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...and specifically how she treats her son.
Venting here mostly because Kabe's at work.
But I am so sick of seeing how A, Kabe's sister, treats her son E. He's 3. He asks questions, gets into things, has no sense of personal boundaries per se (he likes to pet), is loveable, cuddly, and rambunctious. Very much a typical toddler.
She's a single mother. She slept with a guy she was working with, didn't use protection, and now has a big responsibility she wasn't ready for. But refuses to admit or say that, a bit to her credit.
My issue is that she seems to completely ignore her son and/or foists him on other people at this point. When he was a baby, he refused to go to anyone but her, her mom, or his dad. And he was constantly held. Start crying? Pick him up. Doesn't want to sleep? Pick him up. But that was their choice. Fine.
Now, despite having her own place 10 minutes away, she and he are up here a good portion of the time. On the one hand, this is a better place than where she lives to allow him to run around. On the other, that doesn't mean you should let him run around unsupervised entirely. He's 3. He can still get into things and messes that need to be taken care of immediately because he could be seriously injured.
So what's she doing right now? Sleeping on the couch inside. I'm running between Kabe's and my place (we're behind his mom house) to mom's house to do laundry, and where was E just a moment ago? Out in the front yard, in the road specifically. Only adult outside was their cousin's wife who was doing yard work. I brought him back into the backyard, found out the other gate was wide open, so closed it. Then went to tell A, hoping she might get up and at least watch her kid.
Her response? "Oh he does that. He'll knock on the front door too. It's funny."
It's funny?! True, we live pretty much around family, so maybe stranger snatching isn't a big concern. But we live across from a lot that's been used as a quarry/dumping ground for years. What if he ran over there? What if he decided to run towards the main road instead of sticking in our immediate block? You can text while sitting on the porch! True, you wouldn't be able to watch TV, but at least your kid would be safe! Heck, what if he decided to run past my house? We live next to the edge of the hill!
Don't get me wrong. I think E is adorable and I want him to grow up well and healthy and around family. Heck, I think of him as family to an extent. But he's not my kid. I can't have him in my house (too little space), especially not while I'm cleaning. And the fact he keeps asking me if he can come with me just breaks my heart because his mom's ignoring him. Like she usually does when she's up here. I don't know how she acts at their own home, but up here, either someone else is caring for him, or he's on his own.
It's sad.
Venting here mostly because Kabe's at work.
But I am so sick of seeing how A, Kabe's sister, treats her son E. He's 3. He asks questions, gets into things, has no sense of personal boundaries per se (he likes to pet), is loveable, cuddly, and rambunctious. Very much a typical toddler.
She's a single mother. She slept with a guy she was working with, didn't use protection, and now has a big responsibility she wasn't ready for. But refuses to admit or say that, a bit to her credit.
My issue is that she seems to completely ignore her son and/or foists him on other people at this point. When he was a baby, he refused to go to anyone but her, her mom, or his dad. And he was constantly held. Start crying? Pick him up. Doesn't want to sleep? Pick him up. But that was their choice. Fine.
Now, despite having her own place 10 minutes away, she and he are up here a good portion of the time. On the one hand, this is a better place than where she lives to allow him to run around. On the other, that doesn't mean you should let him run around unsupervised entirely. He's 3. He can still get into things and messes that need to be taken care of immediately because he could be seriously injured.
So what's she doing right now? Sleeping on the couch inside. I'm running between Kabe's and my place (we're behind his mom house) to mom's house to do laundry, and where was E just a moment ago? Out in the front yard, in the road specifically. Only adult outside was their cousin's wife who was doing yard work. I brought him back into the backyard, found out the other gate was wide open, so closed it. Then went to tell A, hoping she might get up and at least watch her kid.
Her response? "Oh he does that. He'll knock on the front door too. It's funny."
It's funny?! True, we live pretty much around family, so maybe stranger snatching isn't a big concern. But we live across from a lot that's been used as a quarry/dumping ground for years. What if he ran over there? What if he decided to run towards the main road instead of sticking in our immediate block? You can text while sitting on the porch! True, you wouldn't be able to watch TV, but at least your kid would be safe! Heck, what if he decided to run past my house? We live next to the edge of the hill!
Don't get me wrong. I think E is adorable and I want him to grow up well and healthy and around family. Heck, I think of him as family to an extent. But he's not my kid. I can't have him in my house (too little space), especially not while I'm cleaning. And the fact he keeps asking me if he can come with me just breaks my heart because his mom's ignoring him. Like she usually does when she's up here. I don't know how she acts at their own home, but up here, either someone else is caring for him, or he's on his own.
It's sad.
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