my daughter's "father"

[KellyHabersham]

*This doesn't affect me personally, and I guess it's not really any of my business, just irks me that this behavior still continues. *


To make it short - after things ended with me, "Jeremy" went on to have four more girls with four different women. He's still in a relationship/lives with the mother of his youngest, but as far as I know, he does NOT pay child support for any of his other kids. (He does spend time with his second daughter, but I don't think he helps out financially)

Anyhow, I have one of Jeremy's half-sisters on my Facebook friends list, and according to something she'd commented on, he's going to be a father for the sixth time.......although they don't know yet when the baby is due or what gender it is.

Needless to say, it's rather difficult for me to NOT comment on how it's not cool that Jeremy has that many kids by different women, and that he keeps on having them when he can't/won't support the ones he's already got.

[insertNameHere]

but.... making them is so much fun.

This is why I'm a cruel asshole who supports mandatory fixing of people who will reproduce constantly without considering their actions. I also believe some people should be given an IQ test before being allowed to breed, as it seems some of the more clueless people tend to do it more often. I have a friend who can't figure out how she ended up pregnant again, said "He said he pulled out whenever we weren't using condoms, so I don't know how it is possible"

From what you say Jeremy is a prime candidate for not being able to keep spreading his seed. I'm wondering if the newest potential baby momma to be knows this track record? If so, why not try to be a little bit more careful, I know peopel screw up when they young but by the time you have managed to father 5 kids, you should be old enough or have screwed up enough to be like WTF am I doing with my life

[KellyHabersham]

Well, I wouldn't really consider her to be a "new" baby mama since they've already had one child together, but she's definitely aware of his track record - not sure what Jeremy may/may not have told her about me, but I do know that they're on friendly terms with "Baby Mama #2" and "Baby Mama #3". (meanwhile, he's not on good terms with the mother of his fourth child)

[RecoveringKinkoid]

What really sucks is that at the point these kids are adults, they're going to need to paternity tests on potential partners to make sure they aren't screwing their siblings. Since at some point, it's going to get where you could be (an probably are) related to everyone in your county.

[AdminAssistant]

My BIL's ex is like that. I think she finally married her third (or fourth?) baby daddy. I feel bad for my step-niece, having to try to keep track of all the people she's related to. Oh, and when I was home last weekend, I went with my sister to take my niece back to her mother. She drives a brand-freaking-new Ford Explorer. I wonder which kid's child support paid for that?

[drunkenwildmage]

Egads..I bet Father's Day and Mother's Day creates a lot of mass confusion...

[guywithashovel]

I have two words for "Jeremy."

Snip snip.

[blas87]

The ex-convict that my stupid former friend fell in love with (and married while he's been in prison again!) already had 3 different kids with 3 different women by his early 30s, he cheated on my former friend with another girl and knocked her up one or two months before he knocked up my former friend (they married while she was still pregnant and he was fresh back in prison from a parole violation).

She just had her baby back in February. It has a half brother or sister only a month or two older than it, not to mention 3 half brothers/sisters from other women.

Now, in situations like my dad's family, which are like the TV show Step by Step, my dad is the only kid his grandparents had together, but they had several kids from their first marriage (first spouses both died). That's why my dad has 7 half brothers and 1 half sister.

[protege]

The only good thing about people sleeping around...is that shows like Jerry Springer and Maury Povich will *never* run out of guests

Case in point, my ex-girlfriend's brother would qualify for Maury. He's had at least 6 or 7 children by 3 different women, and can't afford to take care of all of them. He got married to the first woman, not long after their first child was born. After their third child was born, he cheated on his wife, and later walked out on her. The woman he cheated with...got pregnant (twice), and he left her not long after. Now he's with another...and from what I've heard, is now expecting a second child.

Seriously? Are you fucking kidding me? 30 years old, with 7 kids by 3 different people, no money...works at some fast-food dive (not trying to slam those who work there), has had most of his paychecks garnished because of child-support issues...and has said that he's not going to get snipped or move out of the trailer park any time soon.

Sorry, but I'm all for sterilizing people like that. They're not the ones who will suffer. Instead, it'll be the kid they have. Oh, and it's not just men either--quite a few women will fuck anything that moves.

[blas87]

I'm pretty sure Kink is on to something. If not already, by the time the current generation starts having teenaged kids, we'll have to worry that they may be dating a cousin or sibling of someone's close to them

[KellyHabersham]

Oh, and it's not just men either--quite a few women will fuck anything that moves.

Agreed on this - one of Jeremy's half-sisters didn't exactly sleep around, but she made some poor choices in the men she got involved with, and has four kids by three different men. (she's since married the father of her youngest two)

[blas87]

I don't think we're all man-bashing, protege. It takes two to tango.

It really speaks volumes about a woman and her self esteem and self value and her overall morals if she's willing to even go near a man with multiple kids with multiple women, not able to even pay for any of them, working dead end jobs and not caring how many more babies he makes.

[Sarah Valentine]

I have two words for "Jeremy."

Snip snip.

I agree completely, that and it's also a woman's responsibility to buy condoms to have on hand just in case he doesn't.

[Racket_Man]

The only good thing about people sleeping around...is that shows like Jerry Springer and Maury Povich will *never* run out of guests

not only Maury and Jerry but watch ANY soap opera long enough and you will need a BIG scorecard (with LOTS of lines and arrows and graphs) to keep track of who is whose child, who has been married to who (and how many times), who is currently screwing who just because, who is screwing who to get revenge or interest in some company or information, who is screwing who to steal someone away just because, etc.

in some ways soap operas DO mimic real life in some areas

my girlfriend watches several and (YEAH I admit this freely) I know who is who and what is what.

[blas87]

If you watch the soaps for long enough also, you'll see that they like to keep it within the family. Not straight up incest, but everyone shares everyone's exes and people marry their step siblings or date their uncles by marriage and whatnot. It's sick.

Too bad payroll never has enough extra cash to bring in new characters to stop that kind of thing.