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and how it has stolen my husband from me. The two of us have a wonderful relationship and he spoils the hell out of me most of the time. I just can't seem to tear him away from this game.
It's Sunday, he has off from work, so he sits down with his laptop to play. A few hours goes by, I've been playing with flash games on my laptop, now I'm thinking of watching a movie or playing a video game with him. I tell him this and he says that he's in the middle of a match. Ok, no problem, let me know when you're done. Another hour goes by. I've found other things to occupy myself with so it's no big deal. He's still playing.
I know it's his escape from the stresses of working 50-70 hours a week at GameStore and I know that he plays to relax. But he zones out when he does. I've talked with him numerous times about how it makes me feel and he will do good for a week or so then right back at it. I don't want to take away one of the things that helps him decompress from work, but I would like some attention too. Any ideas on how I can get it through to him that I would like a little more of his attention and I want him to put down the game for a couple of hours when we're both home together? I've outright told him to stop playing and pay attention to me. I've told him in great detail what I want him to do to me (both nice and naughty). I've been non-confrontational with him about it. And we've had outright blowouts over it.
He played the game for 12 hours with breaks only for the bathroom and food today. I have gone over to him and kissed his cheek and told him that I would like to give him a hug but the laptop is in the way. I have started to rub his calfs because I know they are sore from standing most of the day every day and making mention of how tense he was and I could help him out with it. But I hardly get any kind of acknowledgement.
This type of thing occurs a couple of times a week, usually when he's had a particularly tough day at work. I don't want the entire day with him to myself, just an hour or two. I've got plenty of things to keep my occupied while he plays. I just want a little attention. I would like for him at least to listen when I talk to him when he's playing. I get a head nod then when I ask him about what I said later, he doesn't know what I was talking about at all. We have no other communication problems, or any other problems really. I just don't like feeling as if I should implant a keyboard and mouse in my body just so that I can get some kind of attention from him on certain days.
As I said, we have a great relationship. We both care for each other deeply and show it in many ways. Last night he went for a snack run and left a wonderful just because card on my dresser for me to see when I was getting ready for bed. I usually don't have trouble with him paying attention to me (by listening to me or physical attention). The trouble is when he sits down to play for hours on end. It's very frustrating and I've told him as much. I'd be happy with the occasional hug in between matches to be honest. I know this was long, but I really needed to vent.
It's Sunday, he has off from work, so he sits down with his laptop to play. A few hours goes by, I've been playing with flash games on my laptop, now I'm thinking of watching a movie or playing a video game with him. I tell him this and he says that he's in the middle of a match. Ok, no problem, let me know when you're done. Another hour goes by. I've found other things to occupy myself with so it's no big deal. He's still playing.
I know it's his escape from the stresses of working 50-70 hours a week at GameStore and I know that he plays to relax. But he zones out when he does. I've talked with him numerous times about how it makes me feel and he will do good for a week or so then right back at it. I don't want to take away one of the things that helps him decompress from work, but I would like some attention too. Any ideas on how I can get it through to him that I would like a little more of his attention and I want him to put down the game for a couple of hours when we're both home together? I've outright told him to stop playing and pay attention to me. I've told him in great detail what I want him to do to me (both nice and naughty). I've been non-confrontational with him about it. And we've had outright blowouts over it.
He played the game for 12 hours with breaks only for the bathroom and food today. I have gone over to him and kissed his cheek and told him that I would like to give him a hug but the laptop is in the way. I have started to rub his calfs because I know they are sore from standing most of the day every day and making mention of how tense he was and I could help him out with it. But I hardly get any kind of acknowledgement.
This type of thing occurs a couple of times a week, usually when he's had a particularly tough day at work. I don't want the entire day with him to myself, just an hour or two. I've got plenty of things to keep my occupied while he plays. I just want a little attention. I would like for him at least to listen when I talk to him when he's playing. I get a head nod then when I ask him about what I said later, he doesn't know what I was talking about at all. We have no other communication problems, or any other problems really. I just don't like feeling as if I should implant a keyboard and mouse in my body just so that I can get some kind of attention from him on certain days.
As I said, we have a great relationship. We both care for each other deeply and show it in many ways. Last night he went for a snack run and left a wonderful just because card on my dresser for me to see when I was getting ready for bed. I usually don't have trouble with him paying attention to me (by listening to me or physical attention). The trouble is when he sits down to play for hours on end. It's very frustrating and I've told him as much. I'd be happy with the occasional hug in between matches to be honest. I know this was long, but I really needed to vent.
. The advice I WOULD give would only work on somebody like me. That would be come into the room wearing a nightie. Personally, that would make me take notice immediately.
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