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**Glados** · 07-26-2011, 02:09 PM

I'm sorry that you have to deal with this. I hate it when people can't butt out where my kids are concerned so I can imagine that must be very frustrating.

**~~DrFaroohk~~** · 07-26-2011, 02:44 PM

Who thinks there's nothing wrong? The doctor, or family?

Sometimes family doesn't want to admit there might be something wrong. Sometimes doctors are idiots.

I hate to say it like this but is there anything medically known to be "wrong" with your child? Preemie, not enough oxygen at birth or something, etc...?

If it's a doctor who says there's nothing wrong, maybe try a different doctor. or do some research online.

**Kimmik** · 07-26-2011, 03:28 PM

Originally posted by DrFaroohk View Post

Who thinks there's nothing wrong? The doctor, or family?

Sometimes family doesn't want to admit there might be something wrong. Sometimes doctors are idiots.

I hate to say it like this but is there anything medically known to be "wrong" with your child? Preemie, not enough oxygen at birth or something, etc...?

If it's a doctor who says there's nothing wrong, maybe try a different doctor. or do some research online.

No the doc says that she is some where on the autism spectrum which is one of the things that i was thinking... but they cant really test her right now.

She is majorly behind in speech, so much so that we have a speech person here every 2 weeks that is government paid.. thank god... but even with specialist saying that she is behind, and the doc agreeing that there is an issue.

But my husband and brother say she just is a late talker... and that she doesnt need outside help.

She doesnt mimic words... some times maybe she will mimic a mooo but that is about it.. she just started mimicking me loving a doll *holding it in a hug and rocking it*

I am ok with her having issues, i know that catching it as early as possible can really help.

oh yes and she was a month early and only 6.3lbs... and my second pregnancy in about a year or a tad bit more.

**Boozy** · 07-26-2011, 05:52 PM

I'm assuming they've tested her hearing?

**Andara Bledin** · 07-26-2011, 07:15 PM

My brother, who does not have autism or any learning or physical disabilities, didn't say a single word, not even "babytalk" until he was nearly three. This was because he refused to speak at all until he could do it right. He was exceedingly fussy as a kid.

^-.-^

**HYHYBT** · 07-27-2011, 02:26 AM

My first thought would also be a hearing problem... but chances are there's *something* wrong, whether your family wants to recognize it or not.

**LexiaFira** · 07-27-2011, 02:30 AM

if it helps, my daughter was the same. very good at motor skills but wouldn't talk much and only now starts waving. at 18 months she would rather tinker with her toys and maybe say a few words. now she does all of this. only because she was behind in development and would catch up. however she didn't show any signs on the autism spectrum.

I am very sorry that your hubs and brother are being this way. my thoughts are maybe they don't want to accept it until there is proof to their eyes but...thats still not helping.

it will be ok, and i know thats not much help but your child is doing ok and will either catch up as the beginning is the hardest part and following through. IE the speech person coming please have him or her keep coming. Thats their job to do that and to answer your questions

**anakhouri** · 07-27-2011, 03:28 AM

I know it must be frustrating for you if no one else acknowledges there might be a problem, but YOU are doing the right thing by your child. You are on top of her health and if there is anything wrong, you are catching it early.

At Khan's 18 month appointment they gave me a questionaire with things like "Does child point to things they want?" and "Does child pretend (taking on cell phones, feeding stuffed animals etc)?" I asked a nurse and it is to catch any signs of autism early. Have you been to her 18-month appointment yet?

(Khan is 2 and still doesn't wave. I think he can, he's just mule-headed)

**Kimmik** · 07-28-2011, 12:52 AM

Hearing has tested perfect. Though you would think she was deaf sometimes because unless you touch her she wont even acknowledge you. she doesnt feed any doll, she doesnt point, she cant point to people she knows. she loves to move around 36 pack of pepsi... strong little thing. some days i think she says something and the next she is just making sound.

*sighs*

**IDrinkaRum** · 07-28-2011, 01:26 AM

Sounds like she is on the Autism Spectrum.

Child Rum was like that. She said "Mama" at almost 7 months old (6 months, 3 weeks to be exact). And then nothing until 2 years old. And then only "Good Girl" and "Stop That". Then at 2.5 years, she stopped saying the 2 word phrases but kept saying Mama. She also didn't point, but could wave, never crawled, but stood and walked. Didn't make eye contact neither.

Back in March we had an MRI done (due to changes in behavior and then her neurologist ordered it due to the cataract she had). Come to find out, she's missing the fibers that connect the brain in the communication section of the brain. Which probably affected her speech communication in that she might not understand what is being said to her/was the cause of her speech delay to begin with. We're not sure as by the time she was 3 years, 11 months and 3 weeks old (basically 1 week exactly before her fourth birthday), she woke up one day talking (went to bed the night before, still not talking just saying "Mama" and woke up and said words an stilted sentences).

It's a good thing you're getting her speech therapy. We used PECs (Picture Exchange Communication). They are pictures of everything under the sun you can use to get your point across. (Also had a card for "HELP" which is the first card she used at home after being instructed to use it at her pre-school).

Also look in with the school system in the county you live in. The department you'll be looking for is "Childfind" or something similar to it. They help children with Development Delays (and other special needs education) who are too young to be officially in the school system but need a school environment to help them navigate. My daughter went to Woodbine Preschool. It helped her immensely. Not only did she learn how to use the PECs correctly (thereby helping to "wake up" the brain and getting her to use her speech), but she learned discipline within the school environment, got me ready to do IEPs (which are plans for her education throughout her school grades). She also got speech and occupational therapy.

It's hard to have to admit your child has something "wrong" with them. It took me 2 years of therapy before I could even say the "A" word. (Now, I cry and am embarrassed about it because what kind of mother is like that?) You can always PM me or whatever.

Also, read up on Autism. Work closely with her doctors and get a good Developmental Pediatrician and/or child psychologist. Both can definitely diagnose Autism/Autism Spectrum Disorder/Asperberger's/PDD-NOS.

Sorry ... I didn't mean to hijack the thread. But getting information out there, for anyone, is the most important so you know what you can/cannot do. And it's something I'm very passionate about.

Good luck!

**insertNameHere** · 07-28-2011, 06:48 AM

It kind of makes me wonder, if they redefined autism or something is up because those commercials way back used to be like 1 in 10000 kids, now it is like 1 in 100. I know they have the varying levels and some people are extremely good at math and science but not to good on the social front which sometimes makes me think I might have something, as my brother has a learning disability. And they way my father comprehends shit or just won't let something go once he gets an idea makes me think I know where we got it.

**Greenday** · 07-28-2011, 06:51 AM

insertNameHere, I bet I would have been called slightly autistic. I never got along with kids my age and I never really could relate to them. But really, for the longest time, no one came near me in math or science. It all just made sense to me. It was basically once I got to high school and stopped being challenged that others passed me.

**Andara Bledin** · 07-28-2011, 08:39 AM

I was the same, Greenday. In the last decade, I've had three different people suggest that I'm a mild Aspie, including one who is a moderate and officially diagnosed Aspie.

^-.-^

**~~PepperElf~~** · 07-29-2011, 01:23 AM

I am the mother god damn it and I know that something is wrong. No I dont want something to be wrong... i am like any mother I want my child to be healthy and happy.

although i don't have kids this makes perfect sense to me.

it's kinda like my mom... not knowing is worse than knowing, even if it's bad news. once you know, whatever it is, you can prepare better... but not knowing is just stress without an outlet to expunge it.

hope you find out soon.

Originally posted by insertNameHere View Post

It kind of makes me wonder, if they redefined autism or something is up because those commercials way back used to be like 1 in 10000 kids, now it is like 1 in 100. I know they have the varying levels and some people are extremely good at math and science but not to good on the social front which sometimes makes me think I might have something, as my brother has a learning disability. And they way my father comprehends shit or just won't let something go once he gets an idea makes me think I know where we got it.

yes. at least that's what the teacher said in my health class last year. broader definitions... which of course also helps children get better assistance.

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