy club on the 4th floor and we had a couple of drinks during the show, no one was drunk there.

You also have to bear in mind that I live in a city with a big uni with lots of bars nearby the campus, not to mention Wisconsin has more bars than anything else in every city. Some small towns don't even have a grocery store, but several bars, no bank but several bars, one gas station but several bars.

[telecom_goddess]

Yeah it sounds like you need to find some more mature friends....that is so unbelievably stupid....I hope your friend with the husband doesn't have kids and subject them to that crap.

[blas87]

Which friend with the husband, there's two of them. One of them I'm closer to than the other, though. The one who destroyed her house is the one I'm not as close to.

The one I speak of more often, the scary part is, she and her husband aren't actively trying to get pregnant, but she went on an "all natural" kick not too long ago, and that included going off BC and condoms. She just figured if it happens, it happens.

And after she said that, I swallowed my drink hard and thought oh jeebus I am not looking forward to the angry calls and text messages she'll be leaving me when she's 8 months pregnant and big as a house, left all alone while her husband and my bf go out to party and I'll feel guilty and end up going to take care of her and keep her company.

[AdminAssistant]

I've never seen most of the stuff you post about.

Me either. But I don't doubt that similar things go on in some redneck portions of Arkansas. I guess I was lucky that in my hometown, the thing to do was to drive out to the levees and just sip on beers and such and shoot the shit. When I moved to college, most of the big parties I went to were theatre/cast parties, and there was much more pot smoking than beer drinking. Which has its own problems, but there was very little in the way of property destruction or fighting. (I did have my cell phone stolen once, but that's because my friend invited the whole damn ghetto neighborhood to her house.) Oh, and when I hosted parties, I did spend a good portion of time getting the drunk minors back inside before the cops got called and I got arrested. Dumbasses.

I live in a small town with a big college, but I really don't go to the bars here, because I don't think it's appropriate for grad students to go out drinking with undergrads. So, I mostly drink at home, or maybe at a few places that cater specifically to grad students and townies.

[blas87]

No one has stolen anything from me, but I've lost several lipglosses and packs of smokes while drunk. I don't let my purse out of my sight, even at a house party it stays with me, I just take a clutch instead of a regular sized purse. I don't trust anyone. There's always some random drunk who gets invited who does nothing but cause trouble.

[MadMike]

They confronted him, he flat out denied it, so there was a big huge almost-brawl as they tried to force the neighbor and all of his friends out, and the thief was so drunk he fell down the stairs, and threatened to sue my friend and her husband for it.

I'm starting to wonder now if getting drunk and stupid and then threatening to sue someone is a common thing. The idiot that my friends had to have the cops take away threatened the same thing. I remember as they were pushing him into the car, he screamed at them, "I'm gonna sue you assholes!"

He came back early the next morning, supposedly to apologize, but they wouldn't answer the door, and told everyone else who was still there not to either.

[LexiaFira]

if it hasn't been stated already, you are in no way obligated to pick up after anyone at these kind of parties. It is a nice gesture but let them sober up to see the damage done and if a clue or connection isn't made then it was their house ruined and not yours.
If these people want to get so tipsy they break their own things then thats their problem and you are more than welcome to leave, no one should be expected to endure this most of all you or your bf. It is rude for them to throw a party and get drunk and expect you to stay if you aren't having fun.

No the hostess and host don't have to bend over backwards for you but at least be considerate of their guests and its not like you were bringing everyone down.
Heh, if it makes you feel better, I'm not invited to any parties because I bring a camera, take pictures and call them the next morning to remind them what happened and that said fun pictures are up for view. Nothing scathing but, or job costing as I don't tag my pictures but not their best moments either.

[Skunkle]

Admittedly, I don't live in Wisconsin, I live in Washington, but the Seattle area has loads of drunks. Anyway, a friend had a string of house parties at a big house she and her friends had for a while; nice place for a party, the basement had a dance floor and a nice wet bar. She put me behind the bar. When people get too tipsy, I cut them off. If you want liquor, gotta get it from me. If you BRING liquor, gotta leave it with me. Simple and easy.

Usually, they allowed smoking in the house, so I'd puff my pipe behind the bar. At one particular party, they were not allowing smoking indoors. I don't HAVE to smoke, but in case I wanted to take a break, the girl running it appointed a second tender. However, she said, if I went to smoke, he was to only run the bar while I was away. I decide to take a break, he has had very little liquor and is nice and sober, so he heads behind the bar and I go up and out. I return 15 mins. later and he's working the bar still... and he is PLASTERED. He's been guzzling stuff while working. And he's a massive guy. He refuses to let me back there, even shoves me out. So the lady of the house gets a few burly friends to walk back there, drag him out kicking-and-fighting, then I slide in and they bar the way when he fights to get back to that sweet, sweet bottled mana behind the bar. Yeesh.

We only had one serious drunk incident besides that; a girl to whom I served one beer. She told me she was a light drinker. I had no idea. One of her close friends arrived later and told us just how light was meant - that she shouldn't have ANY - she likes beer but can't hold it. By the time her friend arrived, this girl was lying on the couch, puking into a bowl. From one beer. Yes, she had eaten, no she was not on any medication, and we were told she wasn't allergic - she simply had zero tolerance, but still wanted to be able to drink.

Lessons, in my opinion, are: Have some appointed as a bartender, and have him handle all the alcohol. Pick your tender carefully.

Another bad drunk tale comes from the local furry con. Apparently, the person involved is a notorious drunk, so I'm not sure why he was invited - unless the guy running the party, like me, had never heard of him. I suspect this must've been the case, but the incident got so well-known there that I'm sure no other room party will let him in. I met the guy running the party in his suite at 5 PM, and he showed me a bottle of Peppermint 101 (101 proof = approx. 50% alcohol by volume, for those who don't know). Peppermint 101 is akin to high-proof alcoholic Altoids. He and this other guy had apparently discovered they each had a bottle, so they matched each other for shots - five shots each. Party wouldn't start 'til 9:30, so he was putting his back in the 'fridge. Party is hopping, round about ten PM, and suddenly the entire room grinds to a halt. Said other guy was apparently "asleep" (actually passed out drunk) on a couch in the room. He had just awoken... by puking five feet across the floor. There goes the room deposit! He is also a very big, stocky guy - and he was completely numb. Five guys carried him to the bathroom, where he proceeded to fill the toilet. Anyone who said "We need to call emergency and get you checked out", "Drink some water" or "Go to bed" or anything similar got a--PUNCH!! Guy would turn around and slam 'em, then go back to puking. Finally, someone managed to get him to bed. Turns out he drank the WHOLE BOTTLE of Peppermint 101, and followed it... My head and stomach hurt just thinking about it...

...with an ENTIRE FIFTH of peach schnapps...!!

Agreed, though: If the party isn't fun, if you don't like drinking, you shouldn't be obligated to stay. And if your BF tries to insist on staying at gatherings where he knows you're uncomfortable, and won't let you just stay home, or at least sometimes not go himself, either... Hate to say it, but I think the guy's being a dick.

[protege]

That's why I don't have people over if there's drinking involved. I don't live in a mansion, but I'm not about to have my house trashed because of some drunken asshole. Not that I drink all that much to begin with--if I'm going to have a couple of drinks, I stay home...and usually fall asleep in my easy chair