People who must comment on everything.

[Rageaholic]

And let their opinion be known on every thing you do.

For example. I'm at a restaurtant and order a pizza.

"Did you know how unhealthy that pizza is? Why don't you get something healthier like a salad?"

"I don't care. I don't like salad and I just want pizza"

"You don't care about your health?! Blah blah blah blah blah"

I mention a show I like.

"That's such an implausible show. Why do you watch this crap?"

I tell a story about some problem I'm having.

"This is what you should do. blah blah blah and blah".

It gets to the point where you can't say anything without it turning into a debate on how your way is wrong and they are right. I don't mind debating (obviously) but there's a time and place for it. When you're always on the defensive, it can be quite draining.

[HYHYBT]

I wonder... will the subject line kill the thread?

Yes, that sure is annoying.

[telecom_goddess]

insert some random comment about my way is better

what?

[Mongo Skruddgemire]

Rage, you do have to admit to the ironic situation you have created here <grin>.

But I do know what you are talking about. It happens all the time. I'd say that fully a quarter of the CS stories involve that.

[Rageaholic]

Rage, you do have to admit to the ironic situation you have created here <grin>.

LOL I just got it.

I wasn't even thinking about the internet when I posted this rant. Though those like this online aren't nearly as annoying as those who make unnecessary comments IRL. At least it can be expected online (especially on debate boards).

[DrFaroohk]

I hear you loud and clear, Rage. I mean fuck, I'm an adult. if I want pizza let me have it. let me make my own decisions and abide by them as I am an adult. If you want someone to comment on every little thing they do to destroy their self esteem and put them in a constant defensive stance, have a kid.

I'm usually very very secretive about everything I do simply because I don't feel like listening to people's criticism. I also lie a lot about my personal plans just to shut people up.

"What are you having for dinner?"

"Pizz....I mean salad. Yeah." Then I go get a pizza. Fuck them.

[firecat88]

My sister does this all the freaking time. She does it to me *and* my mom. It's always the same thing too.

"Uhh...aren't you supposed to be trying to lose weight? How can you do that when you're having lunch at *restaurant name*?"

Here's the real story: My mom and I have a Girls' Day Out maaaaaaaaaybe once a month, if that. It depends on if my mom has errands to run or not. If it's grocery shopping, I'll go with her anyways just in case there's something I want. On our GDO, we almost always go out to eat at one of the few restaurants I can eat at without getting sick. The rest of the month, we actually eat pretty healthily (dinners that are mostly protein and veggies, very little carbs, protein shake meal replacements). And, yet, my dear sister blows a frelling gasket every time she hears about our eating out, as if we do it everyday. Drives us both crazy.

The other thing that she's very...meddle-y about is spending money. If you mention buying *anything*, she has some kind of counter-argument for it. For example, the last time she was visiting, we (my parents, my sister, and I) spent one weekend in Denver. At the time, Bath & Body Works was having their annual sale. I wanted to go there to check stuff out. The conversation that ensued at the hotel pretty much went like this:

Her: "What's over there?"
Me: "I wanted to get some of the shampoo and conditioner that they have. They're supposed to be really good."
Her: "You have shampoo at home, don't you?"
Me: "Yeah, but I would use it for hotels and stuff."
Her: "Just use the hotel shampoo. That's what it's there for."
Me: *grumble* "I'm sorry I brought it up."

The kicker: If you're buying something for her, she doesn't complain.

[NateSean]

It's even worse when you make it clear that you do not care what X thinks. And X has to keep pushing their point on you.

[Rageaholic]

I'm usually very very secretive about everything I do simply because I don't feel like listening to people's criticism. I also lie a lot about my personal plans just to shut people up.

Same here. It's not like it's any of their business anyway. Very rarely will someone deliberatly try to find something to criticize me over, but I know that at that point, they are just trying to get under my skin.

It's even worse when you make it clear that you do not care what X thinks. And X has to keep pushing their point on you.

Or they try to argue with you on why you should do things their way. I've had simple discussions on weekend plans or telling of incidents turn into debates on what I should (or should have) done. And by debates I mean having statistics thrown at me on why I should do it a certain way. Even when I perfectly explain myself (which I shouldn't have to do), they still find ways to refute what you say.

Had it been a fratching discussion, that would have been a perfectly acceptable discourse, but since I only brought up things which only affect me, I shouldn't have to justify myself.

[aurelemsrealm]

In regards to people like that, I have a mind of my own, and I'm not afraid to use it. I'm very independent and stubborn like that. However, sometimes, it is fun to mess with people who constantly try to tell me what I should or shouldn't do. I get great pleasure out of being contrary when dealing with those who think they know best when they really don't. The icing on the cake is they fall into the trap every single time, and work themselves into a frenzy trying to convince me how their ideas are the better way to go. They fail to realize that I've already made my decision.

[DrFaroohk]

Sometimes it's a stupid debate over something...stupid.

"I'm going to the grocery store."

"Which one, the A one or the B one?"

"The B one."

"But the A one is closer. Can we really afford the gas to go all the way to the B store?"

I really hate the notion of having to even defend my idea. I'm an adult. I'm not a 5 year old whose decisions are suspect because they're stupid. I'm an adult who made a simple adult decision, now please abide by it.

I know, I could just say "Well, Store B is only 2 miles farther...seriously 2 miles wtf? You glad I saved 25 cents in gas in order to pay 2 times the amount on everything because Store A is smaller and charges an arm and a leg? Yeah that's the spirit, way to save us money! We spent an extra 75 dollars in groceries but we saved 25 cents in gas! YOU DESERVE A FUCKING ECONOMICS MEDAL FOR THAT!!!!"

My dad is terrible about it. Great guy mostly, but extremely negative and judgemental to the point that I no longer tell him anything about my life unless I absolutely have to. When I got into some trouble with the police a while ago (wrong place wrong time mostly), and I was sharing his exploits with him. Any acceptable response would've positive or sympathetic, such as "That sucks son, I'm sorry you got caught up in that" or "Way to go son, cooperating with the police like that. Sucks they turned on you." But no no, he has to get all high and mighty and pissy and be like "You need to be more careful son! It's YOUR FAULT this all happened, you need to own up and deal with it. You better watch your back, boy." Yes it's my fault that someone I happen to know robbed a place. Because I am totally responsible for their actions!

[PepperElf]

One of my former coworkers use to do that... kinda.

She'd ask you why you liked something and then start "explaining" what was wrong with it... making it clear that she really didn't care why you liked it, she just used it as a means to go off on what was wrong with it.

Best example... she asked me why I liked Blue Man Group... before I could even answer, she started instructing me on the mental implications of men wearing masks, dressing as clowns, and what was wrong with them because of that. Oh and that they were copying Stomp (even though BMG predates Stomp... eh pesky facts, who needs them when you have opinionated comments to force on someone? )



As for your pizza... actually pizza can be healthy, depending what you put on it. Just as salad can be the most unhealthy thing ever created.

[Rageaholic]

Okay, here's another thing I hate.

When you say you want to do something, and then get told you should do it. Even though you didn't really mean it.

Example.

"It would be cool to make money online"

"Why don't you do it?

"Oh I don't know. I guess I could, but I'm not very good at this kind of stuff"

"It's easy all you gotta do is blah blah"

"You know, maybe I'll start it some time"

"Well why not now? I can show you now. Blah blah blah"

"I just don't want to do it now"

"*insert lecture about how it's better not to hold things off*"

GRR!!

Can't they just accept "no"?

[jackfaire]

So Rage how long have you known my mother? The amusing thing is now that I am her roommate, hey don't judge saves me lots of money, she doesn't do it nearly that much.

My mom's two things how I eat and how I spend. At one point I had some extra cash flow. I bought a new shirt at the time I would talk to my mom about once a week typical family check in, "how's work, health, don't you hate all this rain (no it's why I live in the NW)"

So three months after I bought this shirt that was at most 20 bucks (I love funny sayings shirts and some are pricier than others) she happens to see me wearing the shirt and realizes *gasp* I spent money on myself. I had to listen to a five minute lecture on how I should never spend money on anything but rent, food, and utilities.

She tends to do the same thing with how I eat. Most of the time I eat really healthy food and I try to cook from fresh ingredients I love cooking for myself it's fun and is a way I can indulge my creative side but if I mention joining some friends for a burger it's "You need to eat better"

Sometime I will make a record of what I eat for a month and when the one time I grab a burger and she says I should eat better I will hand it to her and ask when she wants some diet tips.

[jackfaire]

Okay, here's another thing I hate.

When you say you want to do something, and then get told you should do it. Even though you didn't really mean it.

"I think I should go back to college"

"Dude you totally should"

(Then thinks about how would have to work a more stressful job for longer hours with higher debt to income ratio and the fact I am already as educated as the average person with a bachelor's degree)

"Nah that would be stupid"

"Nah more money dude"

"Nah more debt dude"