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Its not just me its our household in general. Myself, hubs and father in law. If we are to know anything its at the last moment or AFTER the fact its happened.
Like when a distant aunt in the family that hubs is close to is in town and leaving in two days. I knew she was leaving to come visit but did not have a definite answer as to when.
I was talking with trusted sis in law and she mentioned it off hand and I became furious. She apologized and I said why I'm not mad at you, I'm mad because no one told us. I did say our plans were canceled so we would be home so family could visit if they wanted, no I'm mad because hubs mother is usually the one to tell us or other sis in law.
Yet for months nothing. I understand communication is a two way street but WHY, why cut hubs out of the loop? I would be hurt if the family didn't care for me but would eventually understand. However its not far to hurt my husband to get to me when he did nothing wrong.
Yes I am taking it personally because this isn't the first time. Ever since daughter was born they've been doing this.
If anything this makes me trust people even less and not want to deal with any family but my own if at all. And question in what have I done to cause husbands family to see me as a threat or hurt their feelings? What horrible-ness did I do? Whatever it is if they are angry or hurt with me its just hurting them if they don't tell me. Otherwise...for now I am just going to be hurt and angry and keep to myself as knowing me if I say a word I'm automatically wrong.
Like when a distant aunt in the family that hubs is close to is in town and leaving in two days. I knew she was leaving to come visit but did not have a definite answer as to when.
I was talking with trusted sis in law and she mentioned it off hand and I became furious. She apologized and I said why I'm not mad at you, I'm mad because no one told us. I did say our plans were canceled so we would be home so family could visit if they wanted, no I'm mad because hubs mother is usually the one to tell us or other sis in law.
Yet for months nothing. I understand communication is a two way street but WHY, why cut hubs out of the loop? I would be hurt if the family didn't care for me but would eventually understand. However its not far to hurt my husband to get to me when he did nothing wrong.
Yes I am taking it personally because this isn't the first time. Ever since daughter was born they've been doing this.
If anything this makes me trust people even less and not want to deal with any family but my own if at all. And question in what have I done to cause husbands family to see me as a threat or hurt their feelings? What horrible-ness did I do? Whatever it is if they are angry or hurt with me its just hurting them if they don't tell me. Otherwise...for now I am just going to be hurt and angry and keep to myself as knowing me if I say a word I'm automatically wrong.
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