still being pushed into attending church

[KellyHabersham]

*I know I've made a post on this topic before, just needed to rant about it again because it kind of came up yesterday morning.*

The best way to explain it is that I'm still the only one of my siblings whom Mom pushes into attending church and getting involved with activities/committees there. (oddly enough, she seemed to pick up this attitude more after I got laid off from my job there)

Admittedly, some of this for me is because bell choir practice was moved to after services on Sunday, so I kind of "have" to attend, but I also doubt that Mom tries to guilt-trip either of my siblings into giving money to the church the way she does with me, or pitches a fit if they don't want to attend some meeting with her. (these being two examples of how I see her treating my siblings and I differently)

I did mention some of my feelings about this yesterday, and Mom's response was that I shouldn't feel like I'm the only one "forced" into doing church stuff, and that she's proud of me for being involved in some activities. Which did NOT make me feel better at all - not sure if this makes sense, but I kind of feel like I'm getting put into the role of an "old-maid, "church-lady" type, and that is NOT what I want my life to be.

[smileyeagle1021]

Sounds a bit like my mom, where she knows my experience in the church, but when she visits she'll pull a "I really should go to church even though I'm on vacation" and then acts all put off when I say "okay, I can drop you off, give me a call when you are ready to be picked up"
You want to go to church, that's your business, but please don't try to guilt me in going back to a church that point blank told me that the only thing worse than my failure to condemn gambling (hello, my k-12 education was paid for by the taxes paid by casinos, and in the case of my high school, direct donations from casinos, I can't exactly after all that condemn the people who made it possible for me to have a future) was the fact that I was gay and that was entirely incompatible with any of Christ's teachings. I'm never going back, so please stop playing games to try to trick me into walking through those doors again.

[Rageaholic]

I'm lucky I have open minded parents. I stopped going to church a few years ago and the only time I hear about going to church is in jest.

Still didn't stop them from trying to guilt me into attending Easter mass one year. How it would "really mean a lot to them". I called them out on the guilt trip, but they wouldn't admit that's what they were doing (even though it was obvious at the time). Fortunately, that was one of the few times I've ever experienced the power of religious guilt from them.