Valentines Day

[McDreidel09]

Who says you HAVE to go buy expensive things for Valentine's Day? If the other person blows a gasket over a gift just because it isn't expensive, you probably don't want to be with them anyway.

Malarky (aka Beloved Bullshit) and I went to Taco John's for dinner and we each paid for our own. I got him a Unicorn Pillow Pet, to which his reaction was "IT'S SO FLUFFEH!!!" and gave it a hug and then to inform me that he almost got me the same thing. He gave me a bag of cherry cheesecake coffee and (when it comes in) an air freshener that uses fragrance oil that you plug into a USB port. Then we went back to his place and cuddled, to which he said "This was all I really wanted today. I looked forward to this all day."

Our schedules are hectic. Yes, we do see each other everyday, but when we do, we are surrounded by other people or doing homework or doing stuff for the anime club. We don't really get to have that us time. Yesterday, we got to have that time together and it was a nice break from the schedules and work.

So not all of us who celebrate go out and spend spend spend. Some of us actually use the holiday for which it was intended.

[Andara Bledin]

My boyfriend and I bought each other some pretty $5 rings. And we picked out our own rings. And we went to Souplantation for dinner, but that was just because we felt like eating out, and I figured Souplantation wouldn't be insane like regular restaurants.

^-.-^

[Elspeth]

We choose not to celebrate, plus it is when my parents started dating so I celebrate it has their anniversary. I think this stems from our childhoods. We were not popular and they forced the kids to give everyone a V-Day card. I get annoyed at the commercials saying if you loved her you would buy her expensive jewelry, same ones at Christmas. We have a standing rule, don't buy me a car or jewelry. I would rather have some techy thing.

Last night was fun though. We had a hell of a storm blow through and we lost power. So we hooked up the laptop to our battery unit and watch The Galaxy Railways.

[Ginger Tea]

I'm not in the full on anti Vday camp, I just have a rule that (should I ever end up in a relationship after being single for over a decade) I would not do anything on that day, no flowers, no chocolates, no nothing, I would state upfront that I would be doing nothing that day as I would rather these things be spontanious and mean something, not feel like "well everyone else is doing it"
I would like to think that if I were to give her flowers randomly, they would be seen as a token of affection and not a preemptive appology, the sterotypical response I used to see on TV.

This year I actually got a heart shaped box of chocolates and was going to leave it in the ladies changing room (when the room was empty btw) with one of the girls at works name on it, inside the box would be empty and a note reading "I don't like you enough to get you chocolates." or "I like chocolates more than you." and seeing as neither of us like each other, no heart's would be broken, I forgot to do this by the time she went home and she wasn't in today so I just let the women in the office share the box.

re the woman giving the husband/bf two tickets to "go with a friend." would she ever do such a thing at any other time of the year?
For all he knew, it might have been something that he loved and she was meh about, but she got him tickets for him and a mate who is into it as much as he is and that was his treat from her, if she really wanted him to take her, she should have kept her ticket and told him to pick her up.

[guywithashovel]

Maybe. But, it could be that the added Valentine's Day hysteria only makes things worse. I'm sure their crazy-ass gf only get worse because "It's Valentine's Day. Do _______ if you looooooove me"

Yeah, I think that's it.

I really wish I hadn't walked in on all that. It had been so long since I'd heard talk like that that I was actually starting to think that women like that had all died out or gotten some real priorities. I guess I was wrong.

However, it did open my eyes to something. One of those coworkers teaches classes here at the school. I've overheard several students complaining about her being disrespectful in class. Initially, I kind of brushed it off as just grumbling from students who didn't want to do their work, because frankly, we have a few of those types here. But now I'm suspecting there is more to it than that.

[Ginger Tea]

On a side note, one of our supervisors was asking at break that day if we sent/recieved any thing, she chided one guy for giving his girlfriend who also worked there nothing.

she asked me even though I make it obvious I like being single
"You don't give porn flowers on valentines day." I can't recall the rest of the conversation but I meantioned 2 girls one cup and her face told me she had seen it, it was sheer terror looking back at me, she had not it transpires but it was a face of epic giggle inducement.

I told this to one of the new guys who is friends with her son, if anyone would show her that clip it would be her son it seems.

[Cat]

I'll admit, when the bf and I first starting dating 4 years ago, I was all about bdays, and Vday, and all other gift giving days...merely because in the past I was usually dumped right before said days....so never really got to celebrate.

Now, I realise (I hope) my guy isn't going anywhere, so we kept Vday simple and fun...home cooked meal, WoW, and wine.

I can understand the hate of the hype/stress of the day, and I can understand wanting to celebrate it.

[lordlundar]

Why do I hate it? it simple:

I'm single. I'm happy. I'm happy being single. I have FAR more pressing matters than finding a significant other. And whether someone else is in a relationship with someone is their own business and their choice.

So what do I hear EVERY GODDAMN VALENTINE'S DAY?

"Why don't you have a girlfriend?"
"Are you looking for someone?"
<said within earshot of a co-worker/friend> "you would make such a cute couple!" <hello, she's married you twat!>
"go onto <insert dating site here> and start looking for someone, you won't regret it"

AAAAAAARRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!

Look, I don't tell you that you should break up with your SO unless you look like you're ready to hang yourself, so why must you tell me that I should find someone? Especially on a day where it's already being rammed down my throat?

I swear, one of these tears I'm gonna grab a baseball bat and "introduce" it to the morons as my SO.

[blas87]

I got asked several times on Sunday night at work if I would be doing anything "special" with bf on Monday. Um, he has school all day and I work nights, I don't get up early for anything but overtime, so no, I wasn't going to go to work dead tired because of going out. Restaurants are always zoos on V day anyway.

We went out to eat last Saturday, and that was bad enough, because I think a lot of couples had the same idea in mind. There isn't a lot you can do when a holiday like V Day is on a Monday.

What I hate is being patronized over "Did he get you something good?!" or "Your bf better have gotten you something nice!"

Yup, it's all up to the guy, isn't it.

[protege]

So what do I hear EVERY GODDAMN VALENTINE'S DAY?

"Why don't you have a girlfriend?"
"Are you looking for someone?"
<said within earshot of a co-worker/friend> "you would make such a cute couple!" <hello, she's married you twat!>
"go onto <insert dating site here> and start looking for someone, you won't regret it"

I get that shit all year long, mainly because my last relationship of any sort imploded back in 2001, and I've given up on trying to land someone else. It's just not happening, and I've moved onto other projects. Even so, V Day is another reminder that I don't have anyone.

[crashhelmet]

There are a lot of issues that circulate around Valentine's Day.

We're not supposed to be single. We're supposed to go out of our way to be romantic. We're supposed to buy flowers and candy and goto expensive restaurants. If we fail to live up to this "societal requirements," we catch hell from others. I can see why people hate it.

This year, my gf and I exchanged cards and small novelty gifts. Nothing overly special. We went for food and drinks at a local brewery and had a great night in each other's company. We had more of a romantic outing Thursday night than we did on Valentine's Day. That's just how things work out sometimes.

[crashhelmet]

Oh... One thing I forgot to add is that here in Vegas, there is a plastic surgeon that was advertising Breast Implants as the "Perfect Valentine's Day Gift."

[Rapscallion]

For him or her?

Rapscallion

[crashhelmet]

For Both. Something they can "both enjoy."

[Cazzi]

I get that shit all year long, mainly because my last relationship of any sort imploded back in 200x, and I've given up on trying to land someone else. It's just not happening, and I've moved onto other projects. Even so, V Day is another reminder that I don't have anyone.

Thats that big reason I don't like v-day. I don't go on about hating it, I just try & avoid the subject.
The only time I almost lost it was when my marriage ended... just before the day. I was stopped in town by a local radio presenter wanting to know what my thoughts were on valentines day & would I be celebrating with my SO.

I was good, she didn't end up wearing her equipment