Keep Your Pregnancy Off Facebook

[Sarah Valentine]

When I decide to have a baby I might put up 1 or 2 ultrasound photos but that's it. I won't overload my facebook page with nothing but baby stuff.

[telecom_goddess]

ON FB I don't have my face on there very often, I don't want to show that off to the world.

I have a niece right now who's pregnant and constantly posting about it..but meh it's her first time so whatever.

[AdminAssistant]

I find it sad that people even care about a baby's "junk." This is a societal problem that is tied to body issues and puritanism, for the most part.

I find it sad and appalling that anyone is posting nude photos of their child on the internet. This is especially true of those who have little boys; it's all, "Oh look at his cute little wee-wee!!" I'm sorry, but I don't need to know about his 'wee-wee' and neither does anyone else. It's amazing how common sense seems to fly out the window the instant some conceive a child.

[guywithashovel]

But...don't make the ultrasound photo (or your kid's photo) your profile pic. That makes the feminist in me go all rowr-y. That's supposed to be a picture of you.

Why does that make the feminist in you go rowr-y?

As for people having pictures of things other than themselves as their profile picture, I have a picture I took of a tree as my profile picture. I do that because I don't want my picture out there for all to see. I know there's nothing really "wrong" with having it out there, but I would just rather not. My profile is set so that only people on my friends list can see my wall, pics, status updates, etc.

I don't mean to undermine people's feelings, but I really don't see what the big deal is with most of the Facebook statuses that people are complaining about. Yeah, I really really don't care if someone is snuggling with their significant other, but is it really that big of a damper on my day if they post it on their Facebook? Not really. In fact, I think it's kind of funny, because I picture the two of them snuggling and taking quick breaks to write about it on Facebook.

[AdminAssistant]

Because she has literally replaced her identity as a person with that of her child. It's a symbolic act, and probably unintentional, but still. I see so many women who completely subvert their identities when they marry/have children. Besides, it makes it hard as hell to figure out who they are if they put in a friend request, especially if they've changed their name since I last knew them.

Speaking of annoying FB things, this is what a friend posted the other day:

I'm happy with who I am. Being country doesn't mean that I'm uneducated or that I'm stupid. I say 'ain't' and 'y'all' and I 'reckon'. I 'bless a lot of hearts.' I might even 'piddle' around from time to time. I might refer to my pants as 'britches' and 'by golly' that's okay! If you're proud to be sweet, sassy and southern, go ahead and click like 'right smack dab' on this status! All Proud Country Girls Repost.

I was tempted to post a status that said, "I'm a proud country girl, but I know how to use proper grammar and vocabulary. Repost if you don't let your upbringing and background determine your future!" Of course, this is also the one that posted every. single. detail. of her nasty divorce/child custody case a while back. It was like Jerry Springer exploded right on my Facebook!

[protege]

It's her Facebook, and she can post what she wants.

Bingo! Not long ago, I had someone send me a nasty email about all the MG and train stuff I was posting. Apparently, even though it's *my* FB page, I'm not "allowed" to post things like that. My reply was "Don't like it, either block it or unfriend me. Otherwise...fuck off."

[Andara Bledin]

Indeed.

Just because it's not your way to Facebook doesn't make it the wrong way to Facebook.

^-.-^

[tropicsgoddess]

I don't give a shit but if and when I get pregnant and have a baby, I'll post pics here and there and of the milestones. No naughty bits and no gory stuff.

[Saphire089]

While it's not too annoying to have pictures, some people have actually made facebook profiles for their unborn babies, and made posts in their childs name. Not the most annoying thing in the world, but I'd wait until the kid is mature enough to have their own page and put it up themselves.

[Ginger Tea]

The whole nude baby photo's out in the wild can be a bit unnerving, if its set to only who you want to see it then its fine, but when anyone and everyone can see jr's todger I think the mark has long been crossed.

One artist a few years ago (close to ten and I think I read about it in the local rag, so sorry no links) had a run at Tate Modern (I think) and it was mostly photo's of her semi and full frontal nude children (boy and girl) including one when the boy was peeing on the girl in the bath.
She didn't think it was wrong and it was all "harmless" baby/toddler photo's that all mothers take, granted parents take alot of photo's of their children, god knows how many of me and my brother my dad would have taken if wasn't out of the country in the army for a chunk of the early years. Trust me he more than made up for it that I became alergic to camera flashes and can sence a camera or camera phone aimed at me or my general location.

But, at the time (pre facebook) parent's had a limited audience for these photo's and did not blow them up to poster size and stick them in an art gallery for all those willing to see and if she sold a book of said photographs I dread to think what the ratio of pedo's would be buying it, I mean 5yo water sports FFS.

On the mother with a child in intensive care, her child was super early and who knows outside of those in the know, how touch and go s/he could have or still be, when faced with the possibility of loosing a child I'm sure most would fill as many rolls of films (pre digi cam) or SD card's with photo's no matter how many tubes there are.

[Gravekeeper]

I envy you. A friend of mine from high school decided what we all really needed to see were "artistic" nudes of her while she pregnant. Apparently this is ok because they were professionally taken.

[blas87]

My ex bf's sister had professional semi-nude photos taken of herself (she didn't put any of the boob pics on FB, obviously). The photos that were not nude but still left much to the imagination, she put on there for everyone to see. The catch? They were supposed to be a wedding gift to her husband. They ended up being pictures online that anyone could gawk at, since she never made them private.

Tacky.

Not quite the same level of naked babies or naked pregnant pics, but just as little thought put in.

[linguist]

i know i totally hate it when i go on facebook and all my friends want to talk about is the important things going on in their lives! what do they think this is, a social network or something?

[/sarcasm]

I find it sad and appalling that anyone is posting nude photos of their child on the internet. This is especially true of those who have little boys; it's all, "Oh look at his cute little wee-wee!!" I'm sorry, but I don't need to know about his 'wee-wee' and neither does anyone else. It's amazing how common sense seems to fly out the window the instant some conceive a child.

are you seriously comparing posting a picture of a blurry vaguely baby-shaped mass with what may or may not actually be a penis (as sex identification via ultrasound is hardly an exact science) to posting nude pictures of children?

[blas87]

I believe Admin is talking about nudie baby pictures, as in babies, not fetuses.

[linguist]

if that's the case, then my mistake, but her post followed one in which she specifically stated she didn't want to see ultrasounds that show the baby's "junk."