Gold Star People

[blas87]

I'm not sick of it at all, Admin. Vent away.

I can totally see how there are Gold Star Wedding people, or the wedding snob variety. Aka, people who have no comprehension (or care) about other people's financial situations or personal tastes. It's your wedding, your way. They don't like it, they don't have to come.

[AdminAssistant]

Oh, I forgot about this. I went to a friend's wedding today (omigoshitwassoawesome!) They're both around 30 and have been married before and have all the toasters and frying pans and crap that they need. So, they asked people not to give gifts, but to instead bring a dish or help decorate. It was all a bit mishmashed, but it was lovely, the food was great, and everyone had a great time. Best of all, all of us were able to come and participate without going broke. Anyway, I was just standing there talking to my friends when someone I didn't know (a relative, I assume), barged up to my group demanding to know where the gift table was. The Maid of Honor replied that since the couple didn't want gifts, they didn't set up a gift table. She gave us an indignant look and said, "Well, I got them one anyway! You don't come to a wedding without a gift!" The couple eventually set up a table in a side room for people to put stuff, but ugh! How rude!

[blas87]

I think it's a little more rude to demand gifts, but I can see how it can be awkward and a little tacky when people won't break tradition even if it's been decided "no gifts".

What I can't stand are people who live halfway across the country from all of their relatives, and especially in this economy, get all butthurt when not many people will come to their extravagent, celebrity-like wedding. Yeah, I'm talking about my ex bf's sister's wedding. Her dress was more than I put down on my car last year. The GUESTS had to pay $100 a plate at dinner! You NEVER make guests pay to eat! Best of all, my bf was livid with me because I wouldn't stop smoking (different rant there) or try to save the money for a dress and a ticket to go with his family. He'd constantly whine "If you quit smoking you'd have enough money for a ticket in a month!" and I'd reply "If you quit drinking, you'd have enough money to move out of your parents' house!" and of course he'd lash out and start screaming about being picked on. But I digress.

Yeah, not compromising my bills and responsibilities to go to some lavish wedding that is outside my means and overall comfort zone.

[Gravekeeper]

Ugh. I use to have a coworker like this at my old job. They gave him a trial run as a floor manager at one point and he went straight into power trip mode. We had some new silly employee policy at the time, and I made a joke about it to some of my coworkers.

He, in writing, to our CEO, accused me of "Inciting rebellion" and "Leading an uprising against his authority". I know this, because our manager found it so hilarious he forwarded me the email. -.-

[Andara Bledin]

I've told some people that I plan on cutting the train off my dress, and OH THE HORROR!!!! You can't cut off the train! Leave it long for the ceremony and then bustle it! Or, "You're not having booze or dancing?? Well don't expect people to stay at the ceremony!" Or, "You're not wearing a birdcage veil? Those are all the rage!" Or, "You're playing electronica??? Nobody's gonna like that!" *headdesk*

They'd have dropped dead at my wedding.

We wore Halloween costumes instead of wedding costumes. And invited all our guests to do the same, providing masks for those who didn't. There was no booze; only sparkling cider, and yet everybody stayed. No veil. Well, technically there was... my mother was wearing it as part of her "mouring" garb as her commentary on weddings. My aunt wore a jester costume for much the same reason.

Oh, and the first dance was by Metallica.

Although, to be fair, Nothing Else Matters makes quite a lovely slow dance song. We followed it up with We Belong by Pat Benetar.

Then again, the entrance for the ceremony itself was Andrew Lloyd Webber from Aspects of Love. The timing couldn't have been more perfect for the size of our wedding party.

It's your wedding. Don't let anyone else try to tell you how to do it "right."

^-.-^

[Boozy]

Even the most health conscious person will occasionally treat themselves to junk..

Exactly! I eat nothing but fruits, vegetables and whole grains all week, with a bit of low-fat dairy and lean proteins. And I run 3 miles a day. I would consider myself to be very health conscious.

However, I still eat fast food about once a week. On Mr. Boozy's "night to cook", it's either take-out pizza or take-out burgers.

Sure, there's nothing good about a Big Mac meal. That's 1000 calories, and most of them empty. But so what? I eat over 15,000 calories a week, so I don't really care if 5% of them are garbage.

That's the problem with anti-fast-food nuts. They're all-or-nothing thinkers. They can't fathom someone working a bit of junk food into an otherwise healthy life.

[protege]

Food snobs make me batty. There's quite a few on CS.

I work with a couple of food snobs. Most don't give me grief about what I eat. However, Amy will drone on about how whatever I bring in for lunch...is "bad for me." Why? Because it's not organic, and comes from a "chain" supermarket.

Sorry, but I don't buy the whole "organic is better for you" movement. For one, according to the health department, the jury's still out in that regard. Second, I'm not willing to pay (in some cases) up to twice the price of non-organic food. Lastly, the food tastes *exactly* the same. Amy is against buying anything from large chain stores. Yet, she shops at Whole Foods...which *is* a corporation

Then there are the electronics snobs. Sorry, but I don't care that I can't surf the 'net on my phone, or watch videos on it. That's why I have a laptop--do you really think you can actually *enjoy* watching something on a phone's tiny screen? I'm not one of those people who has to be constantly entertained. I'm just as likely to be kicking back with a pile of books or sports car magazines.

[guywithashovel]

The former coworker I mentioned above is an electronics snob, too. She makes fun of people who "still use flipper phones."

[BookstoreEscapee]

I've never had a dishwasher, either. The house I just bought has one, but my dad is going to take it out and replace it with a cabinet he bought for me. We would have to hook up the plumbing for the dishwasher, since all the water lines were stolen while the house was vacant (copper theft). Personally, I think it'd be cool to have a dishwasher, just to see what it's like, but it's no big deal. Besides, it's just going to be me living there, so washing dishes myself shouldn't be too much of a deal.

In my old apartment I had a dishwasher in my tiny kitchen (one drawer, but I needed a dishwasher?). I mostly used it as a drying rack to save counter space. I'd wash the dishes by hand (it would probably take me a week to fill it enough to be worth running, and it didn't work that well anyway) and put the dishes in the washer and leave the door open a bit to dry. My parents have a dishwasher but when there are 3-4 people in the house it makes a lot more sense.

Or, "You're not having booze or dancing?? Well don't expect people to stay at the ceremony!"

Two of my college friends did not have alcohol at their weddings. One did not have dancing, either (her reception was at a park and there wasn't much space for a dance floor anyway). They didn't even have music the whole night (some family/friends played for them at the beginning but that was it). The food was simple (caterers were Mennonite; food included ham and macaroni and cheese and was delicious) and we all just sat around and visited. It was quite nice.

Lastly, the food tastes *exactly* the same. Amy is against buying anything from large chain stores. Yet, she shops at Whole Foods...which *is* a corporation

I'm reminded of the Penn and Teller Bullshit episode where they asked people to taste two pieces of various fruits and vegetables, one labeled organic and one regular, and say which was better. They always went for the "organic" piece. In each case the slices they were eating were cut from the exact same piece of produce - they cut it in half and put one half on each plate. And Whole Foods is very carefully marketed to give a certain impression. I can't remember where but I recently read an article on just that (might have been on Cracked).

[AdminAssistant]

Another variant on this type of douchebaggery are people who consider themselves better humans because they bike/walk/take public transit everywhere. I had a friend who would question me about why I drove to campus, when I lived "so close." Sorry, but a 30 minute hike uphill isn't 'close' when I can park across the street from my building for $200/year. Between the town and the college buses, there is a semi-decent public transit system, especially for a town of our size. But I'd still rather drive.

[Fire_on_High]

Then again, the entrance for the ceremony itself was Andrew Lloyd Webber from Aspects of Love. The timing couldn't have been more perfect for the size of our wedding party.

It's your wedding. Don't let anyone else try to tell you how to do it "right."

^-.-^

That is SO cool!

[SkullKing]

The former coworker I mentioned above is an electronics snob, too. She makes fun of people who "still use flipper phones."

might I inquire what is wrong with flipper phones?

I like them because they keep the screen protected when not in use.

[guywithashovel]

might I inquire what is wrong with flipper phones?

I like them because they keep the screen protected when not in use.

She thinks they're outdated, and that everyone should have smartphones now.

One time, she posted a Facebook status that said, "I just saw a woman with a flipper phone. Friends, if you still have one of these, you should really consider upgrading."

[AdminAssistant]

She does realize that not everyone can afford a $70/month data plan, right? Because that's my main reason for not updating. I could possibly afford the initial investment for an Android or something, but not the monthly fee.

[blas87]

I can't afford a fancy phone with internet and videos and whatnot. My phone is a slider for texting, but I'm on limited minutes and unlimited text. And that's fine with me. I can wait to go on Facebook until I get home.

I hate people who think just because they can afford a fancy new phone or car or whatever, everyone else should be able to. Or the best new athletic shoes.

And the public transit snobs. Yeah.....take the bus and take an hour to get to the mall, just to save the enviornment and some gas? I'd be paying in fare what I'd probably spend in gas. And I can smoke in my car and have my privacy and not be around weirdos, like the people I live by.

Or why I don't bike....hmm...I'd prefer to be closed in and have the doors locked, ya know, because I have a tendency to come home late at night sometimes on the weekends and I'd rather not be walking or biking, and busses don't go after 9:30 pm.

Don't forget, I work 15 miles away from home. No bike trails. Plus, wow....I'd be a mess and exhausted if I biked 15 miles to work and back, on top of having to work a 12 hour shift with psychopaths, bossy and moronic people that I have to deal with.